did you wait to ttc because of your child being delayed?
sunshine1234
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Did you wait to ttc because of your child being delayed? I am just venting. My daughter was 2 as of June. SHe is delayed and is in Early Intervention. She is doing well in EI. We are very happy with her progress.
I didnt want to TTC bc I wanted to being there for my daughter while we took her to all of the drs and had her checked out. She has low muscle tone. So, we saw many drs. We only have 1 more to follow up with. So, I am just watching everyone get pregnant. These people have kids who ar less than 1 yrs old or are 2 years old. I keepp thinking geez my kids will be so many years apart by the time I have #2.
Please tell me that I am not the only one who wait to ttc#2 to help #1. I love her more than anything. It i sjust hard to watch everyone have a 2nd baby.
Can anyone relate?
Re: did you wait to ttc because of your child being delayed?
My brother and I are 4.5 years apart because he was developmentally delayed. My mom said she waited till he was in preschool because she wanted to focus on my brother.
We have thought about it, but ultimately I am not getting any younger. We married in our 30's and then had our son right away. I had such a terrible pregnancy I said I would never do it again. Then, our son came along and we witnessed what a miracle he was. I changed my mind. He is now 17 months old and VERY delayed. We are not preventing pregnancy...we are just letting things happen. We shall see. With all the stress of taking care of our son who is on oxygen and a feeding tube full-time, I wouldn't be surprised if it takes us awhile to conceive the 2nd time around. We have a ton of support from our families, so they will help us out with the 2nd child if and when we get pregnant again.
It is such a personal decision, but we feel that if we can handle what everything our son went through and his continuing needs...we can handle anything.
We decided not to wait, but I think that was in part because by the time we would have been ready to TTC anyway (we keep our kids close in age if we can help it, so by 12-13 months, we're ready for the next!), appointments had slowed down, Dean was sitting independently and so he was more independent, and we were just heading into his last surgery on the foreseeable (sp?) horizon. we felt like if we waited any longer something could come up and then we might not do it. We always wanted three kids and so we knew that while we *could* wait, the benefits of having another sibling would be great too.
Hope that makes sense. I think it's a personal decision and I hope you do what feels right for your family!
As PP put it, I not only waited, I completely altered the TTC plan. We wanted a second one, but we will have just DS. I am not confident my mental state of being would handle another blow like this well. It's sad, but that's the truth.