Word vomit.

dana1318a · August 2010

Anyone else find themselves slipping and telling more people than planned that you & DH are TTC?? I feel like the last 2 months, anyone who comes right out and asks me gets an answer out of me! Not the end of the world or anything, but we had planned to not tell anyone until we were pg at least 2 months along, and unfortunately I'm terrible with secrets : so my mom, sister & 2 closest friends know (which isn't so weird..) but in the last month I've given 4 co-workers a "yes" or "we're working on it" or "hopefully soon". I can't stop. I might as well wear a sign..

riverbed · August 2010

dana1318a:
Anyone else find themselves slipping and telling more people than planned that you & DH are TTC?? I feel like the last 2 months, anyone who comes right out and asks me gets an answer out of me! Not the end of the world or anything, but we had planned to not tell anyone until we were pg at least 2 months along, and unfortunately I'm terrible with secrets : so my mom, sister & 2 closest friends know (which isn't so weird..) but in the last month I've given 4 co-workers a "yes" or "we're working on it" or "hopefully soon". I can't stop. I might as well wear a sign..

I've been feeling this way, too. But now I just say we aren't trying but we aren't avoiding it. I hate lying to people, so that makes me feel like less of a jacka$s. Though I wish they would quit outright asking me. If I wanted to tell you I would. It puts people in an awful position.

dana1318a · August 2010

L&K508:

I've been feeling this way, too. But now I just say we aren't trying but we aren't avoiding it. I hate lying to people, so that makes me feel like less of a jacka$s. Though I wish they would quit outright asking me. If I wanted to tell you I would. It puts people in an awful position.

Tell me about it!! I feel so bad for all the times before I was TTC that I asked my friends when the babies were coming! I'll never do it again! I guess I just didn't realize that it would be an awkward question (hard to imagine not realizing that now lol).

busybeegirl1976 · August 2010

I've been telling a lot of people too and I can't stop! Almost all the ladies in my office know now. In my defense, most of them have flat-out asked me if we're having another child, and I can't lie. But there have been some people where I've just blurted it out like a loon.

Fortunately, it hasn't backfired on me just yet. There is only one lady who asks me if I'm pregnant just about every day but she's pretty manageable.

meganruns · August 2010

I was just thinking this over the weekend. I've only told a few people (two randomly close friends) and we hadn't planned on telling our families at all until a BFP. DH's mom would ask a zillion unnecessary questions, and my family is giant, crazy and Polish and that's all I'd hear about until the end of time.

But lately, perhaps due to my baby frenzy and a few too many drinks some nights, I'll slip and say certain things around people who don't know ("Oh, I used to take BCP" or, while pointing to a cute stroller, "I might need one of those in 8-9 months") and then people start giving me the questioning side-eye. I must be a better secret keeper!

KMac2784 · August 2010

I found that since my big fat mouth mentioned that we were TTC a few times, every one and their dog seems to know. Not a suprise I guess. But i'm learning that if I tell people we aren't "protected" anymore, it doesn't seem as rushed....

Good Luck to you

kdw6383 · August 2010

L&K508:

dana1318a:
Anyone else find themselves slipping and telling more people than planned that you & DH are TTC?? I feel like the last 2 months, anyone who comes right out and asks me gets an answer out of me! Not the end of the world or anything, but we had planned to not tell anyone until we were pg at least 2 months along, and unfortunately I'm terrible with secrets : so my mom, sister & 2 closest friends know (which isn't so weird..) but in the last month I've given 4 co-workers a "yes" or "we're working on it" or "hopefully soon". I can't stop. I might as well wear a sign..

I've been feeling this way, too. But now I just say we aren't trying but we aren't avoiding it. I hate lying to people, so that makes me feel like less of a jacka$s. Though I wish they would quit outright asking me. If I wanted to tell you I would. It puts people in an awful position.

I'm with you on this - we weren't going to tell anyone, but either way I look at it I'm going to get questions. It'll either be, "So when are you guys going to start trying?" or "Are you pregnant yet?" So I'm in the boat of just telling people that we're not preventing it, and when it happens it will happen.

twocents6708 · August 2010

Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I started off telling my mom...who then told the rest of the family because she was so excited. So now I have people ask and I usually give the "we're working on it" answer. However, I feel like letting people know also puts some pressure on us because each of my 6 siblings has to ask on a monthly basis, " Are you pregnant yet?" I finally told them that we would let them know when we are and they got the hint.

Oatoa · August 2010

My brother and SIL are just about to have their second child in less than three years so we get the questions a lot from my family. My response usually is something like..."Well some of us can't reproduce like rabbits so you'll just have to be patient." That usually makes everyone stop asking questions...

But besides that most people i am close with know we want a family and that once we were married and settled into our new house that we'd be trying. Those that know that are pretty good about not asking or commenting on it. They know that they'll be told when it happend.

siba1119 · August 2010

I know EXACTLY how you feel. DH and I were trying to keep it between just us and we agreed that we could each tell 1 other CLOSE friend. Well two weeks ago I let it slip to my hair dresser (who is a family friend) and to some of our friends who will be TTC #2 in October. I really wish I could keep my fat mouth shut!

blackbird01 · August 2010

With DS, we didn't tell ANYONE, so it was a big surprise to everyone we told. This time around, both my MIL (thanks, DH) and my mom knew from the start. I blame alcohol on my mom knowing, though--we were out to lunch, we both got a drink since my dad was watching DS, then she asked about #2 and it just came out. I also told a close friend right away, but she told me when she was TTC her first, so we've been supporting each other. As the months went on, I ended up slipping to a couple of coworkers (although I don't work there anymore) and I think some of DH's friends know because we started to clean out the third bedroom that is currently DH's office. Now I kind of wish no one knew.

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