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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
CTri17
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s/o when will you "abandon" your child
CTri17
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Not my words--- from 3rd tri
So I'm curious,
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours)
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)
With someone else?
Overnight?
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Re: s/o when will you "abandon" your child
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) Actually I left her with my mom when she was 2 days old, I fed her and DH and I had to run and grab something from target, mom offered to watch her, we were gone no more than 30 min)
As far as DH I would go grocery shopping and leave him with milk and be gone for an hour or so , starting at 1 week.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)I had a Spinning certification that was 8+ hours long that he watched her the whole day, I left milk and pumped while I was gone, I was 6 weeks post partum
With someone else? I think we went on our first date when she was about 2 mo old we were gone a few hours (again left milk)
Overnight?not yet, but we don't have any family nearby...I wouldn't be comfortable with it for a while yet thoughWhen (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) I've left him with his Dad and we left him for 30 minutes with my mom when she was here.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)No chance yet.
With someone else? No chance
Overnight?Not yet. My mil wants us to when she comes to visit next month but I am not sure I am ready.[color=#FF0000]Mom to 5 girls 23,22,18,9,7 and one sweet Wonderboy almost 4[/color]
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She was 2mths old ( when i went back to work )... DH kept / keeps her on his days off during the week.
She was 3 1/2 mths when we left her with my MIL for 3 hours to go to dinner for my b-day.
She has yet to spend overnight with anyone.
edited.. that should have said almost 9 months, not 8.
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) - When I went back to work, June 1st, DH picks up the baby from my parent's house around 4pm each day, I get home around 7pm
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) - Ummm, I think it was about 6 weeks ago, I went out for a girl's night... Much needed one at that!
With someone else? - June 1st, my parents, went back to work
Overnight? - This was 2 weeks ago. DH shocked me with a suprise evening out and a penthouse suite! He even remembered to pack my breastpump and 4 dresses for me to chose from that night! (He had me meet him at the bar in a 4 star hotel via a note in a dozen roses delivered to my office that said "meet me at 6pm @ "hotel bar". Your husband won't mind.) How do you say no to THAT?!
We left him for 4 hours with my parents on our anniversary 5/27 (so, he was 4 1/2 months old).
We left him for 2 hours with my ILs on the same day...
He won't be staying overnight somewhere until we drop the nighttime feedings <---- yes, plural...
He will only stay overnight with family until he's old enough to communicate with us about inappropriate behavior on the part of anyone he is with. I want my son to be able to tell me when someone has touched him or said something in a way that makes him uncomfortable.
He has stayed with DH alone for maybe an hour or so, mostly because DH and I are CRAZY and are together 98% of our waking lives once DH is done with work.
I left my daughter alone with my husband for an hour or so when she was about a week old. I think I went to the grocery store.
When I went back to work she stayed home with Daddy for a few days (she was about 3 months). A week later she started daycare. Around that same time we also planned our first date night and left her for the evening with a babysitter.
We still haven't left her overnight.
When DS was about 10 days old, DH and I went grocery shopping together and my mom kept the baby at home with her (I EPed back then). We were gone about 2 hours.
It was painful for me to be out very long that early, but I left him with DH for a shopping trip not long after that. Over 2 hours, maybe he was a month old.
He went to daycare (10 hours/day) at 6 weeks.
He was 2 months old on our 1 year anniversary, and we left him with my parents for the night. That 24ish hours is the longest I've been away from him.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) B was about a week old -- I was going stir crazy and went grocery shopping
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) Just a few weeks ago -- our DCP was closed for vacation and DH stayed with B for one of the days I couldn't get out of work
With someone else? My mom baby-sat Brody for about 3 hours when he was a month old so me and DH could run some errands
Overnight? Not yet, but my parents will be taking Brody for a weekend next month when me and DH travel to celebrate our wedding anniversary
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) I think I went grocery shopping within the first week for something quick while DS and the girls were sleeping.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) I actually had a shoot at 2 weeks pp and was gone about 2-3 hours. Just short enough to not need a bottle. Went back to "real" shoots at 4 weeks pp where I was gone ~4 hours and had my first wedding back at 3 months so I was gone for about 10-12 hours.
With someone else? I can't remember, but it was about 2 months when we left DS with our sitter for the first time. She's been watching our kids since DD#1 was about 8 months old.
