When did you stop saying 'if'?

elisbu · August 2010

DH and I are saying "if this baby sticks...." or "if we have this baby in May...."

So for those of you who are further along, when did you start saying "when I hit my 3rd tri...." or "when this baby is born..."

hopingwaiting · August 2010

Each milestone helps. I had a mini-breakthrough after I started telling family/friends about the pregnancy after my NT scan looked good. They were so excited and optimistic about this baby it somehow helped give me permission to be excited and optimistic also. When I started feeling movement regularly around 17-18 weeks that was also very reassuring. I still didn't start buying anything until nearly 3rd tri, so I was not without my issues fairly late, but confidence definitely grows over time.

grr_aargh · August 2010

hopingwaiting:
Each milestone helps. I had a mini-breakthrough after I started telling family/friends about the pregnancy after my NT scan looked good. They were so excited and optimistic about this baby it somehow helped give me permission to be excited and optimistic also. When I started feeling movement regularly around 17-18 weeks that was also very reassuring. I still didn't start buying anything until nearly 3rd tri, so I was not without my issues fairly late, but confidence definitely grows over time.

Yeah, we were like this too. We were still saying "If" and "Hopefully" up until about 25 weeks.

It became less "if" and more "when" when I went into a double-digit countdown.

sevenonesix · August 2010

I catch myself thinking sometimes - still - about the "if"'s... but I really really tried to be positive from the beginning. I'm a true believer in positive thinking, though it holds no bounds sometimes, so I just made the best effort I could. Some days were better than others.

Mrs.EmmaLouise · August 2010

I still say if. But less and less. Like HW said, it helps you stay more optimistic if you dont say 'if' all the time.

jesmckenna · August 2010

I stopped saying it out loud after the first trimester, but still think about it every time I look at the nursery. Now that our house is overflowing with baby stuff, I am more worried than ever that something will go wrong. I hate it because I am normally a very optimistic person, but I just worry about being hurt again.

BEANCOUNTR76 · August 2010

I've never been past the "if" stage. Hopefully this is the one that takes me past the "if"'s.

northshore25 · August 2010

I still catching myself saying the occasional "if" and I am almost 27 weeks. I would say that 20 weeks is when I decided to let myself be over joyed about this baby. For me, I was so scared about loving him too much or getting too ready or too attached. I knew that it would hurt that much more if I lost him.

lovethebosox · August 2010

It's really hard. We when started telling people, we said, "we're hoping" and things like that. Now I'm 18 weeks and there is a lot less "if" in both my thinking and my words.

Amanda78 · August 2010

Quite honestly I'm just getting there fully now.

lisamarie_04 · August 2010

I still say it and probably will continue until to do so until I hold my living, breathing baby in my arms. I'm optimistic and hopeful that she will make it here safely, but I know that there is never a safe point during pregnancy.

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