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first time leaving LO.....

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So my DH and I have a wedding to go to this Saturday. I am considering leaving DS overnight with my inlaws. The wedding is only about 25 minutes from our house but my DH has asked for a night just us. We both love our first son to absolute pieces but part of me thinks DH is right that we need a night to ourselves. My issue is he is only 7 1/2 weeks old...I feel like it makes me a bad mom even consider leaving him so early and selfish for considering leaving him to have time just DH. I know he will be perfectly fine with my inlaws and the absolute center of their attention. What are your thoughts and when was the first time you left your LO overnight?  Please dont judge me too harshly :(
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  • 618mom22boys618mom22boys member

    Overnight?  Not until DS2 was 15 months old and that was for our Honeymoon.   We don't plan on this LO staying overnight anywhere until he is about a year or he is weaned.   

    ETA:  Have fun!

    Another reason why we wait so long is because the only person we would leave them overnight with is 2 hours away.  SO it is kind of a pain. 

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  • kayteatrudeaukayteatrudeau
    Have fun! I would love a night away (we so need it) but I can't leave the baby. There is no one I trust for an overnight.
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  • amt627amt627 member
    I hear ya for feeling like a bad mom. I stay at home with my LO and anytime I go anywhere I feel like I should've stayed with him. Just last week my husband and I had TWO weddings. I was in one and my husband the other. That was my first night away and it happened to be the first night I didn't put him to bed myself and the next night we were out of town 2 hours away :( BUT DH is right. You do need time alone. It's good for the two of you. He needs your attention too. As hard as it will be, you WILL survive and your baby WILL be okay :) You obviously have trusting people watching him so I would take time to enjoy yourself. It took some persuading for me to realize that a happy mommy is a happy baby..and therefore I even needed to get away once in awhile. Enjoy yourself, it'll be fun!
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  • June2007June2007 member

    I wouldnt but to each their own. I figure that I have plenty of time for just DH and I when DD#2 is older. DD#1 didnt spend a night with out me until she was 14 months old and its not because of lack of options, my parents are amazing and I feel 100% safe with them.

     It doesnt make you a horrible mom either way, do what you feel comfortable with.

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  • rubredvelvetrubredvelvet member

    Go ahead! Mommy and Daddy are worthless unless they are well and rested.

    I know how you feel though - I feel like people make me feel so bad about myself letting my mom babysit. Its not that I dont love my daughter, but sometimes I just need a couple of hours to myself - even without my husband! Just plain old Sam time. 

     

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