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My Friend's "Registry Strategy"

EmmaRainEmmaRain member
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A friend of mine had a baby about a year and a half ago. I was talking to her the other day and said that her family uses a strict "registry strategy." I sort of knew what was coming, but listened anyway. Here's what she said...

"Most of the things I wanted were $100 or more but I knew my friends couldn't afford to spend that on me. So, I just registered for a bunch of junk that cost around $25 - $50. Most people don't spend more than that on a shower unless they are going in with someone else. I also registered for the snap n go frame and a basic stroller. I got everything at my showers. Then I returned it all to buy the expensive stuff we really wanted. So I just got everything I wanted when I returned the junk."

My jaw sort of dropped. This was before BBRU's new return policy, by the way.

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  • CA2006CA2006 member
    wow.  how do you justify all of that when those same friends come to visit and don't see any of the things they bought for you?  THAT is tacky.
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  • busygalbusygal member

    Hey, whatever works for her.  Crass of her to admit it to you (and definitely crass to use the word "junk").

    This isn't really that bad IMO though because people who buy from the registry want you to have what you want.  If they wanted to get you a sentimental (and/or non-returnable) present, they are still free to do that. At least she followed the cardinal rule of registering for things in her guests' price range...

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  • dereks_wifedereks_wife
    That reminds me of when I was getting married, a girl on my local knot board registered at BBB.  They have a pretty loose return policy - hand you cash for your returns.  So after her shower she returned everything, got the cash, then rebought everything with their 20% off coupons.  I so don't have the time for that kind of stuff.
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  • bstngrl578bstngrl578 member
    I would be completely offended if she told me this and something that I had bought her had been referred to as "junk" and returned even though it was on her registry.
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  • Mjmksb04Mjmksb04 member
    So she didn't assume that a group of women might go in on a big ticket gift together? That is odd.
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  • StephanieBride1StephanieBride1
    Eh, whatever works. Not very classy or appreciative on her part, but I guess she got what she wanted.
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  • KaitlynDC6KaitlynDC6

    I personally wouldn't admit this to anyone, I guess, but to each their own! :)

    As a pp said, if someone buys you something off of your registry, they are just trying to get you something that you need. So, if that ends up getting returned to get something she really needs, I could care less. I don't have time to worry about what everyone else does; I have too much to do myself!

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  • Gracie&BerniesSAHMGracie&BerniesSAHM

    I had to something similar to this with my second daughter (yes I had a second baby shower but there were more than years between the two)

    Anyway, I had TONS and TONS of baby clothes, so of course I didn't register for any clothes or sleepers, etc.  I only registered for like maybe 45 things and it was all stuff we needed ya know bottles, diapers, sheets, etc

    Well, my mimi (grandma) called and wanted to see what I needed b/c all of my great aunts and cousins were wanting to know. So I told her some of the things and then followed it with "no clothes please"

    My shower came and ALL I GOT WAS CLOTHES!! And I found out that my mimi had told everyone that I had no clothes and that was what I really needed!! So I took back like $400 worth of clothing and had to buy the things I really needed!  Now I will say that I never called the stuff "junk" and I probably wouldn't admit it to anyone (other than my mom and sister and well you guys) that I did this!

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  • krystlerenee143krystlerenee143

    wow.  im surprised she has friends.

    and "junk"? nice.

    unappreciative.

    let us pray......................

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  • jillybean222jillybean222 member
    I registered for everything I could think of (but it was stuff I wanted).  When I sorted through it and realized I had things I didn't need, I returned the stuff I didn't need/want.  I bought the high end stuff (video monitor, swing, etc.) that most people wouldn't buy b/c it's too expensive.  Nothing wrong with that IMO.  It's not about being selfish, it's just being practical. 
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