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In the waiting room...(poll of sorts)
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Inspired by a post on IF, I got to wondering....
Would you be weirded out if someone in the RE's waiting room struck up a conversation with you? I always look around at the people in there and wonder what their history is, what they are in for that day, whether they are any of you, etc.
So would you give me the side eye if I started talking to you while we waited for our various tests/procedures?
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Re: In the waiting room...(poll of sorts)
This exactly.
DX: High FSH/DOR
It took 44 cycles, just over 3 years, 6 failed IUI's in MI, and 1 round of IVF at CCRM to get our BFP!
Beta #1 (9dp5dt) = 206, Beta #2 (11dp5dt) = 438
1st u/s @ 6w5d = 11/11/11 = ONE little bean! HB 120bpm!
?Our Baby Boy Born June 26th, 2012?
The cats out of the bag about DH and I seeing our RE b/c we ran into DH's 1st cousin yesterday with his aunt and they had a very loud convo about her treatments and they questioned our plan. They had no idea we were trying and we are not very close with them.
I wouldn't mind discretly talking to strangers! But family! Ugg.. I was mortified!
Annovulation/Amenorrhea/Mild Endo Scarring
10 Cycles with Femera/Bravelle, even Clomid 1x + Ovidrel + IUI + Crinone = 10 BFNs
4/2011 Bravelle + Ovidrel + IUI + Crinone + HOPE = 1st BFP EDD 01/21/12
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. - Teddy Roosevelt
My RE just built a brand-spankin-new office that they are moving into on Sept 24 and from what I hear, the waiting room is much smaller than the one in the current office. Right now everyone spreads out but maybe if we're all forced to sit together, we can get some good conversations started
IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
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TTC #1 Since 2/2008
Dx: Hyperprolactinemia and Unexplained
Parlodel 2.5 mg (1 Tab M,W,F; 1/2 tab the other days); Folic Acid; Prenatals
All 5 Clomid cylces resulted in BFN; no more Clomid.
Laparoscopy Scheduled 1/11/11: Path report showed minor inflammation and infection.
3/30/11 Biopsy results: cervial and endometrial pathologies normal; one pathology came back abnormal with 5 rare cells from the endometritis
Cycles 1-5 of Follistim, Novarel, Progesterone = BFN
Surprise BFP 11/18/11
Beta #1 208, p4 7.4; Beta #2 1846.20, p4 16.1
u/s #1 12/2/11 Heart rate 126 bpm measuring at 3mm
TTC #1 Since 2/2008
Dx: Hyperprolactinemia and Unexplained
Parlodel 2.5 mg (1 Tab M,W,F; 1/2 tab the other days); Folic Acid; Prenatals
All 5 Clomid cylces resulted in BFN; no more Clomid.
Laparoscopy Scheduled 1/11/11: Path report showed minor inflammation and infection.
3/30/11 Biopsy results: cervial and endometrial pathologies normal; one pathology came back abnormal with 5 rare cells from the endometritis
Cycles 1-5 of Follistim, Novarel, Progesterone = BFN
Surprise BFP 11/18/11
Beta #1 208, p4 7.4; Beta #2 1846.20, p4 16.1
u/s #1 12/2/11 Heart rate 126 bpm measuring at 3mm
This!
Gym - your right - no one ever talks in the waiting room there. I wouldn't mind of someone talked to me, but I will admit I have never tried to talk to anyone. Everyone always looks like they feel uncomfortable to be there and not very approachable. Maybe it's the nature of the RE office. Although, I don't think I am very social at any dr office waiting room.
It's interesting to me that the new office at our RE will have a smaller waiting room - you'd think since it was new it would be as big as the current one. Oh well, maybe you are right - maybe a cozier feel will make starting a conversation easier.
Haha, Nova! This is so me too!! I was in major traffic today on my way back from my appointment and I read my book for the entire 30 minutes it took me to drive 4 miles. Total book nerd here.
Last cycle my early morning u/s appoinments were always right behind the same women. We were the only people there and started talking mostly, about the drive up and weekend plans etc. The office I get my u/s and b/w is a satelite office and not very busy.
When we went up to thebusier main office for the IUI I definitely wondered what each couple was in for.