Overnight? I won't until I'm done BF (so about a year). Too much of a PITA for me to have to pump and whatnot. I still haven't left the girls overnight except when I was at the hospital having a baby. Not that I have a problem with it. I just haven't. Besides, with me working a lot of nights and weekends and DH working a "regular" job, we don't get a ton of family time. We'd rather have our time off be together...for now. Hoping to get away just DH and I sometime next fall or summer.When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours)
5 weeks old. He called an hour after I left and told me to come home because the baby was crying and he couldn't fix him. hahahaha
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)
Starting when DS was 7 weeks old, he watches him for 3-4 hours 2xs a week while I work a part time job.
With someone else?
He's only stayed with my parents. Not a babysitter or anyone else yet.
Overnight?
I want to say 2 or 3 months old. However, "overnight" is defined as I leave him at my parents at 7pm and come back around 10am the next morning. lol. I have yet to leave him for an extended period of time.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) I don't remember, less than a month I believe. My parents also watched him for 2 hours the day after we got home from the hospital so we could both take a nap (we were in the house, too-just in the other room.)
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)He was 3 months I think? Or maybe 2.5?
With someone else? 4 months old (my parents), but that's only happened 3 times total lol.
Overnight?Haven't yet, and aren't planning on it for a whileWhen (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours)? The weekend after we came home from the hospital. MY SIL and I went shopping.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)? Same day.
With someone else? The week after we came home. DH and I went out to dinner.
Overnight? In June. He was born in March.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) I left DD with DH when she was about 3 or 4 days old. We ran out of newborn size sleepers and DD didn't have anything to wear (we didn't stock up on NB clothes). My mom was here so she took me to JC Penney to buy DD some sleepers. I could hardly walk but it was nice to get out for a bit. We were gone 30-45 minutes.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) 2 hours, about 2 months old
With someone else? 2 months old, for about 2 hours
Overnight? Never. I don't know when I'll be ready for this. Not anytime soon.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): His dad was the only one who was allowed in his NICU unit while I was in the hospital. He was about 12 hours old.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): Um...Probably the first week after we got him home. It's his *dad*, not a random homeless person off the street. Lol
With someone else? He stayed with my grandmother for an hour or so while Bun and I went and got lunch when he was about 6 weeks old.
Overnight? My parents kept him overnight (two days in a row!) when he was 2 months old.
This is hilarious.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours):
Well, I don't know if DH has ever been alone with Tegan for less than 2 hours. He's home with her 2 days a week for 8+ hours, while I'm at work. I did a trial run being away from her and went with a friend to dinner and a movie when she was 7 weeks old. That was the first time he was alone with her.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours):
See previous answer
With someone else?
We left her with my mom the night we got home from the hospital to run to Walgreens (less than a mile away) to pick up my prescriptions. We were gone for less than 30 minutes and I was panicked the whole time, lol!
We didn't leave her again until she was about 8 weeks old and I left her with the sitter while I went to work.
Overnight?
I still haven't left her overnight. I thought I was going to this summer when I went to see the midnight showing of Eclipse, but my friend offered to let me pick her up at 3 AM and so I did. I don't have a problem with leaving her overnight, we just haven't had a need to leave her overnight.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH, for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours)
Within the first few weeks I went out for a night with friends for a few hours. Before that, he'd watch DS while I was napping, if that counts.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours)
A few weeks - I was gone for 3 hours that first night out with friends.
With someone else?
My parents watched him at 2 months so we could have a date night.
Overnight?
Nothing official yet. My ILs did "watch" him one night while we were camping. We stayed in the main bedroom to get sleep and he slept out in the main room with them. Since then, he always stays in the camper with them while we're out in a tent, but we always have the monitor on so we can hear him until MIL gets up.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) - About 6 weeks when I started going to WW meetings weekly.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) - I don't think it's happened yet. Not that I don't trust him, we just haven't had the occasion for it. I usually take the baby grocery shopping and leave my oldest home with DH
With someone else? - At 1 week the boys stayed with my Mom while DH took me to the ER because my incision was bleeding. Other than that, it was daycare at 3 months.
Overnight? - hasn't happened yet. We don't have any family nearby and if I go home with just the boys I stay with my Mom. Last summer we all went home for a wedding and stayed at a hotel. My Mom took my oldest overnight and I think that was his first overnight outing at 4.5 years old. Yikes!When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): I left DS alone with SO for about an hour or so when he was two weeks old. My mom was over and took me to get my nails done.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): Probably not until he was 2 months. Not by choice though. I was on maternity leave and healing from a CS so I didn't go out much.
