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alli&pat
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repeat c-section mamas
alli&pat
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i had an unplanned/emergency c-section w/ DS and am trying to decide between a repeat C or a vbac. i'm leaning toward a C but my biggest concern is caring for my children after the birth. DH will have 2 weeks off and then it will be all on me. DS is 23.5 #s - will i be able to lift him after the C? are you making any plans to care for your older kids after your SO goes back to work?
DS - June 2009
DD - February 2011
DD - February 2011
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Re: repeat c-section mamas
I plan to have a repeat C only because my recovery from my first went really, really well. Of course, every pregnancy and every surgery is different but I am hoping this will be the case again this time - Especially since it will not be "planned," rather than happening after an exhausting two-day failed induction. (With no sleep!)
That said, though, I am lucky in that DH gets 30 working days off for paternity leave, so... about 5 1/2 weeks.
Do you have anyone you can call upon for help? Mother, MIL, etc? If so, I would just talk with them now and explain that because of the C, you may need additional help once DH goes back to work.
I am really hoping to do a VBAC, but who knows what will happen.
After my surgery with my son my husband was home & was able to use his vacation time. We are hoping the same thing happens this time & he can use his vacation time when the new baby comes b/c if I do end up in surgery again I am most definately going to need help.
Clomid M/C 8 weeks 2/08 *IVF #1-DD born 3/09
*Surprise BFP-T18 baby lost at 13w 1/10 *FET #1-DS born 2/11
I will be having a repeat C for a number of reasons and have already enlisted the help of my step mom, mom and MIL. My son will be 2.5 at that time so he is pretty independent as far as having to be picked up, etc. It took about two weeks after my first C to start feeling a little bit more "normal" - I started doing laundry 1.5 weeks after getting home with my first.
Good Luck!
I had an emergency c/s with DS as well and have to have one this time around as well because my OB doesn't do VBACs. DS is well over 30 pounds and so I know I will not be able to lift him. After DD is born, DH will take 2 weeks off of work to stay home with us and after that my mom will probably take a week as well. So I'll have 3 weeks. I'm hoping that my grandmother comes from Italy as well, (she came to watch DS for us when I went back to work, she stayed from when he was 4 months until 10 months, she wants to do the same thing this time since I will go back to work mid-school year DD will be 3 or 4 months when I go back and then next September she will go to daycare at 9 months, but she's not sure if she will be able to come this time. If not I'm gonna stay home until April, then DH will take family leave until the end of the school year. We don't want to put DD in daycare at 4 months old, that's way too young for us). If she does then I will have help for a longer amount of time. It's gonna be tough, but has to be do-able, right?!
Good luck!
This will be my third c-section. My first was an emergency one, and I planned the second after speaking with my doctor. I am getting my tubes tied with the third. The second was a whole lot easier to recover from than the first. I asked my Dr. for one of those stretchy, c-section recovery bands. It was a miracle. If your insurance won't cover it, I would go buy myself one. My DS was a little older, but I started teaching him to do some tasks by himself. I taught him how to get in the car on his own, and that was a big help. I am a little worried about how to get things taken care of with the third. My DD will only be 22 months when the LO gets here.
Just remember that you can't drive for about 2 weeks after surgery, so plan for that.
My first c-section was unplanned and he hardest to recover from. I weighed my options big time before deciding to have a repeat c-section with my second. I didn't want to labor all that time again just to have another c-section. It was nice to schedule it, as lousy as it sounds.
When my #2 son was born my oldest son was 16 months, not sure what he weighed, but by the time DH went back to work(he took a week off from the time I came home from the hospital) I was fine at home with the two of them. I had the occasional day where we went to Gma's to hang out for the afternoon so I could sit around a little more than normal, but overall I was good to go.
I had a c-section with my third too, and my oldest was not quite three and my middle guy was 17 months. My Dad and Stepmom came into town for the week and spent the days at home with me so I could tend to LO while they helped out more with the older boys, but after that week it was back to just me and the boys, and an afternoon with Gma here and there.
I think you'll do fine with a c-section, my biggest struggle was just finding something to occupy DS while the new guy was getting the hang of nursing, so I wasn't getting up every 5 minutes. Which is something to think about regardless of having a c-section.
I am planning a VBAC. You technically will not be able to lift DC #2 after a c-section. The rule for me was nothing heavier than your newborn.
I had a good recovery last time, but I don't think that is reason enough for me to have another one! I do not want to do that again. I would like to be able to easily care for both of my kids when I am alone, which will happen within about a week for me.