NTTCAL- WWYD?

TrickyLittleMinx · August 2010

So I currently work with DH.. My hours are really flexible - the pay is Sh!t. I love the flexibility of my hours.. I applied for this new job and have a job interview today at 12.. I dont know what to do. The hours there are much different then now.. The commute it 20 minutes longer. I really like it here, but dont want to ask for a raise, but i also dont want to feel like im depending on DH and his company. Its weird I know, but I dont know what to do!

WWYD?

damabo80 · August 2010

A bit confused....do you and DH happen to work at the same company, or do you work for DH?

I would go to the interview...it's always good to refresh the interview skills and just see what else is out there.

But then if you get offered the job, you'll need to figure out how much flexible time is worth to you.

Also, if pay is the only thing that is spurring you to explore other opportunities, why is asking for a raise out of the question? I would think that employers would want to retain current talent, and may be willing to pay more for it.

TrickyLittleMinx · August 2010

damabo80:

A bit confused....do you and DH happen to work at the same company, or do you work for DH?

I would go to the interview...it's always good to refresh the interview skills and just see what else is out there.

But then if you get offered the job, you'll need to figure out how much flexible time is worth to you.

Also, if pay is the only thing that is spurring you to explore other opportunities, why is asking for a raise out of the question? I would think that employers would want to retain current talent, and may be willing to pay more for it.

I work for DH's family business... (sorry my brain is going a million miles a minute right now)

I like being home at night and i love my weekends.. So this job really isn't THAT different.. My hours now are 8-430 which i love.. but with this job it would be 9-5 M-T and 9-6 on Fridays. I hate being home late on Fridays. I dont know its just something i've never had to do before.

I dont want to ask DH for a raise because basically he thinks that just because i dont make much now - i will reap the benefits in the end. Basically stating that once the company gets in a better financial position He could have a raise and I could quit.

I started working for DH because i had lost my other job and we were planning on TTC. - so much for that.

Aubs13 · August 2010

I say go for the interview. You don't have to take the job in the end if you don't want to, but it could open a new door that was "meant to be".

Good luck on the interview! Let us know how it goes!

itsmegin · August 2010

My perspective is probably a little different than most people. I quit a very stressful, desirable job with very long hours about a year ago because I wanted to be home, working flexible hours, so that I could be less stressed and take care of DH.

I am really old-fashioned and it turns out that we are both infinitely happier with me home even though I'm making less money. I'm not stressed, I cook and clean and do everything around the house so DH doesn't have to worry and can just relax with me when he gets home. It's improved our marriage so much that I am grateful everyday I decided to quit, rather than go for the promotion that opened up at the same time that I left.

Your situation may be different, but in my opinion and from my experience, it sounds like you've got a good thing going with your current job. There's nothing wrong with "depending on DH and his company." You're married, it's normal for you two to depend on and support each other both emotionally and financially.

All that said, I would still go to the interview, just to see what the job has to offer, and if they give you an offer you might feel more empowered to ask for a raise and get it, then you can have all that you love with your current job + more money.

TrickyLittleMinx · August 2010

itsmegin:

My perspective is probably a little different than most people. I quit a very stressful, desirable job with very long hours about a year ago because I wanted to be home, working flexible hours, so that I could be less stressed and take care of DH.

I am really old-fashioned and it turns out that we are both infinitely happier with me home even though I'm making less money. I'm not stressed, I cook and clean and do everything around the house so DH doesn't have to worry and can just relax with me when he gets home. It's improved our marriage so much that I am grateful everyday I decided to quit, rather than go for the promotion that opened up at the same time that I left.

Your situation may be different, but in my opinion and from my experience, it sounds like you've got a good thing going with your current job. There's nothing wrong with "depending on DH and his company." You're married, it's normal for you two to depend on and support each other both emotionally and financially.

All that said, I would still go to the interview, just to see what the job has to offer, and if they give you an offer you might feel more empowered to ask for a raise and get it, then you can have all that you love with your current job + more money.

I think i love you!!! lol.

Thank you!

stillbaking · August 2010

I would still go to the interview - you really have nothing to lose by testing the waters. But like the other posters have mentioned - never underestimate the value of flexible working hours - they can be a wonderful, wonderful thing, so much more valuable than $$$.

I'm starting to look into opportunities that will allow me to work from home in the near future. For now, I want to stay where I am while we TTC because the Maternity benefits are unbelievable. But eventually, I'd love to have the flexibility working from home provides, even if the pay isn't as good.

pennynjon · August 2010

I would probably go to the interview. Then maybe you can get a better feel for what the job will be like and decide if it is something you want to do.

awesome-sauce · August 2010

I was working 8:30-5 up until April of this year. (At this company for the last 4 years.) Due to changes within the company, I was "promoted" to a job that I already knew and it was an easy transition. I didn't have much choice as my old position was done away with. (Even though I still do a lot of the work, plus my new.)

I now work 7a-5p with an hour commute either way. I MISS MY OLD SCHEDULE! Just think about that. My old one was more flexible as far as time off or moving around times if I had an appt.

Even though I make more $$, sometimes it's just not worth it. Sad

IF that position ever opens back up, I would definitely look into applying for it. (That was an option when I was offered this.)

That being said, assuming that you have been there for a good amount of time, do all your work, plus going above and beyond, I would think it's ok for you to ask for a raise.

(My husband works for his parents company, so I get the fam business side of it. But if you do the work and go above and beyond, you should be paid for that. Otherwise, just do your normal duties you were hired for. Hopefully that makes sense.)

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