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penelopepink09 · August 2010

A High School friend of mine is 34 weeks pregnant. She just posted:

"My Dr said she tries to induce her patients at 39 weeks! So that means only 5 more weeks til I meet my baby girl! Who needs that extra week anyway?"

Why do people think it's okay to induce just for the hell of it?? And uh, you dumb biitch, your BABY needs that extra week!! Grrr!!

IrishBrideND · August 2010

and its not the best for the mom, either, to do it for the hell of it. You are more likely to tear, and tear worse. And, more likely to need a c-section. Why risk it unless you have to?

AdamsMom4 · August 2010

WTH? I would NOT want to be induced if it wasn't necessary. If your body isn't ready, it isn't ready IMO.

penelopepink09 · August 2010

IrishBrideND:
and its not the best for the mom, either, to do it for the hell of it. You are more likely to tear, and tear worse. And, more likely to need a c-section. Why risk it unless you have to?

My sentiments exactly. But this girl is a farking moron. She just wants to have the baby when it's convenient for her and for the sake of not being uncomfortable anymore. It makes me so angry.

WildcatPrincess · August 2010

I don't understand the obsession with non-medically necessary induction.

carrotcake06 · August 2010

penelopepink09:
IrishBrideND:
and its not the best for the mom, either, to do it for the hell of it. You are more likely to tear, and tear worse. And, more likely to need a c-section. Why risk it unless you have to?

My sentiments exactly. But this girl is a farking moron. She just wants to have the baby when it's convenient for her and for the sake of not being uncomfortable anymore. It makes me so angry.

I don't understand pple like this. What do think is going to happen when you have the kid? They'll only require your attention when you feel like it?

And last time I checked, when you decided to have a kid, it stopped being about all about you.

MWoodside · August 2010

It's so sad that Drs do that. Babies come when they are ready.

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

IrishBrideND · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

some babies do though. Some babies are born at 37 weeks with immature lungs, and its REALLY hard for them to tell if thats going to be the case or not until they are born.

I get that some people have things that make them get an induction because they want to. But I'm shocked a practice does EVERYONE at 39 weeks. That just seems unethical to me.

penelopepink09 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

Some babies do. For example, I was born at 38 weeks with immature lungs and needed 2 weeks of NICU time.

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

IrishBrideND:
punkfiction_v.3:

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

some babies do though. Some babies are born at 37 weeks with immature lungs, and its REALLY hard for them to tell if thats going to be the case or not until they are born.

I get that some people have things that make them get an induction because they want to. But I'm shocked a practice does EVERYONE at 39 weeks. That just seems unethical to me.

yeah - that surprises me too. but 40 wks around here is pretty norm.

NastyAnnie · August 2010

IrishBrideND:
punkfiction_v.3:

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

some babies do though. Some babies are born at 37 weeks with immature lungs, and its REALLY hard for them to tell if thats going to be the case or not until they are born.

I get that some people have things that make them get an induction because they want to. But I'm shocked a practice does EVERYONE at 39 weeks. That just seems unethical to me.

My baby was one of these immature 37-weekers, and those 9 days spent in NICU wondering if he'd figured out how to breathe and eat at the same time were pure hell. I can't imagine inducing for any reason other than medical necessity.

Of course, I skipped the induction completely and went straight for the c/s, which I know a lot of people probably couldn't imagine doing either.

Ciconrad · August 2010

While I don't really think doctors just inducing for the sake of inducing is the best idea, particularly for first time moms, I always sort of roll my eyes at posts like these. I was induced twice -40 1/2 weeks with DS #1 because of low fluid and 39 weeks with DS #2 for pure convenience purposes *gasp *. Flame away. My doctor allowed me to go at 39 weeks (there were childcare arrangement issues for #1) because I was 4 cm dilated and because I was induced with #1 and labored for only 6 hours with almost no tearing. #2 was even easier.

