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Pregnant after a Loss
sad update really need t&p
I am going to the neonatologist today in about 2 hours, to confirm if my baby has a cystic hygroma. However, as before my last miscarriage, I woke up this morning with a horrible feeling. Like the baby had passed. I have no sore boobs at all, stomach is TOTALLY flat today (has been bloated) and I have absolutely no nausea. I hope to God I'm wrong, but like I told my husband last night and before the last miscarriage, I knew something was not right all along. I am really gearing myself up for horrible news today, then anything else will be a surprise.
I'm trying to figure out how I will go to work today after this. I cried yesterday for 12 hours straight after I was told by my horrible OB (see earlier posts from yesterday for details on that). I don't know if we can try again after this. It would be our third loss. And apparently something is genetically mutant about me. I'm really depressed and sad. And will probably lose my job because I will have to take off this week and next (the first 2 weeks of school) to deal with my mental breakdown. I already have depression and anxiety (haven't been on meds for 2 years while undergoing fertility treatments) and I think this loss may do me in.
Please pray for us.
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Re: sad update really need t&p
*hugs* You're in my T&P.
Can you tell work whats going on? Maybe just the principal (gathering you work in a school)?
I hope you receive positive news today.... but if not... going back on your meds and having testing particularly chromosome testing on you and DH may provide some answers.
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4 losses (cp Feb 28 09, mc April 9 09 (5w5d), mc Aug 10 09 (7w1d), d&c Apr 12 10 (grew to 6w3d, mc confirmed at 8w5d). RX: Overies PCOS (hormones normal) & Balanced Translocation of Ch. 7 & 13 (40-50% mc risk)
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Oh honey...I am so sorry you're dealing with this. Whether you believe in them or not, I'll pray for a miracle for you and your husband and your LO today. Please keep us updated on the results. And your job should understand. Have your husband explain what's going on to your bosses and they should be understanding.
Praying so hard for you right now.
I'm still holding out hope that things will be alright. If they're not, I agree that you should try and use medical leave if you can. Your health is more important than any job. I'll keep you and LO in my thoughts.
Sending LOTS of T&P your way... I really hope that your appointment today turns things around and everything is GOOD.
(((hugs)))
Definitely thinking of you. Please oh please set aside your work-related stuff and allow yourself to just be at this appointment today. The work stuff will work itself out - you might need a doctor's note and you might need to tell your boss about what's going on (or HR if your place is big enough), but please don't let that be another thing weighing you down right now.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers today.
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I am so, so sorry you are dealing with this. T&P to you. Please ask about FMLA and try to take care of yourself.
FWIW, with my first pregnancy I KNEW something was wrong and nobody could convince me otherwise. (There actually was something found later, and I miscarried.) Sometimes intuition sucks.
BFP#1 1.28.10; HB 6w5d 2.18.10; No HB 3.8.10; Natural m/c 3.9.10 at 9w3d
BFP#2 - 7.22.10 DD born 3.16.11
BFP#3 - 8.11.11 DS born 3.27.12
BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11!
TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP
Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
I am so sorry you're having to deal with this. I really hope you get some good news today.
If not, I would seriously talk to your NEW OB or someone about starting meds again. It's important to take care of yourself too.
(((hugs)))
I am so sorry. I agree with FMLA and talking with your principal. This is a medical reason to be out- if someone broke their leg and had to be out the first two weeks of school, they wouldn't be fired- no reason you should. I am a teacher and while I wasn't out the first two weeks, I was out often because of m/s and then a full week because of my m/c at the beginning of last school year. As long as you have documentation, they cannot fire you.
As far as anxiety and depression, do you see a talk therapist. I was on medication and stopped when we began ttc. I continue to see a therapist who has been very helpful to me. Also, I am not sure if you have a union, but mine has a call center we can use if we are having a crisis or need to talk about a problem. It is run by the state- I've never used it, but I believe my MIL did and was happy with it.
I am thinking of you and sending you lots of T&P.
Rylan 1/27/2011, 2:42 pm, 5lbs 12oz, 18.5 inches long
Ayla 10/02/2013, 10:14 am, 6lbs 14oz, 19.25 inches long
Missed Miscarriage 6w3d 3/02/2010
I'll hold you in my heart until I hold you in heaven.
diagnosed with heterozygous Factor V Leiden 2008; m/c 11/09 @ 5 1/2 wks; m/c 5/10 @ 4 1/2 wks; RLP testing done, diagnosed with antiphospholipid syn. and low progesterone; 7/10 started on Heparin injections & progesterone supps @ 3 dpo, BFP 8/9/10!!!
I'll be praying that you get good news today.
As for giving up, only you know what's best for you. DH and I suffered 3 losses, no testing and said that this would be our last shot. It is extremely emotionally and psychologically draining .