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tips for crying at preschool drop off...
Preschool starts next week for my 3 year old....and he is a TOTAL mama's boy. He's going 2 days a week, which I'm regretting because its not enough to get into a real routine.....gah.
Today I had to go into the office for 2 hours, so our old nanny (hasn't been with us in over a year) came over to watch him, and he cried the entire 2 hours, and wouldn't come out of his room. And she's experienced with kids crying as she was at a daycare before she was our nanny...so I know she was trying.
Next week is going to be crazy. DH is taking him the first day for sure, but it doesn't really work in his schedule to take him every day....once a week is all that would work.
I know short and sweet goodbyes are better to avoid prolonging and building up the tears.....but what else.
Is bribery bad? "no tears today and we will go to the park!"
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Re: tips for crying at preschool drop off...
I have had the same issue with DD who turned 3 last week. Today was her frist day. She told me to leave, she was too busy with her new friends. I wanted to cry. They said she didn't have one tear drop about me leaving. I talked up school and her being a big girl for the past few weeks. Iguess the excitement of school over took the sadness of Mommy being gone.
Good luck.
Our pre-school doesn't let you stay to comfort them.
They ask that we leave and they will calm the child.
The only advice I can give:
1. If they have an open house or "meet the teacher" before school starts be sure to go. I spent an hour in the class room with my child while we met the teachers. The result was that on the first day he couldn't wait to go play with the cinnamon scented play-doh.
2. Spend as much time as possible building school up as a super cool experience for big kids. By the time school actually started Dylan was chomping at the bit because we'd talked about how he would "get" to go starting at the end of summer.
Lots of smiles Momma! Even if/when the tears fall. This is a good thing for him. It's a fun place to be. Say it over and over again until you both believe it!
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
DD would cry most mornings when I dropped her off at school. Now, she doesn't cry at all. What worked was lots and lots and LOTS of talking. Explaining over and over again that no matter what she was going to school and that it was OK to be sad about it but falling out crying wasn't going to solve anything. (She would break out into a full on tantrum at times and it was THE worst!) But, the more she did it, the easier it got. It took some time and some help from the teacher but now, drop offs are a cinch! And we've switched schools since all of that happened and she still doesn't cry.
If you do try "bribery" use it in the form of a reward chart. This worked with DD as well. Tell him something like "Each morning you don't cry when we get to school, you'll get a star. And after 5 stars, we'll get a special treat!" Be specific with the treats and use it as a tool to get the behavior you want from your son; if he responds well to it, drop offs will become a breeze! GL!
This always helped with my DS too. If it was breakfast time, it was/is a lot easier for him to see me go.
I'd also suggest what some PP have said, and talk it up big time beforehand. Let him know that you are not going to be going off and having any fun without him (you're going to work or whatnot), and that he is going to be the one having all the fun at school.
DS loves the playground at school, so we talk about the fact that he gets to do that at school (or whatever he may like the best). We also sometimes do a rundown of his day ahead. "We'll go to school, eat breakfast, have fun, play with friends. Then after you eat lunch and take a nap, Mommy will be there before you know it!"