Not everyone is on the Bump and has seen 1,000 posts about inductions. Plus, the vast majority of women are totally over being pregnant by 39 weeks and just want to meet their baby. If their doctor says "Hey, wanna induce?" they are probably going to do it. Now, I agree, doctors should be giving their patients balanced information about the risks, but I don't think a woman is a "moron" for taking a doctor up on the offer.

carrotcake06 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
lol sigh.
i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.
no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.
first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

I suppose different places have different timelines. DS was born at 37w1d & the drs called him "near term". They told me that <37 was pre-term, 37-38 near term, 39-40 term, 40+ post-term.

My OB also said that the lungs of white males take the longest to mature & that any time before 38 wks is likely for NICU time. Luckily, DS didn't need to be in the NICU, but when my water broke 3 wks early, you better believe I was scared he wasn't ready.

KateAndMark · August 2010

Babies come when they are ready....I don't understand why people don't get that. My DD was a week late and she still wasn't 8lbs. There's a reason she stayed in that extra week.

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

carrotcake06:
punkfiction_v.3:
lol sigh.
i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.
no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.
first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.
I suppose different places have different timelines. DS was born at 37w1d & the drs called him "near term". They told me that <37 was pre-term, 37-38 near term, 39-40 term, 40+ post-term.
My OB also said that the lungs of white males take the longest to mature & that any time before 38 wks is likely for NICU time. Luckily, DS didn't need to be in the NICU, but when my water broke 3 wks early, you better believe I was scared he wasn't ready.

well your 2nd part is true - my dr won't induce a woman having a boy before 40wks. but i had dd2 at 38wks.

NastyAnnie · August 2010

carrotcake06:
I suppose different places have different timelines. DS was born at 37w1d & the drs called him "near term". They told me that <37 was pre-term, 37-38 near term, 39-40 term, 40+ post-term.
My OB also said that the lungs of white males take the longest to mature & that any time before 38 wks is likely for NICU time. Luckily, DS didn't need to be in the NICU, but when my water broke 3 wks early, you better believe I was scared he wasn't ready.

I got the "near-term" label too. Jack was born at 37w1d via c-section, and had WWBS (wimpy white-boy syndrome). I kept wondering, "He's had steroid shots, he's term, why is everyone so freaked out?!" Obviously it was because he wasn't ready. That couldn't be helped, but I was definitely not prepared for the realities of the situation, since I assumed 37 weeks meant we were golden.

penelopepink09 · August 2010

Ciconrad:

While I don't really think doctors just inducing for the sake of inducing is the best idea, particularly for first time moms, I always sort of roll my eyes at posts like these. I was induced twice -40 1/2 weeks with DS #1 because of low fluid and 39 weeks with DS #2 for pure convenience purposes *gasp *. Flame away. My doctor allowed me to go at 39 weeks (there were childcare arrangement issues for #1) because I was 4 cm dilated and because I was induced with #1 and labored for only 6 hours with almost no tearing. #2 was even easier.

Not everyone is on the Bump and has seen 1,000 posts about inductions. Plus, the vast majority of women are totally over being pregnant by 39 weeks and just want to meet their baby. If their doctor says "Hey, wanna induce?" they are probably going to do it. Now, I agree, doctors should be giving their patients balanced information about the risks, but I don't think a woman is a "moron" for taking a doctor up on the offer.

I think she is a moron because I asked her why her Dr wants to induce and she said because that's her policy. I asked if she had done any of her own personal research and she said "No, because I trust the professional opinion of my Dr."

Okay, while Dr's are professionals, they aren't God. They don't *always* know what is best. And if she really wants to induce at 39w, she should atleast do her research and perhaps even get a second opinion.

ASmallWonder · August 2010

I think most of the time inducing a little early is going to be ok but sometimes not. My issue is, when we all got pregnant, didn't we know we had just signed a 40+ week deal?

