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My mom keeps buying me non-maternity clothes...

PiscesFishPiscesFish
in February 2011 Moms

... which I really don't get.  When we first told her about the baby (at maybe 11 weeks?), she insisted that I shouldn't show/need maternity clothes until around 20+ weeks, because that's how she was while pregnant with me.

Of course, we are two different women, two different pregnancies, not to mention we're built completely differently and I'm 11 years older than she was while pregnant with me.

She's seen me or seen pictures of me, and commented that, "Wow, you've really popped out; you need to be careful about your weight gain"  And yet insists upon buying me regular-sized clothes that are one size bigger than or the same as my pre-pregnancy size, which she insists I can wear to work, my cousin's wedding, etc.  If I can even get the zippers on these clothes up,  I look ridiculous.  The dresses and skirts she sends me are noticeably shorter in the front than in the back.  I'm sure they'd be great if it were, say, next spring and I were still trying to lose the baby weight, assuming I were even planning to return to work.

I feel terrible since she's not rolling in dough right now, and it's like, if you want to help, buy maternity clothes.  All the weight I've put on, is in my stomach; usually the weight gain associated with going up a size is evenly distributed throughout the body.

I don't want to sound ungrateful, it's really sweet of her to want to help, but she's driving me nuts!  I get that she thinks I shouldn't need maternity clothes, but guess what, I am now big enough that I do!

Need advice on a tactful way to handle this tactfully....

Mom to a beautiful boy and girl!
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Re: My mom keeps buying me non-maternity clothes...

  • pattipupattipu
    I would let her know that the clothes are uncomfortable and ask for receipts to exchange for maternity clothes. 
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  • PiscesFishPiscesFish
    This is the thing... she sees me in them, and insists they look great, I don't need to be in maternity clothes yet, etc.  It's so strange.
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    sometime you need to be really blunt about things and tell her to stop because none of it fits and you will just give it away (even if you keep it for post baby) that shock factor should get her in gear.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    let her know that you need maternity clothes or receipts so you can return the regular clothes to get maternity ones.
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  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member
    My mom keeps talking about how big I am, too, so I understand how annoying it is.  I would just tell her that you're really uncomfortable in the clothes and that they put too much pressure on your belly.  That way it's not up to debate - she can't tell how comfortable or uncomfortable you are.
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  • PiscesFishPiscesFish

    Thanks ladies.  I think my issue is more that I'm so annoyed with her - like either she actually is in denial about the pregnancy or just isn't freaking listening to me.

    My mom acts like she's very happy about the baby, but I'm not sure if this isn't some passive aggressive "punishment" for my refusal to let her and my dad announce the news widely until after 20 weeks. (ie, "I won't acknowledge you're pregnant until you let me share the news with all the gossipy cows"  in the small town where I grew up/she still lives). It's causing a lot of hard feelings between me and my family, but FI and I have our reasons and it's our baby, KWIM?

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  • TessCPDFTessCPDF

    imageBBHME:
    just tell her that you're really uncomfortable in the clothes and that they put too much pressure on your belly.  That way it's not up to debate - she can't tell how comfortable or uncomfortable you are.

    This is exactly what I was going to say.  She doesn't know if you don't want anything touching your belly/pressing on your belly. 

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  • PiscesFishPiscesFish
    imageTessCPDF:

    imageBBHME:
    just tell her that you're really uncomfortable in the clothes and that they put too much pressure on your belly.  That way it's not up to debate - she can't tell how comfortable or uncomfortable you are.

    This is exactly what I was going to say.  She doesn't know if you don't want anything touching your belly/pressing on your belly. 

    It's not even so much that "they're uncomfortable" - it's that they obviously don't fit and look ridiculous!

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