is baby going to sleep in same room as you?

jillybean800 · August 2010

I was reading pregnancy day by day, and it said, "Of course, the safest place for a baby to sleep is in the same room as you." (not the same bed, just the same room). Um...what really threw me was the "of course"!

I honestly never even considered this as an option. We have no room for the baby to be in our room just because of the way it's set up. Also, when my husband goes back to work, I would like to get up and go feed the baby in his own room, which is right next to ours so as not to disturb his sleep multiple times in one night. Can I put a newborn baby in his crib in the room next to ours? The book made it seem like I was practically inviting him to get harmed that way!

Thoughts?

Temp103605875001677 · August 2010

You can put a newborn baby in a crib in his/her room. I will not be doing this. The nursery is on the other side of the house as the master bedroom. Luke will sleep in our room until I am comfortable moving him to the nursery. I would like to have him sleeping in his crib prior to when I return to work.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

The "of course" is weird wording. Meh. We'll be having LO in a co-sleeper for a few months at night, BUT naps will be in the crib. I don't want it to be a completely new & unfamiliar place. HTH!

MrsSmiley09 · August 2010

I have a bassinet that I will have in the room with us. I don't know if it's mandatory for baby to be in the same room but most everyone I know does have the baby in the same room at least for a little while. When my husband goes back to work I plan to take the baby in the other room for feedings. But whether he hears the baby on the monitor crying or right next to us ...he will wake up so I dont think it matters that the baby is right next to us.

Rink08 · August 2010

LO will sleep in our room at night until they are about 6 months old. In the day they'll sleep either in their crib, pac-n-play, bassinet, or wherever else. For me, it was a bigger comfort for DS to sleep in a bassinet next to me because I breastfed. There are also studies which claim that having the child sleep in the same room for a few weeks after birth helps them to pick up sleep/ breathing patterns.

LittleDucky · August 2010

I don't think it is an "of course" kind of thing, but most people I know have had their babies sleep in the room with them for the first few weeks/months at least. There are a few who have put baby in the nursery right away, but it is less common, at least among people I know.

Our baby will be in a pack and play in our room for a while at least. When he is too big for the pack and play, we'll either move him into his crib in his room (right next to our bedroom) or if I am not ready for him to be away yet we'll put the crib in our bedroom. I think it will just make me sleep easier knowing he is nearby and it will be more convenient for nursing and diaper changes.

nursedevivo · August 2010

I am not having our baby in our room with us. I have talked to a lot of mothers, and they said they did this because they were worried about SIDS, etc. Our nursery is literally within a few steps away from our bedroom, and we are buying a bed monitor that beeps if the baby stops breathing. The set comes with the motion sensor and sound monitor for $100. So, I feel comfortable putting him in his crib right away.

Tamzin418 · August 2010

We're going to our little one in the room with us at night for probably 6 months and she'll take naps in her crib so she is accustomed to sleeping without one of us in the room. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends infants sleep in the same room (not bed) as parents as it may reduce the risk of SIDS. I'm breastfeeding so I also think this arrangement will be more convenient for us.

TheEvansFamily · August 2010

Yes, she will definitely be sleeping in our room for a few months, possibly in the playard because it's nice enough, but we maybe buy a separate bassinet. SO really loves the idea and he wouldn't have it any other way, gives us peace of mind.

KatieM1106 · August 2010

nursedevivo:
I am not having our baby in our room with us. I have talked to a lot of mothers, and they said they did this because they were worried about SIDS, etc. Our nursery is literally within a few steps away from our bedroom, and we are buying a bed monitor that beeps if the baby stops breathing. The set comes with the motion sensor and sound monitor for $100. So, I feel comfortable putting him in his crib right away.

What brand are you using? I read bad things about the Angelcare, but I really want one of these, if someone else makes a good one!

rainydayluck · August 2010

We haven't decided. If we do have her in the same room with us, it will only be in the beginning and then only for a month or two.

nursedevivo · August 2010

KatieM1106:

nursedevivo:
I am not having our baby in our room with us. I have talked to a lot of mothers, and they said they did this because they were worried about SIDS, etc. Our nursery is literally within a few steps away from our bedroom, and we are buying a bed monitor that beeps if the baby stops breathing. The set comes with the motion sensor and sound monitor for $100. So, I feel comfortable putting him in his crib right away.

