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i'm losing my mind

aliismynameohaliismynameoh
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When I got married, I had come to terms with the fact that DH and I were young and would wait a few years for children. Then after a few months we were pregnant, and month or two after that we weren't anymore.

 That was almost a year ago, and I'm still not entirely over it. It still hurts me to see every pregnant girl my age, girls i went to high school with having their first or second child. I know of at least two dozen girls that are pregnant or have children under 1 right now. It hurts every time I have to see them or hear about them, because DH and I are convincing ourselves that we wouldn't be able to handle it right now, and I'm watching them do it.

I just started a 16 month nursing program, and I hoped it would keep my mind off of having children, since it would be very difficult to do so while in school, and would somewhat guarantee more financial stability once I'm out of school. There are less than five other students there who don't have children, out of 50. I am surrounded by mothers, talking to each other about their children and where they go to school and which doctors and which daycares... and I can't take it.

 I'm seriously about to lose my mind. I am surrounded by mothers and children, the one child i did have didn't make it, and i have to wait at least 2 years surrounded by what feels like millions of mothers and children. I just don't know what to do about feeling like crap all the time now.

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  • sarahandadam1029sarahandadam1029
    {hugs} I wish I had an answer for you, something to help you through all this, but honestly, I feel pretty much the same way. Everyone I am around either has kids or grandkids, and it's ALL they ever talk about. It's not that I wish they didn't, because if I had a living child I would do the same. But it sure hurts to sit and listen to it when we are going through this pain. :(
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  • kmountkmount member
    I work with a bunch of girls who don't have kids, so I can't totally relate, but it must be really hard to hear.  ((hugs))
    m/c 12/20/09 @ 5 1/2 weeks ~ CP 1/25/09 @ 4 weeks ~ missed m/c 4/6/10 (stopped growing @ 6 weeks, stayed with me until 10) ~Foster parent to B, 9/10-1/12~ Proud Mother of Gage Stephen, born 12/26/12 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • Kristin&AdamKristin&Adam
    That is a tough situation - I'm so sorry :( Hugs!
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