Lol, I always read whenever I can, but some reason I've slowed down a lot since I got laid off.
I don't think I'd really mind it if somebody approached me in the waiting room but I think it's only because I'm so used to talking about IF here. I'm not sure I'd be so open to it otherwise though, but I'm usually a private person.
Have you seen the new building yet? Holy crap is it nice looking!! Yeah, weird that the waiting room would be smaller but the current one is pretty ginormous so maybe they were thinking they had better uses of space?
LOL everytime I am in the RE's waiting room I always think of the Friends episode where Monica and Chandler meet some of Phoebe's friends who adopted a kid and Chandler says "well there are a lot of malfunctioning weewee's and hoohoo's in this room huh?"
Even though I am super curious why everyone is there and what steps they are on I am not sure if I would feel completely comfortable talking to a complete stranger. Maybe after I saw them there more than once?
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DS born 12/14/11
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IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
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IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer
Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
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I always get the first appointment of the day. So, there usually isn't anyone waiting while I am waiting (which isn't long)...
I would normally be up to speaking with someone in the waiting room at my REs office.
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IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
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IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
I think it would depend on the day/my mood/what I am waiting for.
I found myself checking out the other couples as well. I couldn't help but think, "If I saw you walking down the street I'd never know you had IF.". As if there's some kind of secret handshake or a 'spidey sense' of sorts...
June/July 2011 - IVF #1 - Transfer cancelled due to OHSS
23 perfect embryos. All 23 made it to freezing!
September/October - FET #1 - October 12th - 2 Grade A embies
October 20th - BFP??! EDD - July 1, 2012
Beta #1 = 154, Beta #2 = 352 Beta #3 = 3,800
U/S #2 - November 14th = 133 bpm! U/S #3 & 4 - November 30th and December 7th = 163 bpm! U/S#5 - January 30th - TEAM PINK!!!
Baby Sweets born on her due date!
This! Like today was my first RE visit, and I was pretty nervous and upset. But under other circumstances I would love to chat with people and hear their stories.
Maybe it would depend if it was just small talk or what.
I did have my first baby at the REs office experience when I was in for my last IUI. There was a couple there with a little girl that was probably about 10 months old. She was toddling all over the place and walked over and handed me the book she had with her. While it was very cute, I had to hold back tears.
I was wondering the whole time what they were doing there. Getting ready to try for #2 I guess.
Me: PCOS, Blood/Immune Issues DH: Low all 3
Jun.- Sep. 2010 IUI#1-#3 = BFN
Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
Sep. 2011 = Surprise BFP = C/P
Feb. 2012 = sFET #1 = BFN
Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
April/May 2012 = FET #2 w/our last two embies = BFP (Please let this be it!)
Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
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I would not mind at all, as a matter of fact I think it would feel somewhat comforting. Everyone stresses in their own way while waiting out there, for me a little small talk would be great.
You want to chat with me next time before my appt Gymnast?
this!
I would love to!!
My RE has virtually no waiting time, so I wouldn't get a chance to anyway
I think it would depend on my mood, but I am less likely to strike up a convo. I would gladly respond though if someone talked to me.
(((hugs)))
I agree. I guess it depends on how I ( or the other person) starts off the conversation as well as the tone. Most women at my RE's office, though, have their DHs with them ( mine never goes). So, it'd be tough to talk to them when I'm running solo.
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Aww.. unfortunately it'd be a long drive from DC to Pittsburgh. Dang it.
It took 5 failed IUIs and a failed IVF, but our FET worked!
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When I was there on Mon, I was walking out as another woman was walking in. She asked me if it was a good appt or not. I was a little caught off guard but just said, "I hope so, but we'll see!" She wished me good luck and we went our separate ways. Now that I think about it, it was nice that she even asked. We all know why we're there anyway, why not offer some kind words to strangers?
Agreed! I h-a-t-e how quiet our waiting room is. Maybe because I'm always there at the crack of dawn, other patients haven't had their coffee yet? :-)
BFP#1 - 9/2/10, EDD 5/14/11, Twins Hannah and Liam lost 11/7/10 @ 13w1d.
BFP #2 - 2/9/11, EDD 10/13/11, LO lost 2/13/11 @ 5w4d
BFP #3 - 5/9/11, DS born 1/13/12
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