Trouble TTC
TTC since June 2009
Nov. 2009: Lap, diagnosed mild endo
April 2010: SA, 4% morph
Aug 2010: IUI #1: BFN,
Sept 2010:IUI #2: BFN,
Oct 2010: IUI #3: BFN,
Nov 2010: IUI #4: BFN,
Dec 2010: IUI #5: BFN,
March 2012: IVF w/ ICSI #1: BFN,
May 2012: IVF w/ ICSI #2: Beta#1:19, Beta#2:9 ,chemical pregnancy,
July 2012: FET: 2 4BB Embryos 5DT: 8/2 HPT: BFP, Beta 8/13: 80
Im so sick of hearing....
I know for me I get really tired of hearing people saying certain things to me when they are not having tttc and they dont understand anything im going through. A couple of the most annoying things are:
"Everything happens for a reason"
"It will happen when the time is right"
"Your thinking too much about it"
"Do you feel any different? Do you feel pregnant?" (after IUI)
What do you hate to hear?
TTC since June 2009
Nov. 2009: Lap, diagnosed mild endo
April 2010: SA, 4% morph
Aug 2010: IUI #1: BFN,
Sept 2010:IUI #2: BFN,
Oct 2010: IUI #3: BFN,
Nov 2010: IUI #4: BFN,
Dec 2010: IUI #5: BFN,
March 2012: IVF w/ ICSI #1: BFN,
May 2012: IVF w/ ICSI #2: Beta#1:19, Beta#2:9 ,chemical pregnancy,
July 2012: FET: 2 4BB Embryos 5DT: 8/2 HPT: BFP, Beta 8/13: 80This discussion has been closed.
Re: Im so sick of hearing....
I hate hearing...
"You are young and have plenty of time"
"Maybe if you just time it right it will happen" I want to scream, "Oh yes OPK Tests in conjunction with ultrasounds monitoring my follicles and perfectly timing IUIs won't work but timing it right with intercourse will do the trick."
Yep. All of these. Bleh.
Yep hate hearing these too.
Oh yeah and my mom "Well I don't understand why your having problems no one else in the family had problems." Gee mom thanks that helps so much.
Or "Well you know it took my husband and I 11 months to get pregnant." Thanks they say it takes the average couple a year so glad you?re in the average I'm not!!!
TTC Since 2/2009
2/2010 - 5/2010 Testing with OBGYN
8/2010 First RE Appointment
11/2010 Second Opinion RE Appointment
12/2010 Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
1/2011 Clomid + IUI #2 = BFN
2/2011 Clomid + IUI #3 = BFN
5/2011 IVF #1, ET 6/2, Beta 6/15 = BFN
8/2011 FET ET 9/12 = BFN :0(
On a break to save money.
1/2012 IVF #2 ER 1/12, ET 1/15, Beta 1/27 = BFFN
4/2012 FET ET ??/?? =
p/saif welcome
I hate when people who know we're trying say: "Do you wish you had started trying sooner?" or "Well, at least you're on the sunnyside of 40." Ugh. Women and Age...toxic combination.
I also hate when people make comments about us going to a RE and using fertility treatments...like..."Are you worried about ending up like Kate plus 8?" I think most people think fertility treatment is like going to the candy store...I wish more people knew everything that is involved!
All of the above!
Plus I hate: "Oh just borrow one of my kids, you'll soon change your mind about wanting one". Err, ok, thanks. I'm going through all this because I'm not really sure I want a baby.
Another one I've had (twice) from a friend with an ooops pregnancy: "Have you really been trying all this time? I mean, REALLY trying?" Ohhh, I get it, I've been doing it wrong, thanks for letting me know.
Jan to April 2010 - Clomid - All BFN
June 2010 - IVF - BFN
Oct 2010 - FET #1 - BFN
Dec 2010 - endometrial biopsy
Jan 2011 - Surprise BFP! - m/c at 6w5d
March 2011 - FET #2. Thawed 11 Day 1 embryos; 5 'exploded' / possible lab error?
ET 4/2/11 transferred 1 blast & 1 morula
Beta#1 10dp5dt =81; Beta#2 12dp5dt =222 Beta#3 16dp5dt =1337
It's a BOY!!!
I heard this on Sunday:
"Oh, I know a girl who'd be trying for 5 years, then she all of a sudden got pregnant. It'll happen, hun."
Ok, great - so nevermind that it's been 1 year for me - maybe it'll happen in 5 years like your friend. All-of-a-sudden! Poof!
Yippy-do-dah.
I agree with all of the above.
