Finally talked to my doctor Friday night

TeacherVicky · August 2010

So much for being hopeful that she would be proactive.

My betas (as of last Monday's draw) were down to 80. I have to go again today.

She, once again, repeated the whole 3 loss rule (therefore, no referal or testing for me). She told me to stop charting to avoid any unnecessary stress (she obviously doesn't know me and doesn't realize it creates zero stress for me, so NO I will not stop charting). She told me to BD every second day instead. She told me to call her if I didn't get my period in 2 months.

I asked her how long she wanted me to wait to TTC. She said one cycle... then said that the whole one cycle thing wasn't even necessary. Tongue Tied

So she won't be testing my hormones throughout my next cycle.

Whatever - I am bitter and discouraged and just feeling like saying Whatever.

Wildlandwife · August 2010

I'm sorry, hun. I wish she was more in tune to your feelings and willing to bend the rules on three losses. You're allowed to be bitter and discouraged, but just don't give up. ((hugs))

Dawneecakes · August 2010

I am so sorry! Would you consider switching Drs? I know there are doctors out there that will do some testing regardless of the 3 loss rule.

awesome-sauce · August 2010

I'm so sorry Sad Even if she seemed iffy, the one cycle wait is probably good. I'm sure you already know all the reasons, so I won't go into that.

I'm surprised she said to quit charting? Don't see that much. If it doesn't stress you out, there is not harm in charting. So I agree you should if it helps you.

I'm sorry you are going through this..

ColleenS629 · August 2010

I'm really sorry that she isn't being proactive. Sad

RunSchwartzRun · August 2010

I'm sorry. The only thing worse than going through this I think is doing so with a doctor who doesn't really seem to know what you need emotionally or physically. ((hugs))

Kristin&Adam · August 2010

I'm sorry, that is really frustrating

I was shocked that my OB told me next time to call as soon as I get a BFP and he'd get me in for blood work and an early u/s - is it possible to switch doctors?

BlakeG · August 2010

I'm sorry she isn't being more proactive. Would it be possible to try another doctor?

jerriesgirl · August 2010

I agree with trying out another doctor. ((hugs))

TeacherVicky · August 2010

Thanks ladies. Finding a new doctor is just not a possibility for me. It took me 4 years of living here to finally get on with this doctor - and it was only because of my last m/c. There is a huge GP shortage in Northern Ontario and I need to get a referal from her to see an OB.

CashewsMommy · August 2010

((((hugs)))) So sorry your doc isn't being pro-active! Don't these people know that we're struggling and need their help!?

I agree with charting though, it does not give me any stress at all. In fact, it lets me finally know what my body is doing! I love it.

AmyRM · August 2010

I'm sorry she's not being more proactive and attentive to your questions. I also know how hard it is to even have a doctor in Ontario, so that just sucks. Vent away.

Left Hug

ravenorchid · August 2010

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I would say to keep charting if you want to. There's no reason not to, unless you're feeling too stressed out by it.

EclairAngst · August 2010

First, I'm so sorry you have to deal with a lazy doc on top of all this. Not fair ((HUGS))

Second, how much do you like this doc? Based just on this interaction, I would be hiking up my skirt and headed for greener (and more proactive) pastures. No definitive answer on when to TTC again, but a hard and fast rule on when to do testing? Psht. If a doc is going to be wish-washy, at least let them be consistent about it.

Again, sorry your doc is only adding to your frustration I'm so sorry you have to go through any of this.

cutebride73 · August 2010

I am so sorry she is not getting you the testing that you need. Did she say what her plan would be when you get pregnant again? I don't know how long you've been charting (as I can only see 2 in your link) but your 10 day LP in June makes me suspicious of a progesterone deficit, which they can easily do something about. Some girls start taking supplements for that issue after a BFP and some after O - is there any way she would consider giving you those supplements without doing bloodwork? I know that isn't generally a good idea to take meds without a confirmed diagnosis, but I don't think they would hurt anything even if it's not the problem, but it would certainly help if it is the problem.

I know you said there is a dr shortage where you are - could you drive someone further away to see someone? Or are there geographical restictions as to where they can be?

kmount · August 2010

((hugs))

e_uecker · August 2010

I am so sorry. She doesn't sound very helpful at all. I don't get why she would say charting adds stress. I guess she doesn't get it. ((HUGS))

TeacherVicky · August 2010

cutebride73:

I am so sorry she is not getting you the testing that you need. Did she say what her plan would be when you get pregnant again? I don't know how long you've been charting (as I can only see 2 in your link) but your 10 day LP in June makes me suspicious of a progesterone deficit, which they can easily do something about. Some girls start taking supplements for that issue after a BFP and some after O - is there any way she would consider giving you those supplements without doing bloodwork? I know that isn't generally a good idea to take meds without a confirmed diagnosis, but I don't think they would hurt anything even if it's not the problem, but it would certainly help if it is the problem.

I know you said there is a dr shortage where you are - could you drive someone further away to see someone? Or are there geographical restictions as to where they can be?

This was my concern also - one that I brought up with her. Especially that I was having lots of spotting in both my pregnancies. She didn't want to test my levels during my pg and doesn't seem to want to investigate them now.

As for doctors, there are no geo restrictions - but there is just a huge doctor shortage everywhere around me.

magpiebride61210 · August 2010

I know exactly how you feel, but I'm so sorry you have to go through this. At least you're being tested. I hate the 3 loss rule, my doc is strict with it too. No amount of crying and begging would get me a test. It sounds like she isn't willing to get to know you. is it time to consider looking into a different doc? they're working for you here, so do a trial run with a couple and interview them. honestly. find someone who is going to understand YOU and work with YOU.

And I was told the one cycle rule is crap too. makes me nervous.

Take a break from thinking about it if you can, de-stress and then go back to it with a clear head and work towards getting a new doc. I hope it gets better for you soon.

hugs.

Fififa21 · August 2010

Vicky, I?m so sorry that you?re going through this and that your doctor isn?t listening to what you want. I can?t imagine how frustrating that must be. We are here anytime you need to vent.

PrincessDi80 · August 2010

That sucks I am sorry!

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