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What are the positive things about having a boy?
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I just found out I am officially team blue. I was kind of hoping for a girl because I thought I would be easier for me. (I helped raise my two sisters.) Now I am scared. I have no idea how to raise a little man. What are some of the good things about having a boy? What do I have to look forward to?
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Re: What are the positive things about having a boy?
I was hoping for a boy b.c I had much younger brothers and boys I can handle.
Things about boys:
They get the fun toys like trucks and action heroes
They tend to be more adventurous and not afraid to get dirty
They have a close bond with their moms, and it seems they don't get that "I hate my mom" thing when they are teens like girls do...I don't know any girls that were close with their moms in HS.
You don't have to worry about them getting pregnant! lol, just tell them to use condoms.
You'll save money on shopping extravaganzas
Boys care less about looks
MIL has boys and girls and says the boys were so much easier. Less drama, less smart mouthiness as teens, less emphasis on expensive clothes and vacations and toys, and are still easier to get along with, even in their 20s and 30s.
LOL at some of the PPs though!
Like pp, less drama, 'most' don't care about getting dirty, clothes, make-up, etc.
As an added bonus, I've already informed DH that if this one is a boy, it's all him for potty-training. I just don't have the right equipment. Ought to be interesting
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LMAO. I love this! This boy business is sounding better and better. I knew I just needed to hear some good things to start getting excited about having a boy.
My thoughts exactly! ha ha!
When I see those girls on 16 and pregnant, it makes me shiver...
My thoughts exactly! ha ha!
My thoughts exactly! ha ha!
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Boys clothes are also cheaper. My DD is almost 9 and a fashion and drama queen. My son is 6.5 and could care less what he wears. I am so glad that they wear uniforms to school. Makes shopping much easier.
But seriously on my comment about the penises, everytime my DD mentions boys I cringe. I am not looking forward to the teenage years. Her attitude has already started!
Lurkning from 3rd tri...
I have a soon-to-be 3 yr old boy and another coming in November. I was hoping for a girl this time but I realized there are a lot of pros to having boys
-they like to play around and don't mind getting dirty
-they take care of bugs for Mommy
-I will always have someone to take the dog out/mow the grass
-DH is on perpetual bathroom duty when we are out of the house
-I've heard that they are just generally easier to raise because they are less moody, etc.
-they don't care as much about having the newest toys, clothes, etc...
Plus, if you end up having another child (boy or girl) they will have a big brother and I always wished I had one!
For the first 2 years or so, the only difference is the clothes you buy. They're all babies & toddlers and have such different personalities, girl or boy.
Maybe my DS is the exception, but he's totally picky about his clothes and shoes already! If he wants to wear his orange shoes and I pull out his blue play shoes, oh boy do things get ugly! :-)
Congrats on your boy!
I can say, as a mom of 2 little boys, they are wonderful. I'm sure girls are too of course....But boys are all I know at this point! Here's my thing: Babies are babies! You will quickly get the hang of having of boy and all of the fun stuff that comes along with them. But my favorite thing is that I can throw them in cute shorts and a polo shirt and they look adorable. You don't have to comb endless tangles out of their hair or worry about them screaming as you are trying to 'style' it. They are rough, tough and don't mind getting dirty.
There's nothing like the relationship between mother and son. Becoming a "boy mom" or a "girl mom" comes completely natural, and you will be surprised at how easy you adapt to that way of thinking. I can't imagine my life without my son in it.
One of my biggest worries about raising a daughter is all of the pressure to be a role model for her and to show her how to be a good wife, friend, mother. As daughters, we learn so much from our moms. And that means the details, like having good close relationships with other females, and how to be strong and independent, and how to express ourselves emotionally in a healthy way. Being a woman is hard, dude.
I feel blessed that I don't necessarily have the same exact worries as I do about my daughter. But I know that I am responsible for raising him to know what to look for in his wife. And that's what makes me want to be a better mom every day to both of my children.
Someone wise once told me "When you have a boy, you only have to worry about ONE penis, when you have a girl you have to worry about ALL the penises." lol.
No really though, boys are a BLAST!!
they get fun toys
they're independent
most importantly: there's less drama!!! Girls are catty... boys just fight with each other and forget about it. granted, there's usually more physical violence, but with the right techniques & discipline that's not really an issue either.
I'm sure this has been said in above posts.
- They are not dramatic as girls are.
- As they get older, they don't care as much if they are wearing what the latest fashion is so they will not spend 20 minutes crying in the morning fearful that a plain t-shirt is not fashionable enough.
- Boys when their friends get in little fights, it gets done and over with before they bat an eye.
- Boys are fun to play with and you can play rough with them a little more.
- They love to get dirty and that is okay.
- Less hair to manage every morning, no bows.
I gotta admit I'm kinda laughing all the sterotyping as well, lol.