What brand are you using? I read bad things about the Angelcare, but I really want one of these, if someone else makes a good one!

Really?? Because I am registered for Angelcare and I only registered for it because it had 229 reviews on Target.com and had 4.5/5 stars!! I am surprised that you've read bad things...I'll have to do some more research. Thanks!

KatieM1106 · August 2010

nursedevivo:
KatieM1106:

nursedevivo:
I am not having our baby in our room with us. I have talked to a lot of mothers, and they said they did this because they were worried about SIDS, etc. Our nursery is literally within a few steps away from our bedroom, and we are buying a bed monitor that beeps if the baby stops breathing. The set comes with the motion sensor and sound monitor for $100. So, I feel comfortable putting him in his crib right away.
What brand are you using? I read bad things about the Angelcare, but I really want one of these, if someone else makes a good one!
Really?? Because I am registered for Angelcare and I only registered for it because it had 229 reviews on Target.com and had 4.5/5 stars!! I am surprised that you've read bad things...I'll have to do some more research. Thanks!

It's buried pretty deep in Google - we were registered for one, but I really looked hard to justify the price. I wish I could remember what I read that really changed my mind, I know Baby Bargains didn't like it, but there was somewhere else more reputable - if I find my source, I will page and PM you.

RGriffone · August 2010

LO will be sleeping in a bassinet in our bedroom. we only have a 1bdrm w/ den apartment, but you can't hear anything. granted we registered for the video monitor, but since i'm going to be BF, it will be easier. not to mention safer due to not tripping over things in the middle of the night.

plumerialost · August 2010

The "of course" wording does seem odd to me. With DD, we tried having her in a bassinet in our room, but she didn't really sleep. So after a night we just put her in her crib in her room, and that's what we plan to do with this LO. DD seems to be a light sleeper with other people in her room or where she's sleeping, even to this day. I say it's a personal choice and one that has to feel right to you. Whether they are in the room with you or not, those first few months you will be the lightest sleeper ever. Every little sound you hear on the monitor will wake you and you'll go check on them.

mamahouston · August 2010

nursedevivo:
KatieM1106:

nursedevivo:
I am not having our baby in our room with us. I have talked to a lot of mothers, and they said they did this because they were worried about SIDS, etc. Our nursery is literally within a few steps away from our bedroom, and we are buying a bed monitor that beeps if the baby stops breathing. The set comes with the motion sensor and sound monitor for $100. So, I feel comfortable putting him in his crib right away.

What brand are you using? I read bad things about the Angelcare, but I really want one of these, if someone else makes a good one!

Really?? Because I am registered for Angelcare and I only registered for it because it had 229 reviews on Target.com and had 4.5/5 stars!! I am surprised that you've read bad things...I'll have to do some more research. Thanks!

I used the AngelCare for my DS and will also use it for this one. It gave me such peace of mind, it's worth it. There were only a few times it went off during the night, and by the time we went in there it had already stopped. Of course, we don't know if it was just something with the monitor or if DS really stopped breathing for a few. No matter what, it's worth it, even if it was a false alarm. To me, it's worth the $$, but it was also about $20 cheaper when we got it a few years ago. HTH!

mb1210 · August 2010

We're gonna have baby in our room for the first few weeks or so. Only because I think it will be easier when getting up for those 2am feedings. I don't think it matters if they are in your room or in another room.

babyonthebrain2010 · August 2010

I would say the "of course" should be replaced with "supposedly" lol...

I have read/heard that having a newborn sleep in the same room (not bed, "of course" - lol) can reduce the risk of SIDS for a number of reason. I have not researched any of these reasons, but they're just what I've heard... that the infant can actually pick up the breathing patterns of mom/dad.. that it is more likely to be a comfortable temperature and air quality since the mom/dad are comfortable there, etc. also, there is the convenience factor. that you are more likely to "attend" to them since they're right there.

all that said, I plan on having him in the same room with me (in either a PnP or the FP rock n sleeper thing... but only for the first month or so.

