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do i have a spoiled brat??

kgreekkgreek
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DS is only 3 months old, so he's just now getting into toys and kinda, sorta reaching for them.. he does like to shove them in his mouth... But I play with him ALL DAY LONG. I mean, what else is the poor kid going to do?? But now people are casually mentioning to me how much attention he requires and DF brought up that its a "tad ridiculous that he can't be left alone for even a few minutes.." To me, I think he's still rather young and will eventually want to play a little more on his own...

Did I do something wrong?? What are your LOs like??

Any thoughts or advice will be helpful! TIA!

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Re: do i have a spoiled brat??

  • ashleydressingashleydressing

    I think your Fiancee is a "tad ridiculous".

     

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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    At 3 months old, you can't spoil a baby. I heard comments like that all the time with my DS. He was never going to be independent because I would rock him to sleep in my arms and interact with him constantly. Ever since he learned how to crawl, he wants nothing to do with me. He's always been extremely independent. Honestly, I felt the opposite was true in my case-I held him a lot and built his confidence up which fostered his independence.

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  • stutz29stutz29
    I play with  my LO all day long!  I love it.  If he is happy I let him hang in his swing for a bit to brush my teeth or fold laundry or get dinner.  Three month old babies can not exactly entertain themselves yet and they are too young to become spoiled!
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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    I think all babies are different, but I will share my experience.  My LO required me to constantly be right with him unitl he was 3 months old.  He wanted to be held, he wanted me to shake the toy, he wanted me to watch the mobile with him.  Then right around 3 mos or a little later he started mellowing out.  I could be near him and he'd play or I could step a few feet away and load the dishwasher or something.  It's amazing to me how the transitions happen and you don't even realize and then one day you go, oh it's different than it used to be.  Hope this helps!
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  • vanverthvanverth
    Michael has been laying under his playgym for the past 2 months.  When he was 2 months, he started grabbing at the hanging toys.  Now he can spend up to 45 minutes either at his playgym or in his bouncy chair pulling on and mouthing toys.  I do not think that your little guy is spoiled and how you raise him is up to him.  However, it may make it hard to travel any time alone with him in the car if he can not play with toys alone. 
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  • CalMum_MommaCalMum_Momma
    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, momma, but your LO should be left alone sometimes. Hopefully a bumpie will post the linky for the site that talks about how much learning they do at this age when you just leave them alone (NOT unsupervised, just left alone to do what he's gonna do). When you are constantly interacting with him, you are distracting him, believe it or not, from learning what he can on his own. Right now he learns a TON just by sitting, watching, manipulating his toys, putting things in his mouth. My DS spends LOTS of time just hanging out. I change his location every once in a while, and do read, sing and play with him, but I also leave him to himself.
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  • cdc1982cdc1982 member

    DS is 4 months & it's touch & go really. Some days he loves to be on his mat playing with toys alone & other days he gets upset if we're not in sight.

    I'd say give him some time playing on the floor (do you have a gym?).  If he's not use to being alone, I'd only leave him for a few minutes at a time (if he gets upset, go play with him but leave him on the floor unless he starts crying-crying).

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  • kgreekkgreek
    Thanks ladies! I think I need to step back juuuust a little to let him be a little more independent, even if that means he fusses for a few minutes. I'd NEVER let him cry or anything. But I need to stop running to him as soon as he gets pissy that I'm not right there...
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  • MelonieKMelonieK

    Having someone tell me that my LO is spoiled at this age is probably my only STFU! moment.

    I do agree that they need a little independent time, though.

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  • WildcatPrincessWildcatPrincess member

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    I think all babies are different, but I will share my experience.  My LO required me to constantly be right with him unitl he was 3 months old.  He wanted to be held, he wanted me to shake the toy, he wanted me to watch the mobile with him.  Then right around 3 mos or a little later he started mellowing out.  I could be near him and he'd play or I could step a few feet away and load the dishwasher or something.  It's amazing to me how the transitions happen and you don't even realize and then one day you go, oh it's different than it used to be.  Hope this helps!

    This.  Out of the blue she started playing with and talking to her toys more than she was me, so I backed off a little and let her entertain herself as long as she was happy doing it.  This was a week or so after 3 months maybe?  Your LO will let you know when they want to be left alone :)

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  • SL122SL122
    At three months, mine needed constant holding/entertainment too.  Now that he's 5 months, he enjoys some independent time.  Don't push it; enjoy every minute with your little peanut. He'll be independent soon enough.
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  • jiliciousjilicious

    imagewalkerkeli:
    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, momma, but your LO should be left alone sometimes. Hopefully a bumpie will post the linky for the site that talks about how much learning they do at this age when you just leave them alone (NOT unsupervised, just left alone to do what he's gonna do). When you are constantly interacting with him, you are distracting him, believe it or not, from learning what he can on his own. Right now he learns a TON just by sitting, watching, manipulating his toys, putting things in his mouth. My DS spends LOTS of time just hanging out. I change his location every once in a while, and do read, sing and play with him, but I also leave him to himself.

    I was here to say just this exactly. LOs need interaction and quiet alert times where they can take in everything from what you do while you're working, to the shadows that play on the wall, to the sounds that occur and the dog running around, etc. It's good for them to just process stuff. When you're so young that the crumpling up of a piece of paper is like, mind blowingly awesome, some down time is good. :)

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