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Someone remind me why I got married again... {LONG}

MrsBarkel2BMrsBarkel2B
in February 2011 Moms

Ugh. Men.

So before we found out about #2 we were looking at houses and working on getting ours on the market.  We found one we love but low and behold, I'm pregnant and on bedrest so selling and moving isn't really an option right now so we're staying in our little house until after the baby is born (and however long it takes our current house to sell).  I check every once and a while and the house we love is still for sale and still beautiful. I've come to terms that two of my kids will be jammed into one little nursery and I'm making due but it kind of makes me sad. I loved preparing Maddie's room for her before she was here and there's just no space in there to do that for new baby and if the baby is a boy he's getting a very pink room.

Then we've been discussing cars.  I have a Saturn Vue which is lovely but tight when transporting the family and the furbabies around so with baby #2 there will be no room.  My husband has an older Trail Blazer that we want to get rid of and then he'll take my SUV and I'll get a minivan.  We again, found one we like, great price and now he says he thinks we'll be fine as he doesn't want a car payment (the TrailBlazer is paid off).  He now suggests I take the Trail Blazer because it's a little bigger.  My concern is how do I get both babies in during the winter months and stuff because when the infant car seat is in the Trail Blazer it hits the back of the drivers seat.  So I will have to open both sides to get both babies in which is fine but this is MI and 3 feet of snow is "mild" some winters. So I'm kind of unhappy about that. His attitude is like "Well, I won't be dealing with it so it's not my problem."  You'll be dealing with it when there's no food in the house because I can't get two kids in the car without falling on my arse in the snow and ice and get to the grocery store.

THEN we were talking about strollers.  He doesn't understand why we need a double stroller when our travel system is fine.  I asked him what we do with Maddie when the new baby is in the stroller and Maddie is tired of walking.  So I carry Maddie and push a stroller? Yeah. No. 

This is all just royally pissing me off.  He knew all of this BEFORE we got pregnant.  He WANTED another baby and now he's got cold feet about spending money.  Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.  Thank God he's at hockey tonight or I might strangle him. 

mr & mrs || 11.18.06
DD born 07.06.09 || DS born 01.24.11 || Bean 3.0 due 11.16.12
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Re: Someone remind me why I got married again... {LONG}

  • awiremanawireman
    I am in the same situation, not about a house but my husband has the attitude that everything is fine and nothing needs to change now that another baby is coming.  It doesn't affect him so it is no big deal. I have just decided to show him how much it will affect him by not doing all the things I normally do LOL!
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  • Whitney DDWhitney DD
    I am totally right there with you. My husband has not changed AT ALL and for some reason keeps treating me like I am the same person I was 6  months ago. Not tired and hurting, or sick, or emotional, or anything. And he says the rudest most insensitive things sometimes. I feel your pain. I just keep hoping it gets better soon.
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  • AMYLYN1124AMYLYN1124
    Im sorry your Husband is being this way and in a way I can understand the house issue even though it sucks. Not so sure about the vehichle situation but on to the stroller. We have decided to get whats called a sit and stand stroller. It can have the carseat atatched to it and the older one can either sit on the bench it has or stand. Walmart and babies-r-us has them. The one I want is at walmart. Seems like a great stroller and had good reviews. Hope this helps a little. Hopefully it will get better for you.
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  • munica00munica00 member
    With the car situation, I don't have any solution, other than telling him that the money you're saving on not buying a new house or decorating a new nursery, you can definitely afford a new car. With a stroller, if your family or friends want to offer any gifts, ask them to chip in and buy you a double stroller. Or look online or craigslist and barter for one. Sell your services in exchange for a used stroller. I'm very thankful for my husband and that he doesn't act like this, but I wish you luck. Any violence toward your husband is justified as your hormones are out of control! LOL
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