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3 weeks in and going mental

jennie13jennie13
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so I'm lucky to have the newborns who scream constantly if they are not being held and/or nursed.   When 2yo DD gets home from her temporary daycare, mayhem ensues.  The twins want to eat every 1.5 hours or less, even overnight after cluster feeding all evening.  We've had a couple decent nights where they did one 3-4 hr stretch, and I get my hopes up that we're turning a corner, but the next night I'll get 1/2 hr of sleep at a time.   Please remind me this isn't forever before I send them back.  I can barely handle the 2 by myself all day and I'm terrified for next month when I have all 3.
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Re: 3 weeks in and going mental

  • daisybride78daisybride78

    I'm so sorry. :( That time period is what I call newborn hell. Its a good thing they are so cute, otherwise I can see why you'd want to send them back. :)

    Sleep deprivation is the most cruel, terrible thing, but I promise you, before you know it, the first three months will be a huge blur and your twins will be giving you hugs and kisses!  j

    Hang in there. I can't imagine doing it with a toddler, but I am sure you are doing great! Just take it one day at a time and if the house goes to hell, just let it. There will be plenty of time for cleaning later. Try to rest whenever you can.

    *HUGS!!* 

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  • LALASEPT05LALASEPT05 member
    I agree with pp...newborn hell. I really felt like weeks 2 to 8 were so difficult and there was little to enjoy about it all. I had such anxiety about managing two by myself and thought often that I would never be able to be a mother to these two children. The good news is that it does not last forever. I can't imagine doing it with a two year old either, but the good news is that in a month when you have all 3 the twins will be easier. Thinking of you - I wish I could just reach out and hug you because I know it sucks and I know the words 'it will get better' are not comforting. I just wanted the 'better' time to come and I just wanted someone to tell me exactly when it would happen.
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  • ougrad1ougrad1 member

    I have newborns and a toddler as well.  I'm FF and they are going 4 hours at a time with their formula.  MY toddler is awful as well though.  I'm hoping things get better for you.

     

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  • CarolynAndBradCarolynAndBrad
    My boys are 3 weeks today so I'm right there with you!  Have someone pick up the happiest baby on the block for you (harvey karp).  Someone gave it to me and I read it during my insomnia during the last month of pregnancy.  I've since passed it on to another newborn mom and will never go to another baby shower without it wrapped up!  Go straight to the chatpers about the 5 Ss.  The two biggest ones that work all the time for me are to shush at them, as loud as their crying (doing it close to their ear helps).  The other is holding baby with their stomach or side to you - try to avoid positions that make them feel like they're on their back.  This is the stuff that helps get mine calmed down and gets me through the time between them eating!
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