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Oldies, newbies, lurkers :edited:

3ltlones3ltlones member
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Ollyoxenfreed:  There are often call outs on this board and most boards on thebump.  I think everyone can relate to the call outs and actually to most people they are appreciated because it "clears the air" so to speak.  Here's the thing.  If you are going to call out, call out using your own name.  Using an AE does absolutely nothing for anyone.

It is true that there are "oldies" who are closer to others, just as there are "newbies" who are closer to each other.  It is just the way things work.  I consider myself one of the "oldies" or olders maybe is a better word because I have been here for a long time, but I can honestly say that I have never done any ass-kissing and I think it's the wrong word to describe anything that happens here.  Why can it not just be that people agree with each other?!

I hate that this happened today and yesterday because it looks bad for new girls who are hurting, hurting from a loss that is really fresh and are looking for support from other women who have gone through the very same thing.  So to all of the girls who have been lurking, please to not allow these things that have been said scare you from posting here.  We are a very close knit community and care very deeply for everyone, we want to be your support system and need your support.  So please join in and don't let silly things as these scare you away from that.

 ETA:  thanks so much for the one star, I love them. :)

DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • Aubs13Aubs13 member

    Yes

    Thanks, 3ltlones!  Well said, as always...

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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member
    image3ltlones:

    I hate that this happened today and yesterday because it looks bad for new girls who are hurting, hurting from a loss that is really fresh and are looking for support from other women who have gone through the very same thing.  So to all of the girls who have been lurking, please to not allow these things that have been said scare you from posting here.  We are a very close knit community and care very deeply for everyone, we want to be your support system and need your support.  So please join in and don't let silly things as these scare you away from that.

     

    Yes to the whole post, but especially this!!!


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  • crystalknppcrystalknpp member
    Thank you for this! Yes

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  • armysis24armysis24
    Thank you. I agree. Yes
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  • TheGregory's07TheGregory's07
    Very well said. 
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  • jodyrmjodyrm member

    Yes

    Thanks for this!

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  • shelshel79shelshel79
    *thumbs up* 

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  • EclairAngstEclairAngst

    As a pretty new person here, I just want to say to the "oldies" please don't go hide in 6+ :(  I'm sure there is some truth to the same questions getting annoying, but I like you and I want you all to stay here too  Smile

    And all my fellow newbies and those in between, I agree with PPs.  This is such a great place and I hope no one has been scared off by this stupid (though, admittedly, entertaining at times) drama. 

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  • Olive44Olive44 member
    Well said 3ltlones.
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  • JayandTay09JayandTay09
    Thank you 3ltlones. Very well said. I missed all the drama today but I truly hope that the drama that Olley, whoever she may be, won't deter other women from coming and being a part of this board. This board is full of love and support!
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  • Emmers920Emmers920
    I have to admit that some of the stuff I have read has made me not want to post anything on this board out of fear that I might accidentally say or do something that is considered "taboo". I am new to this whole process. I have been reading things and pop in with a question every now and then but that's about it. I want to be part of the board but it's a little intimidating at times... 
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  • a&b=him&mea&b=him&me member
    Well said!
    Hi, I'm Amanda :)

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  • mandy6418mandy6418
    Wow, I sure missed a lot today. But that post was very well said.
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  • sunflowr0803sunflowr0803 member
    imageEclairAngst:

    As a pretty new person here, I just want to say to the "oldies" please don't go hide in 6+ :(  I'm sure there is some truth to the same questions getting annoying, but I like you and I want you all to stay here too  Smile

    And all my fellow newbies and those in between, I agree with PPs.  This is such a great place and I hope no one has been scared off by this stupid (though, admittedly, entertaining at times) drama. 

    Yes  This. I <3 TTCAL!

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