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How much support to you pay or get?
I realize it's a personal thing for many but those who don't mind sharing, I'm just curious. Include how many kids, ages, and custody arrangement.
Me: we have skids every weekend (but ss has been refusing to come) and we have them every other holiday and 3 weeks in the summer. It's SS age 17 and SD age 13 and we pay $1300 a month to bmom.
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Re: How much support to you pay or get?
Since i've posted it before, i'm cool responding, but for a lot it's kinda like asking how much money a person makes at their job, it can be considered a "rude" question KWIM?
We have every other Friday 50/50 custody with the "off" parent getting one dinner date per week. We pay no CS, but DH pays all daycare, medical, dental, and any school expenses. If BM is short on cash and there is something SD needs, we buy and provide the item.
A lot. Make it a clicky poll and you will get more responses.
We are supposed to have another CS review in November (not sure why...), but anyway.
DH is the primary custodian for SD, 4yo. Visitation is 50/50. No one pays CS. We cover all medical expenses, health, dental, vision, and school. BM is supposed to cover all extracurricular activities.
Like I said.... supposed to.
Prior to DD BF dying, he was ordered to pay 259 per month (not that he paid it). He had her every other weekend.
In the 800 range for two SS's, ages 10 & 9. Plus medical. CO is EOW, 4 weeks in the summer, and every other holiday.
I'm the CP of my 5-year old. ExH sees him 5/6 times per year for as little as a weekend or as long as two weeks (Xmas, for example).
I get $914/month. $800 of it is CS and $114 goes into his 529 for college.
We have full custody of three kids (two step kids, plus their half sister).
BM has visitations every other weekend.
We get no child support.
WOW! That is fabulous that they had a portion go into a 529. I wish that happened in our case.
For those who said a clicky is better, I couldn't easily think of a way to do it as the amount greatly depends on the # of kids and custodial arrangements. I just figure if people don't want to post it, they won't.
I have two step kids (8 &10). We get them whenever their bio-mom feels like it :-/
Usually works out to about one extended weekend every few months, some holidays and we're supposed to get them for the whole summer (but we didn't have them at all last summer and we only got them for 2 weeks this summer)
We pay $750 a month, plus all medical, dental and most their clothes & shoes.
I'm the BM of 13yr old DD and 10 yr old DS. DD hasn't seen BF in nearly 5 years, DS hasn't seen him in over 1 year. I have a CO for 701/month. Also $100 per month goes to his arrears balance.
We have primary custody of SD8 M-F. BM gets SD every weekend and xmas break/spring break/1 week in summer usually. We do the court ordered holiday thing. We get 0$ child support. All child care is split. Health insurance is under me..I'm a teacher and have good coverage, yet it still pi$$es me off b/c I think BM should be responsible for something besides being the "glitter fart" parent who takes the kid roller skating/bowling/to parties/to amusement parks EVERY WEEKEND, yet has her dressed like a hood rat for school and she can't handle looking in the kid's bookbag....ughhhh don't get me started! haha
And funny thing is...BM has it so easy and is currently trying to get primary of SD (BM wants to switch roles w/ us)...she has a new BF and we are assuming is telling him lies and she's trying to impress him. Funny part about it, if she got primary, dumb biatch would want child support, no doubt about it. Too bad she doesn't have a shot, IMO!
My DH used to pay $500 a month until SS was 10 (2004) and he started living with us.
BM pays $0 but sends him $200 for Christmas every year.
When SS was living with her for the school year of 2008 - we sent him $250 a month.
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Visitation is EOW, alternating holidays, and supposed to be 2 weeks during the summer and 1 week at Christmas (though we don't usually get all of those due to us having to work). DH provides primary health insurance, and all extra medical costs are split 50/50. He is also required to keep an insurance policy with SD as the beneficiary in a specific amount.
He pays $480/month. (23% of his gross income) BM is unemployed, and has been since she found out she was pregnant with SD. She is now remarried with another child and refuses to work. The law has changed since the order was put in place, our state now calculates unemployed parents at the rate they COULD be earning, if they had a job. She dropped out of high school and has no technical skills so she would now be calculated at minimum wage, however, we don't really want to go through the time and expense of trying to get it changed, especially since we don't really know how much it would change the order.