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i wish the temper tantrums would stop....

logan.c.herbertlogan.c.herbert
in Toddlers: 24 Months+

My 3 yo DD's temper tantrums arent horrible but I have the hardest time "punishing" her. Im not sure if its because I fear hurting her feelings or if its because I dont want to "deal" with her outburst. I feel terrible. How can I get her to listen??? Plus, I just had my 2nd child and dont want to have her feeling left out or neglected but its so hard to include her when she acts the way she does. I have started a new schedule for the day and it helps a great deal but I need a different way to teach her other than "this isnt appropriate now you have to go to your room till you calm down". Please if you have sugestions do tell... I must not being doing something right to feel this way.

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Re: i wish the temper tantrums would stop....

  • Renee070806Renee070806 member

    i dont think you are doing anything wrong..i think its just the age
    this months parenting magazine has 10 pointers that are very helpful for not losing your mind :)
    ive noticed that ignoring some things has helped a ton...as well as not yelling as often.  if i yell, he yells,..if i make a big deal out of some things he repeats them.
    i too hate to make ds cry and with a newborn it takes so much time to discipline....but the sooner you set limits the easier it is
    i only use time outs if the behavior is unacceptable (hitting..kicking etc..and hes only had three in his life)
    if he is throwing a toy, it gets taken away.  if he is climbing on furniture i take him down, if he is yelling and waking up his sister he can go to his room to yell with the door closed... he has caught on pretty quick
    its a fine line of them feeling slighted by their new sibling and letting them get away with bad behavior...but i tell ds all the time "emma and mommy want to play with you, so go to your room and calm down a bit and then join us when you arent so angry"... it took a few times but now he gets it.
    dh and i make it a point to each take time alone with ds so he doesnt feel left out and if im nursing and he wants my attention i sit on the floor and play a game or make a puzzle so they are both getting my attention.
    i think at this age its a balance of wanting to be independant and testing limits..

    good luck!

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