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1st Trimester
Depressed, confussed, and angery
I need some help here ladies and I have no idea were else to turn.
After trying to conceive for a short time, dh and I were bless with a 2nd pregnancy. I got a BFP on July 28th. our anniversary. I went to the dr on August 3rd and she confirmed I was in the very early stages of pregnancy. The nurse's exact words " you are definitely pregnant." Because I haven't have a period in 2 years ( DS just stopped nursing ) she wanted me to get an ultrasound to date the pregnancy. I had it done on August 6th. The ultrasound tech. said it looked like I was 4 maybe 5 weeks. All he could see was two sacks. The dr. sets up another ultrasound for August 20, at a different place though because it looks like twins. DH and I are thrilled with the news. I get the second ultrasound and the tech is asking if twins run in the family and that ds will have 2 siblings to play with. She says she can only see the sacks, but they are bigger then the previous ultrasound. She says I'm probably 6 weeks along.
Now here's were it goes all wrong....
My dr. doesn't do ultrasounds, she has you go somewhere else and they have to send them back to her. So she got the second ultrasound on Monday, August 23. She NEVER called me to tell what to do next or anything. Finally I got tiered of waiting and called her Friday, August 27. As soon as I say I'm calling about an ultrasound, before I even say name, the nurse puts me hold to get the dr. The dr. gets onthe phone and says I can't see any yoke sacks, you're NOT pregnant. I'm going to have you get some more blood work done to look at your levels and we'll see about "jump-starting" your period. Call me next week if you have any questions.
I was crushed. I didn't know what to say, or ask, or do. I was driving home from work in my car going 80mph down the interstate and I needed to focus on driving through the pain so I wouldn't crash. She wants me to get the blood work done on Monday, August 31 which means she won't get it to look at till Tuesday and then I don't know whats going to happen from there. I have to wait until the middle of next week to find out what is going on. I feel that this is absolutely ridiculous. If she knew something was up, I should have been notified earlier to I could get the blood work and everything done. I would have know something definite by now, but now I have to wait half a week just for her to look at the blood work.
I took an other pregnancy test on Friday just to see what would happen. It came back positive immediately, faster then any of the others I took when I first found out. I'm so lost and confused. I can't help but thinking that maybe I'm just really early and they couldn't see anything yet, but I don't want to get my hopes up and have tem crushed again.
If anyone can give me any clue as to what may or may not be happening, please tell me.
Oh, dh and I have decided that I am going to find an other dr. With everything that has happened we feel she could have handles this way better then she did, but because she is so busy she didn't. I also want to find one that does their own ultrasounds and not send them out.
Sorry this is so long, I just need to get this out.
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Re: Depressed, confussed, and angery
that is such crap. i am so sorry for you that your dr handled it all like that!
i hope and pray everything will turn out all ok & you can get to a new doctor!!!
Find a different OB immediately. 4-6 weeks is really early to see much of anything on an ultrasound and I think your Dr. is full of complete BS. Ok...my hormonal rant is done.
I'll be hoping the best for you!
Nice bedside manner.
Anyway, you said you were around 6w? I didn't see a yoke sac at my 6w u/s and I had gone in to check b/c I was spotting. Double whammy. My OB said all looked good and she would have me back for my original first appt at 8w. I too thought the worst b/c I didn't see anything in the sac. Yeah, it's completely possible that a baby didn't develop but you are way too early for your OB to NOT do a follow up. I'd almost insist on an u/s at this point instead of waiting for bloodwork.
Oh, and I'm almost 36w. It obviously worked out and I hope the best for you too!!
BFP #2 10/29/08 ...stillborn via c/s @41w 7/20/09
missing my baby everyday
BFP #3 1/20/10 My angel's little sister Grace Madison was born September 8th 2010 @37w. We're so blessed! Thank you angel for getting her here safely.
BFP #4 12/30/11. Jackson Christopher 8/22/2012 via repeat c/s @ 37w 3d
I would find a doctor that has an us machine in their office.. My has one and we can get one everytime if we pay a fee,,, I would call around.
also I hope you can find a doctor that would be more supportive and on top of things ... It sounds to me your still pregnant.. maybe things got messed up..... I will keep you in my thoughts...
This! While it is possible for you to have a missed m/c, i have seen too many times on here were the doctor says things don't look good and the women get at least one more ultrasound before doing a D&C and lo and behold, there is baby!
Definitely get more opinions before going any further of course unless your body starts miscarrying. You will know. Good luck!!
BFP #2- 2/1/11,bleeding- 2/6/11, natural m/c @ 5wks
BFP #3- 4/29/11 - DS born 12/31/11
TTCAL buddies with LilMaggs and psumel13
How can the tech see the sacs, but the doctor can't? I wonder if they have you mixed up? I would trust a tech who does it all the time who was RIGHT THERE doing the ultrasound telling you there was two sacs. Rather than a Dr. who is getting pictures sent to him, that may or may not be yours, or a bad picture.
2nd opinion for sure! Good luck.
I would get another opinion, especially if you are getting BFPs. I was in the ER around 6/7 weeks with heavy bleeding/clots. They did the u/s and couldn't see a yolk sack either, but there was a heart beat. But a heart beat isn't always visable at this stage, either. Did a HB show up on your u/s? I was told that if there is a HB, the yolk sack is a moot point.
I hope your blood work proves your doctor wrong. Good luck.
Crummy doctor. I would get another opinion for sure.
I do not want to be a alarmist but I had something similar happen to me last year. I was pregnant or thought I was. I ended up going into the ER on base (we are military) they found a sack but no baby and ended up doing a d&c.
At that time I was 8weeks. I felt that something was not right from the beginning. There were no symptoms of pregnancy. Suddenly I was experiencing extreme back pain, nausea and my ears were ringing.
It was still a loss for us. We went from elation to distress in a few short weeks. If you have been experiencing symptoms of pregnancy and you feel certain that you are pregnant, do NOT allow an incompetent doctor to bully you. Find someone else who is willing to do their job.