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TravelinMama
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Guys, I'm scared for my brother - what do I do?
TravelinMama
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I'm talking to my brother on FB chat and he's messed up right now. I've never heard him talk like this before. He's never opened up to me like this.
His gf doesn't want to be with him anymore or something, I don't know how this all came about, so he went crazy and started yelling at her, never hit her or touched her, but the cops were called and he was arrested.
Well because he was in his work uniform when it happened, he also lost his job.
He's heartbroken and really wants to be with this girl, says he was going to propose to her. They've been together since just before dh and I got married, so more than 9 years. She's a lot younger than him, she was actually under age when they started dating.
He's got to go to court now, and she's got a restraining order on him because she says she's scared of him. 
He's thinking of breaking that restraining order to give her a 6 (SIX) page letter he's wrote for her.
He just sounds horrible and in a very dark place right now and besides telling him to give it time and give her space and that I'm there for him, I don't know what else to say.....I'm just scared he's going to do something really stupid.
Thanks for reading this if you've made it this far. He's seriously got me in tears right now.
Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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Re: Guys, I'm scared for my brother - what do I do?
Whatever he does he should NOT under any circumstances break that restraining order. He's gotta try to be a little bit logical, even though it is hard.
Does he have anyone nearby who can go stay with him? Do you know any of them? Can you ask someone to go stay with him?
I know, I've stressed this to him half a dozen times already.
He says he has nobody. All his buddies are bad influences, a bunch of pot smoking, drug dealing idiots (my brother has cleaned up his life and doesn't need them around). He's living with my mom and grandma, but he really doesn't want my mom to know what's going on right now.
I know, I've stressed this to him half a dozen times already.
He says he has nobody. All his buddies are bad influences, a bunch of pot smoking, drug dealing idiots (my brother has cleaned up his life and doesn't need them around). He's living with my mom and grandma, but he really doesn't want my mom to know what's going on right now. Plus my mom really doesn't like his gf.
If you really think he's going to break that order I'd think maybe it would be better to go against what he wants and get your mom involved.
Oh hon.
I don't even have any advice. I'm just sorry you and he are going through this.
I hope he calms down a little bit and realizes he has to act with a cool head right now.
Ditto this. He could get into serious trouble.
Oh wow, I feel for you as it got to be one of the hardest thing to watch your brother go through. He does not sound like he is in a logical state of mind. Hopefully he does not break the restraining order and stop further harm to himself with the law, relationships and himself.
Is there anyone you can call to keep an eye on him or keep him company? I think some sort of distraction might help him rather than him dwelling on his current state of mind.
T&P are sent to you and your brother.
I'm so sorry, Marie. Do you know any friends of his that are closer, that could talk to him? If it's meant to be, then they will have their chance to get back together. There is no way that he should break that restraining order - it is just going to hurt him (and any possible future that they have together.)
Big (((HUGS)))