TTC After a Loss

couldn't hurt

I by no means have been TTCAL for "a long time". I mean it's only been 3 weeks, so I'm not complaining or frustrated that too much time has gone by. We haven't even really tried yet. But... the m/c is still very fresh, and i still have that very raw feeling of just wanting it back. i want to start this next time on the right foot. I want to not feel so stressed or rushed. and I know i'm going to need to find a way to try to chill out, and let it happen. "just relax" is not something I've been good at doing. here's my thought:

A woman who won the lottery was on TV yesterday. She said that 3 months before she won the lottery, she said out loud "i'm going to win 12 million dollars". Then she wrote on a piece of paper "$12 million". She put it under her pillow. then bam, she won the lottery for $12 million.

one week before I met DH, my mom sent me a newspaper clipping (she does this) of a cute proposal story. The guy was an elementary school teacher, and he got down on one knee in front of all the kids. The next week I met my DH, who just happened to be a 4th grade teacher. I by chance had hung onto that clipping of the proposal and when I realized I still had it in my desk, I decided to keep it there. a few months later my own 4th grade teacher got down on one knee.

so yes i sound a bit crazy. but just like lottery lady, I'm going to write "2011 healthy baby" on a piece of paper and stick it under my pillow.

;) i'll let you know how it goes.

 

(no laughing)

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  • A few months before I met DH, I bought a "wish necklace".  You have to put it on and make a wish as you do, and not take it off.  The necklace is really just a charm on a string, and when the string breaks/necklace falls off, your wish supposedly comes true.  My necklace fell off at a party that DH and I attended.  That night was the first time he told me he loved me.  The rest is our fairy tale....

    I *may* have recently bought another wish necklace....Embarrassed

    Just sayin'.

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  • I love the idea!  I'm pulling for you!
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  • I love that story and am off to write a wish and tuck it in my pillowcase...

    Thanks for the sweet idea, and GL; may all our wishes come true!

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    A few months before I met DH, I bought a "wish necklace".  You have to put it on and make a wish as you do, and not take it off.  The necklace is really just a charm on a string, and when the string breaks/necklace falls off, your wish supposedly comes true.  My necklace fell off at a party that DH and I attended.  That night was the first time he told me he loved me.  The rest is our fairy tale....

    I *may* have recently bought another wish necklace....Embarrassed

    Just sayin'.

     

    that's such a great story! I LOVE it! I'm starting to trust a little more in the power of positive thought. I think you should totally have another wish necklace. good luck, keep me posted!

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  • It's funny you should mention this, because I just read about this this morning when I was trying to do some research on short cycles.

    Unconscious desires to have children are a huge factor in unwanted pregnancies and play a determining factor in your fertility.  [...]  An example from my own life that highlights this point: after I had my first child, I had always said to myself "when my son is 18 months old, I will fall pregnant again" because I figured 2.5 years was a good gap between children. Anyway, when my son turned 18 months old, I was working part time and had forgotten all about my promise to myself. I had been using a diaphragm during the time since the birth of my first son, and it was working great. But at that 18 th month point, I fell pregnant- diaphragm and all, and I know it was because I had not reviewed my pregnancy intention. My body was just working on the programming that I had given it.

    https://www.menstruation.com.au/periodpages/irregular.html

    I just had to laugh and roll my eyes at that one.  If only it were that easy!

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    It's funny you should mention this, because I just read about this this morning when I was trying to do some research on short cycles.

    Unconscious desires to have children are a huge factor in unwanted pregnancies and play a determining factor in your fertility.  [...]  An example from my own life that highlights this point: after I had my first child, I had always said to myself "when my son is 18 months old, I will fall pregnant again" because I figured 2.5 years was a good gap between children. Anyway, when my son turned 18 months old, I was working part time and had forgotten all about my promise to myself. I had been using a diaphragm during the time since the birth of my first son, and it was working great. But at that 18 th month point, I fell pregnant- diaphragm and all, and I know it was because I had not reviewed my pregnancy intention. My body was just working on the programming that I had given it.

    https://www.menstruation.com.au/periodpages/irregular.html

    I just had to laugh and roll my eyes at that one.  If only it were that easy!

    Damn...I wish my body would just "follow directions".

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  • My story was similar- I was dating this guy for 4+ yrs and I asked him if we were going to get married. He said "I don't know, maybe". So I went to church on Sunday and prayed about it. I asked God to give me a sign. Wednesday I met my hubby and he was talking about the kind of ring he wanted to get his future wife and how he wanted his brother the minister to marry him. I went home and told my girlfriend how I met this great guy but he wants to get married by his brother and I want to get married in my church. She advised me to go out on a date with him first, but I just knew from the moment I met him. We got married by his brother in my church...

    This cycle I decided I'd stop worrying about green tea/pom/extra relations/etc. I'd just give it to God and my RE. We'll see what happens. 

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  • I think its a great idea! I've heard of a handful of lottery winners who did just that too and won. I should do it myself but I don't ever buy tickets! oh well!

    I might try the same thing. A little positive thinking and alot of prayers never hurt anyone!

    Good luck!!!


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  • No laughing from me, I think it's a really sweet idea. I may just have to do it myself!
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  • That sounds like The Secret. Have you read that book? It could be a good read for something like this. I haven't, but it's what i've heard. Smile

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    That sounds like The Secret. Have you read that book? It could be a good read for something like this. I haven't, but it's what i've heard. Smile

     

    yeah it's kind of the same thing from what i hear. a friend of mine read it for a class she was taking. for her it was a bit too much, she kind of thought it was a little "nutty". we are similar so I may not buy into all of it, but positive thinking on a basic level I have a lot of faith in. or maybe it's just faith. wow we're getting deep. maybe I'll just read the book and take from it what doesn't seem too "out there".

    honestly, for a baby I'd do just about anything.

    good night ladies. i'm going to go say a prayer then sleep on the note. ;)

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  • I guess I do something similar to that in the fact that I pray every night for God to bring us our baby when he feels that it is the right time for us. That hope and repetition helps me and keeps me going. Maybe I should set a date and give him an ultimatum... that might help hahah jk!!!
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  • That sounds like a great idea! Maybe I'll do it too! Big Smile My dh tells me that I need to think with more positivity so let's see what happens!  I think your engagement story is very sweet! I taught 4th grade too and always dreamed that my future husband would propose to me in front of the class.  And now looking back at how my dh proposed, I wouldn't want it any other way!

    P.S. I'm heading to NOVA today to visit my girlfriend who just had a baby girl. Wish me luck! My dh and I used to live in Alexandria before we moved closer to Quantico for his job!

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