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Poll about you and DH
Tell me some things that you do together in the evening at home.
And not THAT. 
I have been having a difficult time balancing my time between DH, DD, my friends, my family, chores, and being completely exhausted at the end of the day and have been putting DH on the backburner. We need to spend more time doing "fun" things together and not just "working" together.
Our problem is that the fun things we like to do together involve leaving the house, which we can't do after DD is in bed. We also have different tastes in TV and movies, there are some that we both enjoy, but not enough that we could spend more then 1 night per week watching...
I'm looking forward to hearing your responses!
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Re: Poll about you and DH
DH and I sit outside alot on the porch swing. I drink a glass of wine and every blue moon he has a cigar.
We also like scrabble so sometimes we get that out.
Sometimes we just watch mindless tv and decompress.
We're kinda like you, during the week we are lame and just veg separately.
When I get to feeling like we're too distant we'll play a board game together. To be honest the time goes by so quickly, its maybe 2 hours at the most we ever get to ourselves, but usually shorter than that. We're tired lazy-bums I guess.
Is it wrong that this just made me LMAO?
We usually spend time talking. Sometimes it's about "important" stuff like family finances, interpersonal *issues* (think IL drama and the like), our children's future; and, other times, it's a light-hearted debate about a random (or not so random) topic - whatever is relevant at the time. A lot of times, we are talking (okay, bitching) about work and whatever is going on that we don't necessarily agree with and/or annoys us - just to get each other's perspective and advice. Sometimes, we just find something humorous on tv and banter throughout the show.
We drink too. But over the summer we had a set-back with smoking cigs, so I am nervous to sit outside and drink with him. And I can control myself more then him... but I also cave easily to peer pressure. Especially if the peer pressure is something that I really like doing in the first place too. Just throwing a little FFC in here - I know I am horrible and evil for doing that.
But that is one of my fav things to do... sit outside with a glass of wine and talk.
Honestly we have friends over quite often...like maybe 2-3 nights/week. Granted, a lot of our friends dont have kids yet so its easy for them to come to our place (our best friends who have a son 2 weeks younger than Nicky come sometimes, we try and alternate our weekly hangouts between our house and theirs).
But we will have a bonfire together in the backyard, sit on the front porch and have margaritas, watch movies and tv shows together...my SIL gave me this list of 100 questions that she got from our church--they are like really random questions that you can talk about w/ your spouse to get to know each other better so occasionally we will use that just to get a good discussion going (that doesnt revolve around kids/work). An example of a question would be: if you had all the money in the world and God's infinite blessing what would you do? (the answer my DH gave SHOCKED me! It was a great conversation starter and just kinda random so not something we had really talked about a ton since we know it would never be a reality haha)
We like to sit on the deck and have a glass of wine/beer and talk. Or sit on the front porch with before-mentioned glasses and people watch, we have some fascinating neighbors.
We also have different tastes in tv/movies but when we decide to watch something together we watch something awesome like Cops or Dog the Bounty Hunter. Truly awful shows but make for good laughs. Is it wrong that we have so much fun making fun of people?
Sometimes we play games too... Wii, cards... I whoop his butt at Scrabble. Have I ever told you about the time I beat him with the word "ovulate" on a triple word score... LOL, he'll never live down that shame.
Most of the time we just talk though, while we clean up, while we lounge, while fold laundry... it's not exciting but.. I dunno.. we just always seem to have lots to talk about at the end of the day once the kids go to bed.
Hannah
I'm the same way Lindz! I am so bad--we both quit cold turkey when I found out I was pregnant and then after the stressful pregnancy once I could finally drink and relax again I had one...then two...and we promised we would only smoke when we drink (which isnt too often) but now we find ourselves drinking more just so we can smoke haha j/k but I know what you mean about the temptation!
Recently we've both been so tired that we crash on the couch together in front of the TV. But we try to make it a point to do something different once in awhile. My brother and SIL got us hooked on Mexican Train Dominoes. It's definitely more fun with a group of people, but 2 can play just as well.
Jennie
Hannah - That's funny. DH won't play scrabble with me any more becuase I frequently find ways to get 3 or 4 words in one turn. He HATES that!
We usually just talk about work (we both work at the same company) or about something Eli says. I'll be honest though, Eli refuses to go to bed before 10 (has for 1.5 years now) and so we don't have much time after he's in bed to talk or be together alone, so our time is usually on the drive from work to home we chat together quietly which Eli plays in the car seat. I know we are lame. That's one reason we enjoy ILs and my mom watching him overnight so often. It's the ONLY time we get alone, pretty much.
Elijah Matthew - 5/3/07 ~ Adalyn Rosemary - 3/23/11
*Photos by Kacy Cierley*