Sure, we were all done with being pregnant by 39 weeks. I'm also done with work by Wednesday most weeks. Doesn't mean my boss lets me go home

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

penelopepink09:
Ciconrad:

While I don't really think doctors just inducing for the sake of inducing is the best idea, particularly for first time moms, I always sort of roll my eyes at posts like these. I was induced twice -40 1/2 weeks with DS #1 because of low fluid and 39 weeks with DS #2 for pure convenience purposes *gasp *. Flame away. My doctor allowed me to go at 39 weeks (there were childcare arrangement issues for #1) because I was 4 cm dilated and because I was induced with #1 and labored for only 6 hours with almost no tearing. #2 was even easier.

Not everyone is on the Bump and has seen 1,000 posts about inductions. Plus, the vast majority of women are totally over being pregnant by 39 weeks and just want to meet their baby. If their doctor says "Hey, wanna induce?" they are probably going to do it. Now, I agree, doctors should be giving their patients balanced information about the risks, but I don't think a woman is a "moron" for taking a doctor up on the offer.

I think she is a moron because I asked her why her Dr wants to induce and she said because that's her policy. I asked if she had done any of her own personal research and she said "No, because I trust the professional opinion of my Dr."

Okay, while Dr's are professionals, they aren't God. They don't *always* know what is best. And if she really wants to induce at 39w, she should atleast do her research and perhaps even get a second opinion.

oh come ON! seriously? a second opinion?

"uh hey, my dr wants to induce me at 39wks! im just here to find out if that would be cool with you as well."

who caaaaares? lol babies come at 39wks every day. let her have her induction and be happy.

penelopepink09 · August 2010

elmoali:
I think most of the time inducing a little early is going to be ok but sometimes not. My issue is, when we all got pregnant, didn't we know we had just signed a 40+ week deal? Sure, we were all done with being pregnant by 39 weeks. I'm also done with work by Wednesday most weeks. Doesn't mean my boss lets me go home

Yes Yes

penelopepink09 · August 2010

elmoali:
I think most of the time inducing a little early is going to be ok but sometimes not. My issue is, when we all got pregnant, didn't we know we had just signed a 40+ week deal? Sure, we were all done with being pregnant by 39 weeks. I'm also done with work by Wednesday most weeks. Doesn't mean my boss lets me go home

Yes Yes

IrishBrideND · August 2010

penelopepink09:

elmoali:
I think most of the time inducing a little early is going to be ok but sometimes not. My issue is, when we all got pregnant, didn't we know we had just signed a 40+ week deal? Sure, we were all done with being pregnant by 39 weeks. I'm also done with work by Wednesday most weeks. Doesn't mean my boss lets me go home

as much as I agree with you, this is a bad analogy. the doctor is like the boss. He is telling this girl to induce. Its like the boss telling you to go home early....

sdtchica13 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
IrishBrideND:
punkfiction_v.3:

lol sigh.

i had 1 induction for high BP, 1 bc i wanted to, and another bc i was 40wks and thats when my dr schedules them.

no csection, no tears, no problems. just healthy happy babies.

first of all - your baby doesn't *need* that extra week - that is why "full term" is 37wks.

some babies do though. Some babies are born at 37 weeks with immature lungs, and its REALLY hard for them to tell if thats going to be the case or not until they are born.

I get that some people have things that make them get an induction because they want to. But I'm shocked a practice does EVERYONE at 39 weeks. That just seems unethical to me.

yeah - that surprises me too. but 40 wks around here is pretty norm.

I agree, 40 weeks seems fine to induce, but 39 for all patients is just asanine...some babies need that extra week to cook! And incidentally, 37 weeks is not considered "full term" per se, its just when a baby isn't considered "premature"...full term is still 40 weeks; thats why due dates are calculated based on a 40 week pregnancy.

