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Is this tacky or what?

buddhabellybuddhabelly
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Long story short, back in late-June my BIL got married.  (They gave everyone one week's notice!)  They were engaged and married all within like 6 days.  Well, we just found out they're expecting.  Shocker, huh? 

But here's the kicker...I get an invitation in the mail - sent by the bride- to a wedding shower for herself.  Is that tacky or what?  We already got them something for their shotgun wedding, but now she's hosting her own wedding shower three months after the wedding?  I'm highly annoyed to the point where I don't even want to go. 

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  • rianalsrianals member

    On the one hand, its kind of a bummer that BIL and his wife felt like they had to get married like they did (If that is what happened).  Too bad that she couldn't have all the fanfare that she (may have) wanted. 

    On the other hand, yeah.  Tacky. 

    If if bothers you enough, don't go.

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  • FirefightersBrideFirefightersBride
    yikes! that is uber tacky! To me, personally, that screams "I just want more presents!"
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  • TamTam624TamTam624

    I say completely tacky, but I am stickler on the ettiquette factor for these type of things.  I just had a conversation with my MIL that it was wrong to try and host a shower for my SIL who is having her third LO in three years and my MIL feels she should have a shower because the first two were boys and this one is going to be a girl.  I feel you have a shower for the first baby, unless there is a large gap in ages then I can kinda see it. 

     

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  • LynnJonesLynnJones
    Uh yeah she's already married.  Why does she need a shower?  That is the most ridiculous thing ever.
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  • katekirschnerkatekirschner member
    that is very tacky! my SIL had a shower a 2 years ago as they had gotten pregnant and engaged (they never did get married) but my MIL threw her a BABY shower and not a wedding shower since she'd use and NEED more of the baby stuff than random serving platters and crystal vases!
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  • thequeeenbeethequeeenbee member

    I think that what's tacky about it is that she decided to have the bridal shower after the wedding.

    However, I know I'm in the minority here, but I don't care when people organize their own wedding/baby showers, or even have 2nd baby showers. I think it's a silly thing for people to get upset about. Not everyone has thoughtful friends and family who would organize such things for them. I don't feel like they should have to miss out on those things. Just because someone wants to have a shower doesn't mean that they are some horrible, tacky, trashy person.  //random rant over.

    But yeah, in their situation it seems pretty tacky.

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  • peachypearpeachypear
    imageRianals:

    On the one hand, its kind of a bummer that BIL and his wife felt like they had to get married like they did (If that is what happened).  Too bad that she couldn't have all the fanfare that she (may have) wanted. 

    On the other hand, yeah.  Tacky. 

    If if bothers you enough, don't go.

    This. Without knowing your SIL, this strikes me as more sad than anything.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Tacky, and I would decline going.
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  • amwadasamwadas
    Pretty tacky. Is she going to throw herself a baby shower too?
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  • sarcole530sarcole530

    imageFirefightersBride:
    yikes! that is uber tacky! To me, personally, that screams "I just want more presents!"

    This.

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  • Shayna0182Shayna0182 member
    Very tacky!  I would go but I wouldn't spend more money than what you already have.  I can't believe the bride has the nerve to throw her own shower 3 months after the wedding.
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  • Sage MommySage Mommy
    Obviously she just wants gifts. Otherwise she would just have a family and friends get together. It's just weird.
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