New. And Venting

cynnnabun · August 2010

Hi! I just found out I'm pregnant a couple days ago, (with my second), and my wedding is 2 weeks away! So, I'm flipping out a little.

I didn't really want many people to know before the wedding, I just felt like it should wait. My fiance and I talked about it, we said we'd tell some people but tell them to keep it close to themselves and NO FACEBOOK. Well, my fiance told his parents without me around, and told them no facebook but didnt tell them to keep it to themselves. They told, EVERYONE. Now I'm really upset. I don't want it discussed at the wedding. And my 5 year old doesn't know yet, and I was planning on waiting awhile to tell her, but now I'm scared someone is going to say something to her.

IDK what to do and it's making me stresssssed.

Okay, vent over.

MandyBrownNoser · August 2010

Tell your kid, and quit your whining.

kjg5445 · August 2010

since the cats out of the bag id tell your child before anyone else gets a chance to.

and id kick DHs @ss for telling anyone after you agreed not to.

congrats on your wedding!

Gina418 · August 2010

LOL - it's not like people are going to think "they're only getting married because she's pregnant!" - you'll only be about 7 weeks.

I wouldn't worry about - if people talk about it at the wedding, so what? It's great news! Tell your daughter now and don't worry what will happen on the wedding day.

GL!

staycee · August 2010

you decided to start telling instead of waiting a couple weeks. If you really wanted it to wait until after the wedding.... well, you know that answer to that.

I agree with Mandy. Tell your child now.

cynnnabun · August 2010

Haha. Dramatic much?

I've had 3 miscarriages this year. I'm not telling my 5 year old until I'm a little farther along than 5 weeks. Unless you know how to explain a baby that's not even born yet dying to a 5 year old without freaking her out?

Yeaaahh, didn't think so.

staycee · August 2010

cynnnabun:

I've had 3 miscarriages this year. I'm not telling my 5 year old until I'm a little farther along than 5 weeks.

you run the risk of someone saying something to her at the wedding if your inlaws already told "Everyone".

Scout05 · August 2010

staycee:
cynnnabun:

I've had 3 miscarriages this year. I'm not telling my 5 year old until I'm a little farther along than 5 weeks.

you run the risk of someone saying something to her at the wedding if your inlaws already told "Everyone".

I have to agree.

I'm sorry for your losses.

We had told our nieces and nephew (5, 4 and 3) about our first baby when we hit the twelve week mark and had to explain to them that the baby went to heaven two days later, because he was sick and God wanted him to come be with Him, where he would be well.

You obviously don't have to go with a religous explination, but there are ways to explain loss to children and have them understand.

I would be more worried about someone confusing your child by saying something to them before you've had a chance to talk to them.

JenWen3 · August 2010

It's almost an impossible expectation to tell "some" people without others finding out. That's why DH and I agreed not to tell anyone until we were ready to tell everyone.

If you were going to be this dramatic about it, maybe you should have taken that approach.

Obviously it's too late for that now, so you're just going to have to suck it up and deal with it. I'd tell your daughter before she hears it from someone else. And if people bring it up at the wedding, just smile, say something about it being really early still, and politely change the subject. They'll likely get the hint.

cynnnabun · August 2010

Im sorry if people felt like I was being dramatic, or rude even. The plan was to tell my parents and his parents and it just got way out of proportion. I just needed to complain for a second. I'm pregnant, the wedding is 2 weeks away, I feel way more stressed then I even knew was possible.

Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone, or was rude.

Annie and Frank · August 2010

I think you have every right to be a bit upset and stressed. A wedding alone is stressful, as is a new pregnancy. I think some of the responses from others are way out of line and I hope you can let those comments roll off your back without adding to your stress.

I can't give advice on your daughter, I'm only on pregnancy #1. Whatever you decide will be fine, and since the secret seems to be out there is no sense in worrying over that since you can't do anything to change it.

Enjoy your wedding! Just think how special it will be that your newest little one will have been there, too!

MrsTotty · August 2010

Yeah, it's a crappy situation, but now that the cats out of the bag, I would tell your daughter before she finds out from Aunt Muriel or something.

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