OP, I want to smack the crap out of your friend; I would have KILLED to have a full term pregnancy rather than spend 63 days in a NICU wishing for my daughter to come home! Granted, my situation was way different, and a baby born at 39 weeks is usually problem free, but I would rather be 2 weeks late next pregnancy than go through what I went through this time again!

penelopepink09 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
penelopepink09:
Ciconrad:

While I don't really think doctors just inducing for the sake of inducing is the best idea, particularly for first time moms, I always sort of roll my eyes at posts like these. I was induced twice -40 1/2 weeks with DS #1 because of low fluid and 39 weeks with DS #2 for pure convenience purposes *gasp *. Flame away. My doctor allowed me to go at 39 weeks (there were childcare arrangement issues for #1) because I was 4 cm dilated and because I was induced with #1 and labored for only 6 hours with almost no tearing. #2 was even easier.

Not everyone is on the Bump and has seen 1,000 posts about inductions. Plus, the vast majority of women are totally over being pregnant by 39 weeks and just want to meet their baby. If their doctor says "Hey, wanna induce?" they are probably going to do it. Now, I agree, doctors should be giving their patients balanced information about the risks, but I don't think a woman is a "moron" for taking a doctor up on the offer.

I think she is a moron because I asked her why her Dr wants to induce and she said because that's her policy. I asked if she had done any of her own personal research and she said "No, because I trust the professional opinion of my Dr."

Okay, while Dr's are professionals, they aren't God. They don't *always* know what is best. And if she really wants to induce at 39w, she should atleast do her research and perhaps even get a second opinion.

oh come ON! seriously? a second opinion?

"uh hey, my dr wants to induce me at 39wks! im just here to find out if that would be cool with you as well."

who caaaaares? lol babies come at 39wks every day. let her have her induction and be happy.

Do you also think she shouldn't do her own research?

And apparently *she* doesn't care. Yes, lots of babies come at 39w, but that doesn't necessarily mean her baby will be ready. But I guess no one will know until the baby is born.

penelopepink09 · August 2010

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kellialayne · August 2010

Guess I am a "moron". Dr told me she could induce me anytime after 39 weeks and I took her up on it. I was induced at 39 weeks 3 days. I had already dilated to 3cm and felt like because I had progressed on my own my chances of ending up w/ a c/s were lower. I was in labor for 5 hours and one of them included me "laboring down" waiting on my dr to arrive. I think its a very personal decision and it is NO ONE's business but yours, your DH's and your doctors. I trusted my doctor and since she was ok with it so was I. TB is so bad at judging women for their decisions. Everyone thinks you should do this or that and if not you are endangering your baby. Well since no one here is my doctor I take their opinion w/ a grain of salt!

eitaknna9 · August 2010

I could not agree more. Inductions should not be about what is convenient for the doctor, or the comfort of the mother. but only made available if medically necessary.

There is a reason that pregnancy is 40 weeks from the first day of the last menstrual cycle, to give the baby ample time to develop. Just because 37 weeks is considered "full term" does not mean that the baby is fully ready to arrive. Every baby develops differently, and it can be fairly common for a pregnancy to go all the way to 42 weeks with no cause for concern.

sucredee · August 2010

I'm a first time mom and was induced at 39 weeks for convenience because my hubby needed ti go to his daughter's graduation out of state 2 weeks later. I knew the risks and was informed. I really did not want to deliver a couple of days before he had to leave...if Id end up with a C section then I would've been without help for 10 days. I was only 1 cm and 50 effaced I ended up only needing cytotec, water broke spontaneously and less than 3 hours later I had a baby. No pitocin needed. In my case it was also a blessing in disguise because I had HELLP syndrome with no symptoms so things could've potentially gone badly had I waited until I delivered on my own. I feel there's nothing wrong with 39 weeks as long as OB agrees and you are well informed. Inducing everybody at 39 weeks no matter what is a bit absurd though....

earthyaky · August 2010

I always have a little dose of reality when I read on the bump about docs in the states.

If a doctor asked their patient if they wanted to be induced early with no medical reason to do so here (in province of BC at least), they could be up against the College of Physicians (the standard setters) and potentially at risk of being in serious sh*t. Same goes for c-sections. (If reported that is.)

