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Danikat15 · August 2010

I don't get why people get so up in arms about how others choose to raise their children.

Like the vaccinations. Do it or not.

You want to breastfeed? Formula feed? Be my guest!

You want to stay at home with your kids, more power to you.

Spanking. CIO. I could go on.

I do my research and make the best parenting decisions for my family. Does that mean it's the best for yours? Of course not!

Of course, I'm not talking about those cases where it's obvious the child is in immediate danger.

mrssamuels2b · August 2010

I agree...I had someone ask me the other day if I BF and I told her no...she then went on this 5 minute rant about how much brighter BF kids are...once I explained about how I almost died giving birth and how my milk never came in she felt like S#*@!

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

bc some of those things aren't raising children. for instance, spanking means youre a piece of shiit.

and yours is an UO. not an FFFC.

BelleIsa · August 2010

While I could care less what people do in their own homes the vaccination thing gets to me because the decision to not vaccinate doesn't only affect you and your family, it affects everyone around you.

jilicious · August 2010

I get what you're saying but only one of those actually puts little lives in danger, IMO, and that's not vaccinating.

MCC1010 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:

bc some of those things aren't raising children. for instance, spanking means youre a piece of shiit.

and yours is an UO. not an FFFC.

I disagree on spanking. I got spanked. A ton. I was a rotten child. I used to do things and blame my siblings for the hell of it. Not as a teenager or pre-teen but at 3 years old. I'd clinb trees and fall off then say they did it. I would break stuff, on purpose, and say they did it. I would tell them to either do what I wanted or I would cry to get them in trouble. I needed it. Talking to me, taking stuff away, time-outs did nothing for me. I don't know if I will spank Matthew or not. Hopefully the other things work but I can't say it will at this point.

Danikat15 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
bc some of those things aren't raising children. for instance, spanking means youre a piece of shiit.

and yours is an UO. not an FFFC.

Eh, I don't see eye to eye with you on the spanking thing. I think if it's done correctly, it can be an effective parenting tool. Both of our parents spanked. Will we spank? We haven't decided, but if we do, it will be for the rare occasion where our child could have been seriously hurt.

And yes, this is a UO now that you point it out, but I wasn't around yesterday. Wink

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

Danikat15:
punkfiction_v.3:
bc some of those things aren't raising children. for instance, spanking means youre a piece of shiit.

and yours is an UO. not an FFFC.
Eh, I don't see eye to eye with you on the spanking thing. I think if it's done correctly, it can be an effective parenting tool. Both of our parents spanked. Will we spank? We haven't decided, but if we do, it will be for the rare occasion where our child could have been seriously hurt.
And yes, this is a UO now that you point it out, but I wasn't around yesterday.

its not a parenting tool its a lazy way to scare your children into doing something bc they are scared - not bc they realize it was wrong.

and your child would have been seriously hurt bc you didnt prevent it. a toddler cannot get themselves into danger - you put them in danger. hot stoves, running into the road... they can alllll be prevented. and to spank a child for that is gross.

this is my soapbox. hear me roar.

Danikat15 · August 2010

Oh FFS. That's what I'm talking about! Why should you care how I bring up my child? You worry about those three beautiful girls of yours and I'll worry about mine. And I promise you, as the child of two educators, you do not have to worry about her.

punkfiction_v.3 · August 2010

Danikat15:
Oh FFS. That's what I'm talking about! Why should you care how I bring up my child? You worry about those three beautiful girls of yours and I'll worry about mine. And I promise you, as the child of two educators, you do not have to worry about her.

i dont *care* lol i just reserve the right to judge.

and i do. bc thats what the internet is for

Danikat15 · August 2010

Judge away. Hell, I judge. But I don't press my believes on others, parenting or otherwise. My eyes just get a whole lot of exercise from all the side and rolling action they get.

MCMoo23 · August 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
Danikat15:
Oh FFS. That's what I'm talking about! Why should you care how I bring up my child? You worry about those three beautiful girls of yours and I'll worry about mine. And I promise you, as the child of two educators, you do not have to worry about her.
i dont *care* lol i just reserve the right to judge.
and i do. bc thats what the internet is for

The interwebz is for judging...

NO Surprise

I cannot believe that Punk..I just cannot believe that Wink

norman25 · August 2010

Eh, I agree with you mostly. However, it pisses me off to no end that people don't vaccinate. That is because it impacts the whole community. I cared enough to protect my child from disease, of course I will be pissed if he is in danger of still contracting the disease because a high % of my area doesn't vaccinate out of fear.

DuckLover · August 2010

Brandi Bee:

Meh, I can't help it. It bothers me a lot that people don't breastfeed and do CIO. Only because I know BM IS better for all babies and there's too much evidence that CIO is a disadvantage to children, imo.

That said, I don't think people who do FF or CIO are bad parents....

Some people can't BF though. I hate to think I'm being judged for not BF'ing when I can't help that I HAVE to FF.

IrishBrideND · August 2010

Because vaccines affects MY child as well....

and call me crazy, in extreme cases, I feel for the kid. The child is innocent. Its not their fault the parent is making bad choices for them.