LaLaaaa · August 2010

We live in a 1 bedroom so we don't have a choice in the matter. Baby will be sleeping in his/her crib from the start. I don't know about the "of course" part though. I think if our circumstances were different I might be having him/her sleep in their own room.

hawaiibride04 · August 2010

Well, I had planned on putting him in his crib in his nursery from day one, but now you're all telling me this increases his risk for SIDS... I'm going to have to do some more research I think.

bosha711 · August 2010

Yes, our baby will be in a bassinet or pack n' play (whatever fits) in our room, till I figure he's at least sleeping through the night. Our nursery will be upstairs & our room is downstairs. Plus, especially at first, I'm sure we'll go through that phase of constantly checking to make sure the baby is breathing, lol, and I'll want him right near us.

babyonthebrain2010 · August 2010

hawaiibride04:
Well, I had planned on putting him in his crib in his nursery from day one, but now you're all telling me this increases his risk for SIDS... I'm going to have to do some more research I think.

I am NOT trying to scare you or anyone else or make you paranoid, but just throwing this out there.. the one baby I've known to pass from SIDS (my cousin) died at 1.5 months. she slept in a safe co-sleeper, used a pacifier, was breastfed, didn't have loose blankets or pillows around. this was only 2 years ago, and my aunt did everything by the book.. they didn't know what caused it. it's just one of those things where you can take every single precaution and terrible things can still happen so you just have to trust your instincts, and if you feel best having your LO sleep in the crib from day one.. as long as the crib is a safe environment you shouldn't feel guilted into keeping LO in the room with you. you have to do what's best for the baby AND yourself. the main reason I'm having LO with me will be for my own selfish reasons.. because it will be more convenient and I'll feel less paranoid and won't have to leave the room to check on him.

babyonthebrain2010 · August 2010

hawaiibride04:
Well, I had planned on putting him in his crib in his nursery from day one, but now you're all telling me this increases his risk for SIDS... I'm going to have to do some more research I think.

I am NOT trying to scare you or anyone else or make you paranoid, but just throwing this out there.. the one baby I've known to pass from SIDS (my cousin) died at 1.5 months. she slept in a safe co-sleeper, used a pacifier, was breastfed, didn't have loose blankets or pillows around. this was only 2 years ago, and my aunt did everything by the book.. they didn't know what caused it. it's just one of those things where you can take every single precaution and terrible things can still happen so you just have to trust your instincts, and if you feel best having your LO sleep in the crib from day one.. as long as the crib is a safe environment you shouldn't feel guilted into keeping LO in the room with you. you have to do what's best for the baby AND yourself. the main reason I'm having LO with me will be for my own selfish reasons.. because it will be more convenient and I'll feel less paranoid and won't have to leave the room to check on him.

Germangirl86 · August 2010

Tamzin418:
We're going to our little one in the room with us at night for probably 6 months and she'll take naps in her crib so she is accustomed to sleeping without one of us in the room. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends infants sleep in the same room (not bed) as parents as it may reduce the risk of SIDS. I'm breastfeeding so I also think this arrangement will be more convenient for us.

This,

But really our LO will sleep in bed with us as well....I know, I know, such a horrible mother, but really I am a light sleeper and I have slept with my nieces and nephews and it was just fine. I will be breast feeding so we will both just end up falling asleep in bed.

AndysGrl08 · August 2010

LO will sleep in our room in a travel crib for the first 8 weeks or so, then he will be graduating to his big boy crib. We would have done 12 if his room wasn't 4 steps from ours - we have a tiny house and I would be able to be in his room in a slit second if need be.

cc605 · August 2010

yeah probably in the same bed. H will be gone for training for about 6 weeks after the baby comes (minus the first 2 weeks which he will be home for Christmas). I really value sleep so it's much easier to pop out a boob and snooze.

You can do whatever works best for you and your family!

Mommytott · August 2010

LO will be in our room in a co-sleeper for about 6 months. I will be breast feeding and I also like to be able to open my eyes and see everything is ok with the baby. You have to do what is right for your family

mommiro · August 2010

I will have LO in the room with us probably the first few weeks..then transition to her own crib in her room as I get ready to return to work from maternity leave. One of the reasons is that we are getting a crib from my coworker who won't be finished with it until January or February

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