I also hate it when I look tired or am not feeling well, people always ask me if I'm pregnant. When I say no, that I have a headach or whatever, they start smiling and asking me when I last took a pregnancy test, etc. Excuse me, but is that really any of your business???? And trust me, I would know if I was pregnant. Grrr...
Lets see...so now people have started to ask when we will try, i tell them actually we are. They respond with, like really trying or just thinking about it???? So i say, no we are actively trying. Then they love to say just relax, or it'll happen when you least expect it, or don't stress it'll happen when you're not stressed. Depending on the person i tell them that i am seeing an RE for IF treatments and then they either shut up or are intersted and i tell them that it is stressful, it wont happen naturally, i cant relax, it will happen when the right combination of medication works and no it is not going to happen because he left his socks on, i stood on my head or got a dog!!!
(i kid you not, these are things i have been told!)
You're young! You have time!
I can't help but take that as an insult. As if it's too early or weird to want to grow your family after 5 years of marriage.(Almost 10 years together)
I'm don't think I'm impatient. It's not that I want to be pregnant right now.
Unless someone can see the future and tell me 100% that I actually do end up having a child that would really take the pressure off this whole "you have time" issue.
IVF #1: 4-11-11= Transferred 1 beautiful blastocyst I named "Nugget"
5 Snowbabies! Beta#1 4/21= BFP! 226; Beta#2 4/25= 944
DS born 12/14/11
Baby #2 FET Nov/Dec 2013
12/13 Beta#1=BFP 349; 12/16 Beta#2=1,089. First ultrasound 12/26. DS#2 born 8/8/14
~~PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome~~
Rous27: Re: Surrogacy
I've had two people offer that to me now. I just don't know how to take it. I'm semi-flattered that they are excited for me to be a mother someday - yet, I can't help but be somewhat offended (as you said so well) "she was more suitable for the job."
Well clearly this has been my problem all along! I refuse to let DH keep his socks on! (just a weird thing of mine...).
I agree with everything that's been said so far. The hardest for me is when family wants to know when we're going to have kids. No one knows that we've been trying. They are a very nosy although well meaning family and we just thought it would be easier not to tell them.
TTC #1 since 2009 with unexplained infertility
IUI#1-4 Jan.-Apr. 2011 = BFNs
IVF#1 Aug. 2011 = c/p, FET #1 Nov. 2011 = c/p, FET #2 April 2012 = BFP!
Beta #1 = 153, Beta #2 = 269, Beta #3 = 675
1st U/S = TWINS!! EDD 12/29/12
my blog: Journey to Somewhere
~~PAIFW/SAIFW~~
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All of these things have been said to me a time or too. Thankfully I've not told my Mom and Dad about TTC...cause God only knows what they would say.....I don't even want to think about it.
My friend that had a baby "by accident"....is a first timer and her baby is crazy and Mom gets all crazy and always says to Me and the DH "just you guys wait and see"......If I hear it one more time.......The same Mom always says to me....it will happenfor you, I know it.
Yup somedays you just wanna pop somebody!!!!
5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
Fibroid removal Nov2010
IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty
These drive me crazy:
"Relax. Stress will keep you from getting pregnant."
"Practice makes perfect...and it's so fun."
"Maybe you aren't really ready. When you are ready it will happen."
BFP#1 - 9/2/10, EDD 5/14/11, Twins Hannah and Liam lost 11/7/10 @ 13w1d.
BFP #2 - 2/9/11, EDD 10/13/11, LO lost 2/13/11 @ 5w4d
BFP #3 - 5/9/11, DS born 1/13/12
~*~My BFP Chart~*~Our Story~*~
~*~Labor Buddies with Sweet Turnip - Welcome Baby Girl 2/23/12 & Aluenna - Welcome Ivy 1/6/12~*~
UGH!!!
I love this post!
"Relax" or "It will happen when the time is right" really piss me off.
But the worst one is from my SIL who says to me after she got KU with her 2nd child, "Well if you time it right you can have my baby's crib in a couple of years." Yeah okay I've been trying for 2 years and you want me to wait another 2. Thanks for the offer but no thanks!
"If its meant to be it will happen." Ughh I also get the "Stop thinking about it and it will just happen" my mom says that one all the time. Drives me nuts
There is a guy at work who really get under my skin about this. No one knows we're trying. I work at a hospital and 99.99% of my coworkers are hormonal women, go figure it's the one guy who bugs me about it.
But apparently there's "something in the water" at my work...supposedly everyone who works there get miraculously pg. So whenever I am not feeling especially well, he's like "Are you KU? You're next you know."
I just want to turn around and say, "I d@mn well hope so!"