A patient cannot request for either without there being some sort of medical reason. And "tired of being pregnant," or "just want to hurry up and meet my little one" aren't medical reasons

MamaSquish · August 2010

kellialayne:

Guess I am a "moron". Dr told me she could induce me anytime after 39 weeks and I took her up on it. I was induced at 39 weeks 3 days. I had already dilated to 3cm and felt like because I had progressed on my own my chances of ending up w/ a c/s were lower. I was in labor for 5 hours and one of them included me "laboring down" waiting on my dr to arrive. I think its a very personal decision and it is NO ONE's business but yours, your DH's and your doctors. I trusted my doctor and since she was ok with it so was I. TB is so bad at judging women for their decisions. Everyone thinks you should do this or that and if not you are endangering your baby. Well since no one here is my doctor I take their opinion w/ a grain of salt!

Amen!

EAng · August 2010

I am not judging anyone's decision, only going to speak from my experience. I had pre-e and had no choice but to deliver at 37 weeks after 5 weeks of bedrest. By that 37th week I was so ready to deliver, I just couldn't see how I would have ever made it to 40 weeks. My baby was measuring huge. I had a c/s at 37 weeks exactly and within a day my baby was in the NICU for 10 days. After what we went through, I would have LOVED to have those extra weeks.

Yoko_Ono · August 2010

Let's not forget that OB-GYNs have one of THE HIGHEST malpractice insurance of any doctor. There are reasons that it is now considered a standard of care to induce at 39 weeks. The baby is mature at 37 weeks, and yes there are exceptions ladies, and complications can arise at 40 weeks. These doctors are highly educated and licensed to make that call, not The Bump, fortunately.

Jesus, I really cannot stand the sanctimonious tone of the lot of you at times. Holier than thou unless it happens to you.

Hip2Bsquare · August 2010

IrishBrideND:
penelopepink09:

elmoali:
I think most of the time inducing a little early is going to be ok but sometimes not. My issue is, when we all got pregnant, didn't we know we had just signed a 40+ week deal? Sure, we were all done with being pregnant by 39 weeks. I'm also done with work by Wednesday most weeks. Doesn't mean my boss lets me go home

as much as I agree with you, this is a bad analogy. the doctor is like the boss. He is telling this girl to induce. Its like the boss telling you to go home early....

Yes the Dr is ths boss but in some cases you can make a deal if your boss asks you to go home early so that you can still get the pay/hours you want or need. Some are happy to going home early and some really really want to or need to stay till the end of their scheduled shift some actually are hoping for over time.

I tried on 3rd tri to always remind women that the average first time mom goes 8 days past their due date. I think it fell on deaf ears IMO. I was 40 weeks and 5 days late when I went into labor on my own and I was completely fine and happy with that.

Kanne0729 · August 2010

Eh .. Honestly, I wouldn't have said anything to her because it really isn't anyones business other than her ob, her husband, and herself. It is strange that her doctor induces everyone at 39 weeks, but I wouldn't call her a moron just because she is choosing to take her doctors advise and go with it.

ToBeMrsT · August 2010

kellialayne:
Guess I am a "moron". Dr told me she could induce me anytime after 39 weeks and I took her up on it. I was induced at 39 weeks 3 days. I had already dilated to 3cm and felt like because I had progressed on my own my chances of ending up w/ a c/s were lower. I was in labor for 5 hours and one of them included me "laboring down" waiting on my dr to arrive. I think its a very personal decision and it is NO ONE's business but yours, your DH's and your doctors. I trusted my doctor and since she was ok with it so was I. TB is so bad at judging women for their decisions. Everyone thinks you should do this or that and if not you are endangering your baby. Well since no one here is my doctor I take their opinion w/ a grain of salt!

ALL of this! Yes

seriously OP she's talking about 39 weeks not 36 weeks--- it's only ONE week before full term. I was induced with both my babies at 39 weeks-- #1 because I was done having hyperemesis for 9 months and #2 because I had GD. My doctor has NO problem inducing ALL of his patients if they are dilating on their own a little bit.

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