With someone else? When DS was 2 and a half months old my mom watched him for the day while both SO and I were at work. She came to visit me at work though
Overnight? I haven't yet. I can't bring myself to be away from him that long. I suppose at some point I'll get over it. Until then, I'll be there to put him to bed every night.
1) I don't remember
2) a month... but it was only for 3 hours. I went to a baby shower for a pair of twins born a week after our bay
3) my mom for a couple hours here and there, and 3 months with one of my friends for our anniversary
4) next month when we have a wedding to go to
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours) When he was about 1 month I left him with DH to go grocery shopping.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours) We left DS with my MIL when he was 13 days old (had been home from the hospital for 3 days) to go to DHs Christmas party for work. We were gone about 3-4 hours. First time with DH, he was 3 months old and I went to a nestie GTG and was gone for about 4 hours.
With someone else? When DS was 13 days old (had been home from the hospital for 3 days) we left him with MIL while we went to my DH's Christmas party for work and we were gone about 3-4 hours.
Overnight? About 3 weeks ago when both DH and I had to work late and he was already asleep at my moms so we left him.When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): I think DD was 2 months old
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): Umm, haven't done that one yet.
With someone else? DD was about 3 weeks old when MIL started coming to my house weekly to watch her
Overnight? Probably not until I'm done pumping. I don't see the point in having DD sleep somewhere else overnight if I'm still going to wake up to pumpWhen (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): DH wasn't alone...his B of a mother came to see Mason for the first time...I don't like her, so I left for a quick trip to Target.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): Ummmmmm....March 17, 2010 when I came back to work...he was 3 months.
With someone else? March 18, 2010 when DH had an interview, I had to take LO to my aunt's house.
Overnight? WHAT??? NEVER!!!
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3rd time mom here so leaving my children with people is old hat and not that horrible anymore. Actually, I NEED time away from my children at least once a week so that I can get some "me" time and then be able to focus on being the mother I need to and want to be for them.
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO#3 alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): I was going to the grocery store by myself 2 days after I had him. His (early) birth was unexpected and we needed groceries, my husband cannot be trusted to buy groceries, even with a list.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): I went to mom's night when he was about 2.5/3 months old.
With someone else? He has stayed with Grandma a couple times and my DH and I just had date night the other night and our 16 yo niece came to babysit.
Overnight? Not over night yet, but that's only because we haven't had an event where we needed to. We're planning on me and DH taking a 2 day weekend for our anniversary this year. Baby along with his brothers will go to my SIL's house.
i can't remember exact time frames for these things but i do know that the first time i left ds overnight was at 6 weeks when i went to vegas for a weekend (so really 2 overnights) for a bachelorrete party. ds was w/dh.
also, dh and i take turns all of the time who is out and about w/or w/o ds. it's not like just one of us always stays and the other one of us roams free. dh and i have also gone on dates where ds was w/my parents and stuff while we were out for hours (and also one overnight date). and this past weekend ds was w/my parents b/c we were in vegas for my b-day.
Annie I couldn't agree more! Leaving the baby overnight or with someone thats not your DH I can understand waiting a little longer, but seriously? It's your child's father, ergo he is supposed to be able to watch his child for an extended period of time. Granted, if you are exclusively breastfeeding, then I understand not being able to leave your LO with your DH or others for more than 2 hours or so, but otherwise, thats insane! Every mommy deserves a break once in a while!
Granted I think my situation is very different because LO was in the NICU for 9 weeks and I had to leave her every night, but here goes:
When (if you remember) did you first leave LO alone with your DH , for a short amount of time (less than 2 hours): Once she came home from the NICU (she was just 2 months old), probably within the first week so I could go grocery shopping.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): Probably within the first month after we got her home. I would have trusted him sooner, but I had nothing to do that required me leaving for a long time.
With someone else? Within the first weekn after she came home. My MIL would come over several times a week and watch her for an hour or so while I ran errands or went to the gym.
Overnight? My inlaws kept her overnight on July 4th, one day shy of her 4 month birthday.
What about an extended amount of time with DH(2-8hours): When DS was 4 months old. DH had him along all summer on the days I worked
With someone else? When he was 5 days old and I had an appendicitis and my mom had to come pick him up from the ER and take him back to our house and stay with him that night while I was in the hospital and had my appendix out the next morning
Overnight? 5 days...completely unwillingly though and I actually tried to fight the dr and make them let me go home for the night since I couldn't have surgery until the next morning