Do tickers bother you?

CashewsMommy · August 2010

I'm asking this because i think i'm *strange*.

New tickers (1st tri) do not bother me, at all. No matter who's they are.

2nd tri tickers start to bother me... but not if i know them.

3rd tri tickers, especially those close to 35w really really bother me. Strangers, people i know... it doesn't matter. They really bother me and sometimes i'll just focus in on the ticker and think about where I was at that time.

35/35 posts and tickers make me bawl. I lost Aurora on my 35/35 day.

I guess it's all about your experience.

noah-bear · August 2010

The pregnology ones creep me out, that's about it.

Adding- When I lurk on PgAL, it's not the tickers that get me, it's the time. Several people I knew before they got pregnant are having LO's or are really far along. It always knocks me back a bit when I realize someone's further than I thought they were.

Cristine · August 2010

Not at all. The only one that's ever bothered me was when I happened to see one due the same day I was. That one stung. None of the other ones bother me at all. Though most pregnancy announcements don't either with the exception of people who really have no business having a baby.

a&b=him&me · August 2010

((hugs))

I dont find myself being bothered by them, but I do analyze them and wonder what I would have been like at that time frame.

Unless of course you feel the need to post 12 tickers in your signature followed by a completely ignorant statement.... just sayin'

suntoto · August 2010

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

itsmegin · August 2010

Not really. If I venture onto a pregnancy board, I know it's my fault and I try to steel myself for seeing them. If I'm too sensitive I avoid all the boards where I might see them and be reminded of how far along I should be.

awesome-sauce · August 2010

a&b=him&me:

((hugs))

I dont find myself being bothered by them, but I do analyze them and wonder what I would have been like at that time frame.

Unless of course you feel the need to post 12 tickers in your signature followed by a completely ignorant statement.... just sayin'

I was thinking this was the issue most people had? That FH's come to this board, especially when they don't belong here, but throw the tickers and stupid ish in people's faces. That's the vibe I got anyway.

jennsadye1979 · August 2010

suntoto:

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

::Scuttles from post faster than Putin Crab::

awesome-sauce · August 2010

I agree with suntoto on this 100%:

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

ikissedthecook · August 2010

suntoto:

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

This!

FWIW, they only bothered me when I was actually m/c'ing. They rarely bother me now, and I love seeing PGAL'ers tickers.

suntoto · August 2010

jennsadye1979:
suntoto:

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

::Scuttles from post faster than Putin Crab::

Watch out, Putin might pinch you! Cool

CashewsMommy · August 2010

suntoto:

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.

This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.

Oh no i agree!!! Ticker warning are always appreciated. I was just curious to see I guess if I was the only one who was bothered by tickers the further along in their pregnancies they are.

Being bothered by them doesn't stop me from lurking on PgAL though, and i do feel happy for them. I do like seeing their tickers too. I just go back to my place and it stings for a moment. I am getting better, and it doesn't hurt for as long as it used to.

I guess that comes in the catagory of "healing".

TheGregory's07 · August 2010

jennsadye1979:
suntoto:

Here is my 2 cents. This has been DEBATED to death and in all likelihood will end up hurting peoples feelings. I don't want to hurt any PgALer's feelings. I like seeing their tickers.
This has always been the end result: It hurts some and doesn't hurt others. Warnings are appreciated so people who want to avoid can do so.
::Scuttles from post faster than Putin Crab::

millejj1 · August 2010

I'm not nearly as bothered as I was when I was m/cing. But I also didn't leave the mc/pgl board much until I was able to see them again. If I see one that is where I was when I lost the baby I get a little tinge of sadness but I'm not so distraught that I can't function.

That said..when ladies from PGAL come back to post or give us updates I love to see those! Those are the ladies that have laughed and cried with me along the way and I am so happy that they are pregnant again. They are also the ladies that recognize some folks may be sad and are sensitive to it.

In this end though, it isn't about what I'm comfortable with, it's knowing that some ladies are still very hurt by them and supporting them in their healing the same way other have supported me.

3ltlones · August 2010

It really has been debated so many times. That's why some hide their tickers and others don't. My ticker is hidden but I get why someone wouldn't hide theirs. We all know that for some of us it takes a long time to graduate to Pgal and so they want to show that. But, the warnings are the best way to go for those that it does hurt. Both sides are valid.

tlcW0714 · August 2010

They don't bother me. I usually don't pay them any attention though. I appreciate people announcing them, just b/c its respectful of our feelings, but they don't bother me. However, maybe having Keely the day before she was due makes a difference for me. I wouldn't be pregnant now anyways, and I guess I actually hit all those milestones where a lot of women didn't. Maybe that makes a difference??

pennynjon · August 2010

They don't bother me. I do think ticker warnings are a great idea. Pregnant women don't always bother me even in real life. Babies is what gets to me so bad right now. Hearing about and seeing people taking their newborn babies home hurts the most. It isn't that I am not happy for them (I am)...it just makes me so sad for us.

EclairAngst · August 2010

tlcW0714:
They don't bother me. I usually don't pay them any attention though. I appreciate people announcing them, just b/c its respectful of our feelings, but they don't bother me. However, maybe having Keely the day before she was due makes a difference for me. I wouldn't be pregnant now anyways, and I guess I actually hit all those milestones where a lot of women didn't. Maybe that makes a difference??

I hadn't thought about it this way, but this makes sense for me. Definitely the ones for due dates that are close to my EDD hurt more than others because I can see what I might have been doing/thinking/feeling.

CashewsMommy · August 2010

tlcW0714:
They don't bother me. I usually don't pay them any attention though. I appreciate people announcing them, just b/c its respectful of our feelings, but they don't bother me. However, maybe having Keely the day before she was due makes a difference for me. I wouldn't be pregnant now anyways, and I guess I actually hit all those milestones where a lot of women didn't. Maybe that makes a difference??

I think that's why the 35/35 really hit me hard, and any after that. It was a milestone I was looking forward to, and i never really did make it there.

VeilSdeGTO · August 2010

They don't bother me. What annoys me is when they have multiple tickers that tell me the exact same thing.

babymomma78 · August 2010

Cristine:
Not at all. The only one that's ever bothered me was when I happened to see one due the same day I was. That one stung. None of the other ones bother me at all. Though most pregnancy announcements don't either with the exception of people who really have no business having a baby.

This. What she said. Etc.

pandapepperoni · August 2010

Not usually. But maybe on an off day it makes me a bit sad. Embarrassed

damabo80 · August 2010

bump burp

damabo80 · August 2010

Nah. Unless they have like 10,000 of them, and I need to keep scrolling through their siggy to see other people's replies. That just annoys me.

However, seeing a ticker for a person who is due the same time I was, is a little tiny kick in the heart.

Runnergirl2242 · August 2010

I love EVERY SINGLE pgal ticker I see. I hate tickers that belong to people who have never had a loss. Its not that I hate them or I wish bad on them it is just that they all seem to take it for granted.

Kristin&Adam · August 2010

Usually they don't bother me.

I post on another board and one of the girls has the same EDD that I did, it does hurt to see hers every day and to think about where I'd be.

sunflowr0803 · August 2010

They don't bother me, for the most part. PgAL tickers are great!! Tickers usually only annoy me if they are accompanied by an annoying/phishing/goat post!

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