But your 2nd thought made me think about a senior boy shoot I did a few weeks ago. I was having him lean against a tree (ya know classic senior pose, lol) and he saw a big black ant and screamed (not even kidding you) and ran away from the tree. I was actually speechless. It was an ant. lol.
AMEN!
You literally took the words right out of my mouth!
I agree with the other stereotypes except this one... my 5yo couldn't care less about drama. my 5yo female cousin and her friends, on the other hand are the cattiest, cruelest things on 2 legs.
Each case is individual, is probably what we should be telling OP.
It is possible to have a drama-free boy, or a drama-filled boy.
There are generalizations, but for the most part, its based on how you handle your child.
This. I don't really totally understand this worry. OP, you are going to be fine. Babies are babies. As fun as it is to find out the gender beforehand, it can't tell us a single thing about what our sons will actually be like, or as he grows up. Every child has a unique personality and interests from every other, and that has nothing to do with their sex.
Personally, that is what I find so exciting. I have no idea what he'll be like, but I look forward to finding out and just being the best parent I can,supporting him no matter what- gay, straight, athlete, nerd, musician, artist, whatever. He's my kid, and I love him..
You will too. Don't stress over this.
This exactly! My DS is such a snuggler. Every morning we cuddle on the couch while I drink my coffee and DS drinks his apple juice. It's my favorite part of the day.
This made me tear up a little. I love this.
Thanks to everyone for all of the responses. I feel so much better. I am totally in love with my son and looking forward to raising him.
Thank you. I do not even belong here. I found all these answers irritating and ignorant. I have a 5 year old girl and a 4 year old boy. They both get dirty and play with the same toys. The boy cares more about clothes than his sister. She is sweet and easy going. He is focused and can be moody. I love them both.
Seriously people stop labeling your babies. They are not even here yet.
Well put. Each child is an individual with their own likes and dislikes, style of approaching things and people. Yes, boys are girls often are different n terms of development and preferences. But, one child's "boy style" may be VERY different from another. Not all boys will want to play football or roll in the mud, some will want to sing or draw. That isn't any less "boy". Not all girls will like pink and want to wear dresses. Some will adore bugs and beg you to let them join the football team. That isn't any less "girl".
OP--What am I looking forward to with a boy? That he will be my son! That I get to navigate life with him and help him be the best person he can be based on who he is and what his passions, dreams, goals, fears, and struggles are. Same thing I'd say with a girl. You will be just fine with your little guy and will find things that you have in common and that you don't.
A little off topic, but relates to all of the stereotyping: DH and I have been stunned by all of the gender stereotyping on baby clothes with "Lil' Slugger" and "Champion" on boy clothes versus "Cutie" and "Princess" on girls clothes. Are the clothes cute--sure. But really, is a boy any less cute than a girl? Is a baby boy any more or less a 'champion' than a baby girl?
More Green For Less Green
THIS!!! My son is so protective of me all the time. He is 11 but man, he notices everything and everyone around me and if they are staring. He thinks I am the coolest thing ever since I am a law enforcement officer. I get to take him shooting and he's not scared to try new things!!!
I agree, it comes down to parenting. I wonder at times though just because I have 3 nieces that are a handful and a half. When my sister calls I hang up half way through our conversation because I can hear the girls fighting in the background. My best friends daughter Zoe has more attitude than the federal agents I work with especially when she doesn't get her way and she starts with the rolling of the eyes. I have a good friend whose daughter had attitude when she was young and just OD'd on meth two weeks ago. I also have a good friend who's daughter is only 2 years older than my son but is years above him in maturity. Again, these are just the examples I have to go off of and I am hoping that I am a good parent to my daughter when she is born so that nobody will ever have to write about her.
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this post offends me. I have a daughter and a son and I am pregnant with my third baby and I do not give two craps if it is a boy or a girl and neither should you. babies are miracles and healthy children are truly a gift from God and to say you were hoping for a girl pisses me off. I lost my last baby 3 months into my pregnancy and I am just so grateful to be pregnant PERIOD that I can't fathom people voicing opinions about gender preference. I didn't know anything about raising a girl or a boy until I had them and now I am a mom to both and you figure stuff out as you go along. So will you. Be grateful you are having a healthy pregnancy.
BTW- little boys are the most wonderful little people and no one loves their mommy like a son does. Congratulations on being so lucky to get to have a son.
Sorry, but my feelings are my own and I am entitled to them. I don't have to feel a certain way because some unknown stranger has experienced heartache. I am very sorry for your loss, honestly. However, you don't know me, you don't know my life. Just because I haven't had a miscarriage doesn't mean I haven't faced adversity. Honestly, you can really use any tragedy as a reason to tell people they should appreciate what they have. I never said I was ungrateful for my healthy and gorgeous son. I never said I didn't want him. I already love him with all my heart. I was just worried that I have very little experience with boys.
I am really appreciative of all the people that posted on here. I feel like I have so many things to look forward to. Right or wrong I needed to adjust to the idea of having a boy and this post really truly helped me. I am really excited about having my son.