paying for the shower

puma84 · August 2010

Did anyone pay out of pocket for anything for their shower? (eg. food,decorations,favors) Did the person hosting the shower pay for some things and you just needed to cover one item??

Stellar1 · August 2010

I didn't pay for anything. My mom and sisters hosted it. I have thrown many bridal/baby showers and I would NEVER make the guest of honor pay for anything.

Mrs.B6302007 · August 2010

Generally, the hostess takes care of it all. I didn't pay anything.

Mrs.B6302007 · August 2010

Hey, Stellar!

We're neighbors. And both teachers.

qme09 · August 2010

I didn't pay for anything for either of my showers, or my brunch. I don't think that's really customary for the guest of honor to pay. But I'm not really sure.

daniz110 · August 2010

Though it is not customary for the guest of honor to pay, I am trying very hard to chip in b/c my sister is going to be off of work due to surgery and my mother is not well off. I feel like I think it is great they want to do everything (along with my MIL too!), however, I am ordering the invitations, asl well as chipping in anywhere else I can.

Brit242 · August 2010

DH and I volunteered to pay the donation to the church in order to use the space. Mostly because the location is technically free and we didn't feel comfortable asking our hostess to pay for it after we decided to donate, and because DH wants to donate more (since it's to his church) than the hostess would have anyway. Typically the host should pay for everything, but I personally don't see the harm in offering to help.

babyonthebrain2010 · August 2010

the guest of honor should never be asked to pay for anything, but if they offer for whatever reason I think it's perfectly acceptable so long as it's "under the table" my large family shower I won't be doing anything but showing up and being grateful for everyone there and the gifts they bring. my smaller friends shower is a little different, tho. my best friend has been talking about throwing me a baby shower since we were TTC, but she doesn't have a lot of extra money right now so I'm helping here and there.. by letting her use my house as a venue, helping with the invitations and probably some decorations, etc. I definitely don't plan on spending very much, tho, and she keeps telling me I don't have to at all.

Stellar1 · August 2010

Mrs.B6302007:
Hey, Stellar!

We're neighbors. And both teachers.

Where do you live?

Flumby · August 2010

I offered to buy the favors and prizes for my shower because I feel like its the least I can do because people will be buying ME presents. And I know that if I didn't do the favors or prizes it would just be really cheap dollar store stuff. I offered to do it. Plus my hostess are already spending enough money and I wanted to help. :-)

ccbelle123 · August 2010

I'm helping w/ generating food/decor ideas (the hostesses asked as I work in party planning), but they would never ask me to pay for anything.

TColeman · August 2010

The only thing I paid for was the paper to print out some of the games, a total of $5.00. I don't think the mom should be expected to pay, that's the point of the host. What the host can't afford you don't have at the shower or she should go in with some other people to help host, IMO.

TAMLVSCARL · August 2010

My hubby (so technically us) paid for the restaurant & food for my shower. My sister hosted it, organized the whole thing (she went above & beyond!!) but didn't have the financial means to pay for the shower itself. And I also have to add in that she paid for the crib, bedding, tons of clothes & other things for me. I got literally evrything I needed at my shower & then some and the majority of it was bought by my sisters & Mom.

dehsignz · August 2010

I am going to be doing the favors for guests to take as they leave but only because I want to and offered.

ildali · August 2010

if my mom had a stable job and felt my sister in laws were well off i would just sit back and enjoy the ride but since that's not the reality of my life I will be pitching in with some money and I think I will be doing the invitations just because i feel like doing them but other things like food, decorations, cake, games etc they are going to take care of. so i guess it all depends of your situation, now in day things are done differently so if you decide to help or not is really up to you and you shouldnt feel bad or obligated. I know people might feel that if your mom cant then oh well deal with it have somebody else do it but I am her ONLY daughter and I know she would love to be able to throw me something even if she doesnt do it all herself so if i can help my mom have the joy of giving her only daughter a baby shower then i will.

puma84 · August 2010

the person that offered to help with the shower said that she would take care of everything but I would need to pay for the food. I can understand that money is tight for some people but kinda thought they would cover it all. Does this mean I still have to get a hostess gift??

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