That being said, if it isn't hurting the child, I don't care.

skmac05 · August 2010

Brandi Bee:
DuckLover:
Brandi Bee:

Meh, I can't help it. It bothers me a lot that people don't breastfeed and do CIO. Only because I know BM IS better for all babies and there's too much evidence that CIO is a disadvantage to children, imo.
That said, I don't think people who do FF or CIO are bad parents....
Some people can't BF though. I hate to think I'm being judged for not BF'ing when I can't help that I HAVE to FF.
Well, people who can't are a different story. There are always exceptions to every rule. I don't know your particular story. I will say that I personally know many, many women who mistook growth spurts for drying up and were too obsessed with getting their baby to STTN at two months old to keep their supply established. As far as the Bump goes, though, I really have no idea.
As for women who choose to FF from the start....I think it's just because I know how wonderful BFing is. I can't understand not being interested in it. It's just me, though, and I don't think they are bad parents.

I BF/pumped for 1 month. I HATED every second of it. I was miserable. It actually wasn't difficult for me because LO latched well (for a preemie) and my milk came in fine, so no one can say "but it gets easier. Blah, blah, blah." Switching to formula helped my sanity, and I don't care what anyone says or if they judge. My body, my rules. I could and I didn't, judge me.

Maybe if I felt that "closeness" to LO while BFing I'd have stuck to it. But all I caould think was "when are you going to finish?"

hydies33 · August 2010

I agree with PPs about vaccinations. That is something that can cause my child to become sick, so I definitely care whether or not people vaccinate.

LeapDayLinsey · August 2010

jilicious:
I get what you're saying but only one of those actually puts little lives in danger, IMO, and that's not vaccinating.

Yes

Danikat15 · August 2010

I can't believe this thread is still going. I'm not saying that vaccinating isn't right. Both DH and I are vaccinated (in fact, I got the measles vac before I left the hospital because I tested low in resistance) and we are getting Cadie vaccinated.

I do think it's pretty stupid to not vaccinate. I admit, I judge. But in the end, it's their choice (until there is some sort of intervention put in place). I don't push what I believe to be important on others who might not share my viewpoint. My point is that people get too worked up over this. I try to do what's best for my family and not dwindle on the things other people do that I cannot control.

Swainb · August 2010

Danikat15:
I can't believe this thread is still going. I'm not saying that vaccinating isn't right. Both DH and I are vaccinated (in fact, I got the measles vac before I left the hospital because I tested low in resistance) and we are getting Cadie vaccinated.
I do think it's pretty stupid to not vaccinate. I admit, I judge. But in the end, it's their choice (until there is some sort of intervention put in place). I don't push what I believe to be important on others who might not share my viewpoint. My point is that people get too worked up over this. I try to do what's best for my family and not dwindle on the things other people do that I cannot control.

I don't think any of the PPs got this post at all. I completely agree with you, I don't see other babies and wonder if they are BF, FF, CIO, vaccinated. I have my own life to worry about, I don't need to worry about other people's children if they are not being harmed.

IrishBrideND · August 2010

Danikat15:

I can't believe this thread is still going. I'm not saying that vaccinating isn't right. Both DH and I are vaccinated (in fact, I got the measles vac before I left the hospital because I tested low in resistance) and we are getting Cadie vaccinated.

I do think it's pretty stupid to not vaccinate. I admit, I judge. But in the end, it's their choice (until there is some sort of intervention put in place). I don't push what I believe to be important on others who might not share my viewpoint. My point is that people get too worked up over this. I try to do what's best for my family and not dwindle on the things other people do that I cannot control.

eh, if Its really bad and has potential for big harm, I do push my view point. And, I've seen people on here, for example, change their minds about things like vax and such when they are presented the facts. So I DO think things can change....but they won't change if you just stay quiet about it when you see someone making a huge uniformed mistake.

JMO.

Danikat15 · August 2010

I do agree Irish. In severe cases, you should speak up. But there are people who get in arms over the stupidest stuff. It doesn't harm me or my child if you FF. It doesn't harm my child if you CIO. It doesn't harm my child if you spank, feed solids before 6 months, don't use a cart cover, or use a paci. Sure, I might feel bad for your LO (and perhaps your DH, too Wink ) and I might even judge you, but unless the child is in physical or mental danger, I try to respect your parenting decisions. My way is not always right for everyone just like your way might not be the best for me.

In hindsight, the vax might be a bad example of what I'm trying to get across.

IrishBrideND · August 2010

Danikat15:

I do agree Irish. In severe cases, you should speak up. But there are people who get in arms over the stupidest stuff. It doesn't harm me or my child if you FF. It doesn't harm my child if you CIO. It doesn't harm my child if you spank, feed solids before 6 months, don't use a cart cover, or use a paci. Sure, I might feel bad for your LO (and perhaps your DH, too ) and I might even judge you, but unless the child is in physical or mental danger, I try to respect your parenting decisions. My way is not always right for everyone just like your way might be the best for me.

In hindsight, the vax might be a bad example of what I'm trying to get across.

gotcha. I agree if you take out vax

I do speak up here, but thats because people come on here to ask about X, Y, and Z. I would never randomly say to someone "have you read about the benifets of delaying solids until 6 months?"

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