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Should I reach out to BGM?

PSU-NCBridePSU-NCBride
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Sorry I have been nonexistent these last few months. 2 under 2 has been keeping me pretty busy. Content but busy. 

Long story short. During our time with the BM for R's birth we set up a separate email address for both the BM and BF to use. She asked us to do it so she could send pictures and easier communication without the agency. We had a lot of heart to hearts and I thought we would communicate more often now. We received one quick email from her as soon as we got home and then I was copied on a chain mail email. I've sent a few quick emails (in addition to our monthly snail mail updates and pics) when I wanted to get her pics quickly. I don't want to bombard her so I've kept it minimal. She has told me she wants as much info on the kids as possible even though it makes her sad sometimes.

So fast forward 2 1/2 months and we haven't heard much again. I'm wondering if it is out of place or disrespectful to reach out to the BGM and give her the email we set up. We have talked to her several times on the phone (when we were in the hospital) and she has expressed an interest in meeting the kids later. She has been making them family history scrapbooks so we can have for them. I have her email now because she was on the chain email. She is very respectful of us and never wants to step over any boundaries with us. I doubt she would reach out to us until we make the first step. 

I don't want to lose contact with their birth family and I'm afraid if I wait too long it will be too late. What is the right thing to do?

PS - Last I heard BM was living with BGM and BGF and they are very close. BM would know I had contacted them.  

 

 

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Re: Should I reach out to BGM?

  • come*on*babycome*on*baby
    If its something you want to do and you know she'd be receptive, I don't see why you shouldn't/couldn't. Just make note in your email that you had heard from BM and you wanted to make sure that she (BGM) could get to see the pictures of the babies too. +:)
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  • PSU-NCBridePSU-NCBride
    Thanks guys. There aren't any safety issues on the BM side. The BF side is where we would be worried about safety. BGM is definitely the glue of the family and we want her to be part of the kids lives at some point. She is also in touch with all their siblings. Thank you for making me feel better about it.
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  • MrsBPOMrsBPO member
    I am the bioGM of an adopted child.  I am the family member who has the contact information and am able to arrange meetings between my daughter and the adoptive family.  I provide the gifts and heirlooms and treats and his parents and I mutually provide the fun meeting places (lol.)  We communicate by e-mail and telephone.  I am the one who has provided the health history and family stories to his family.  If the GM is receptive then by all means, maintain contact with her.

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