Pregnant after a Loss

If there is a biggest twat award then I have a winner!

H's bff was in town over the weekend and we do things with he and his wife when they are here or we are up north, obviously with my situation only h went out with them (bf (minus wife, she was shopping) was nice enough to come by and visit me in the hospital).  7 years ago his wife was pregnant and had to be rushed to a hospital 4 hours away because her water broke at 33 weeks.  They were in the hospitl for 4 weeks and fortunately everything turned out fine with their little girl and 9 months later she got pregnant again and had a healthy, normal pregnancy.  Over the years we have always sent Christmas and birthday gifts and have always asked for pics to hang on our fridge.  We have always asked about their girls and spent time with them when we're in town despite what we were going through, because it's not their fault and we adore their girls.  This most recent year we didn't send gifts because we started the adoption procedure and had to cut back in places (bf is one of our adoption references).  BF's wife wants another baby but bf does not.  Now keep in mind they know about all of our losses and our 4 year struggle to have a baby, on several drunk occasions she has offered to be our surrogate.

Since I have been in the hospital she has not called or texted me once.  H asked her Saturday night what was going on and this was her response:  I don't feel like hearing her talk about the baby.

Can anyone beat this?

 

 

Re: If there is a biggest twat award then I have a winner!

  • Indifferentx1,000,000 - WTH!?  I'm so sorry she's such a douchebag.  Wow.
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  • She is an asshat and definitely deserving of a punch to the vag.
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  • Wow! Safe to say the award definitely goes to her!!!
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  • WOW!  She needs a total throat punch!

    Otherwise...how are you feeling? 

  • Eventually there will be a text, phone call or gift sent.  Phone or text will get a "go fvck yourself" response or the gift will be sent with that message attached.  H has been informed we will never do anything with them again, bf I'm fine with, but not her.
  • What a hag.
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  • Bet that shows you where you stand in her friendship book.  Seriously, what a twatwaffle!  
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  • Are you effing kidding me?  She deserves the award!
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  • I hate her with the fire of a thousand suns. 

    If she's that bitter about not having another kid, how can she possibly stand to be around her oh-so-evil DH?

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  • OH MY! I can't believe she said that?!?! Was she drunk or something?!?!
  • Yup, I'd say she definitely gets the award!  What a DB!!!
  • Nominated and won! I have a blunt mouth and DH doesn't censor me like ever, but if I had the audacity to say this to a friend that had been as supportive as yall and been through what yall had been through...he might have backhanded me! And I wouldn't blame him! That was so uncalled for and just wrong!
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  • imagestr8ota:
    Eventually there will be a text, phone call or gift sent.  Phone or text will get a "go fvck yourself" response or the gift will be sent with that message attached.  H has been informed we will never do anything with them again, bf I'm fine with, but not her.

    BF and their girls, that biitch no longer exists!

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  • There aren't even words for how outrageous that is.  Eff her.
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  • Holy mothereffing eff!!!  She absolutely wins the biggest twat award.  OMG.  That is unbelievable.
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  • wow that is fvcked up
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  • Yep, she wins the award, but I must say kudos to you and your husband for taking a united stand on how you'll handle them in future.If a person is going to be that rude, they're not really a friend to begin with and I think you're saving yourself a lot of heartache.

    And you've got to feel like you're supported if your DH is just as offended. I have to admit, my DH and I have a good relationship, but I don't know that he'd be as willing to take that strong of a stance if this happened to us. I probably would, but I'm pretty ready and quick to admit when a friendship has run its course for one reason or another.

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  • Oh H#LL NO!  That's just rude - she wins!  I'm sorry, you don't need that kind of frustration.  [[hugs]]

  • If you see her again you need to give her a swift punch to the throat. I can't imagine even a heartless person saying something as low as that. That takes a special kind of person.
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  • WOW I would never speak to her again. What a douche! I'm sorry
  • Indifferent WOW. She is a class A b!tch! I very much agree that she wins the award and that she should be persona non grata at your house FOREVER.

    I am so sorry that she said something so incredibly heartless. 

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  • OMGOSH words can not even........

    I'm so sorry. 

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  • Wow, she definitely wins the award.  Sorry you had to hear this.
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  • What.The.Fvck?? What an insensitive biitch
  • BTW, what did your H say to her after that comment?

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  • no, no I can not beat that. What a douch!
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    BTW, what did your H say to her after that comment?

    She said something like I hope you don't hate me, he didn't respond, he just walked away.

  • imageLemonLime10:
    OH MY! I can't believe she said that?!?! Was she drunk or something?!?!

    She was drunk that night but considering I have been here for 4 weeks and have not heard from her that being drunk did not matter.

  • imagestr8ota:
    imagevlewis515:

    BTW, what did your H say to her after that comment?

    She said something like I hope you don't hate me, he didn't respond, he just walked away.

    Biitch...I'm done with her and I don't even know her! Meanwhile her poor H is probably trying to use the "Oh she was drunk and stupid she didn't mean anything by it!"

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  • Unreal.  Indifferent  What a cvnt!

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  • Wow, I can't believe how insensitive she is.  I am ready to punch her for you.

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  • WTF?!?! That is soooo wrong!
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  • Indifferent Wow. What a b!tch!
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  • OMG, I want to smack that b!tch for you!  How rude!  If she really is a friend she'll march her butt into that hospital and support you.
  • Wow!  Just wow! No words...
  • There are no words to express how awful that she is.... sorry about that....
  • Dang.  She must be a joy to be around.
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