i feel like a horrible mom this morning...

MonkeyMamma · August 2010

so lo went to bed last night at 830-9 wich is normal for him. he normally starts fussing just a litttle bit at around 3-4 in the morning,even tho hes not completely up i go in and feed him.

now hisbedroom and mine are like 3 feet from eachother my bed is on one wall then there are stairs in between us then his crib is right on the other side of the stairs so hes practically by my head. i normally turn a baby monitor on just incase i am in a deep deep sleep. no matter what id be able to hear if he was crying but if the monitor isnt on i cant hear his little fussing just some grunts and trying to get his thumb in his mouth that kind of stuff.

last night the monitor shut off and i didnt know it! so there for when he started fussing a bit i never woke up, he didnt cry, that wouldve woke me up for sure, he mustve got his thumb in his mouth and put himself back to sleep, so he then sleept till 5 this morning!

i feel bad tho, i never just let him fuss for more than a minut or two! and i dont know how long he fussed so im scared he fussed too long and i wasnt there to help him,

i dont think it helps i think hes going through a growth spurt all day yesterday all he did was eat and sleep i think he was awake for a total of mabey 5-6 hours all day yesterday!

MonkeyMamma · August 2010

oh and to top it off he fell back asleep and is still sleeping! its 730! do i need to wake him up? is he sleeping too much??

doremi29 · August 2010

First, I wouldn't wake him- let him sleep. Second, fussing is no big deal. I'm the same way about not letting my DS fuss long, but reality is that it's a good thing that your son self-soothed himself back to sleep. If he was really hungry or upset, he would've let you know! Sounds like maybe you should start letting him stir a little longer before going in at night- maybe he is ready to start skipping a feeding or something.

MonkeyMamma · August 2010

mabey i just feel bad beacause i havnt before, i know youre probably right tho

skiwic8 · August 2010

First of all, what do you think happened to babies before the days of monitors. I hate it when people say things like this but my mom didn't have a monitor and she heard me crying.

Second, I had read somewhere that sometimes moms are actually too quick to soothe a fussy baby at night. When the fact is sometimes babies fuss in their sleep based on where they are in the sleep cycle. I have become very concious of this myself. LO usually fusses between 2 and 4am. I have stopped getting him up unless he is actually awake and crying....he no longer gets up for that feeding and is now sleeping 7pm to 5am! Maybe your LO was just ready to sleep through the night! Hopefully this will continue for you.

Mere7706 · August 2010

Be grateful he is learning to self-soothe!

He would have let you know he was upset. If you know he wasn't crying at all, I think it's fine for him to fuss.
He probably is going through a growth spurt and needs this sleep. I'd let him sleep. Don't worry about it. My ds has been taking a 4 hour nap in the middle of the day lately!

ANJ410 · August 2010

I don't mean this to be snarky at all, but I think you are spending too much time on these boards. They have you paranoid that you are doing something horrible to your child if you don't run to him everytime he makes a noise.

Fussing is completely fine. You are not doing your baby any favor by running in there all night long. As he becomes a bigger baby, you are teaching him to become filled with panic and fear if he opens his eyes and you are not there waiting to soothe him.

Relax. Take a breath. You are not a bad mom. Bad moms leave their babies confined to a crib all day long in a dirty diaper, crying.

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