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February 2011 Moms
Jenniferk08
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NBR:Am I being a B!tch?
Jenniferk08
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My uncle had surgery last week and is not permitted to drive. He and mom got into a fight because he is going through serious nicotine withdrawl and she threw out his cigarettes. Part of his surgery is the result of smoking. I hung out with him for a few hrs on friday and things were ok, probably because I'm an ex-smoker (quit cold turkey) so I have no sympathy for whining about how hard it is.
Tonight she asked if I could take him to verizon because his cell phone is broken. I explained that I am busy tomorrow so she asked about monday. If do this, I have to drive from work to his place (30 minutes the opposite direction of my house) to the cell phone store (20 minutes back towards my job) back to his place (20 minutes again) and finally head home (1hr and during construction time so most likely longer). This does not include the time at the store, getting him dinner etc.
During this time my 2 dogs will have been in my house since 7am and will not be let out or fed until whatever time I get home. H is working over an hr away from our house until close to midnight.
Am I being a b!tch because I think this is ridiculous for her to ask of me or the fact that I am saying no?
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Re: NBR:Am I being a B!tch?
I don't think you're being a b!tch. I feel the same way every time I say no to someone in my family though. DH gets so upset because there are certain people in my family who just take and never give anything back. But, for some reason, I always feel awful saying no.
m/c 12/25/09 (5w5d) mm/c D&C 4/9/10 (11w1d) Take home baby 2/22/11
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First of all what does your mother do all day long - work further away than you do or does she just sit at home waiting on you to do all this?
If she is at home why can she not take care of him with his phone problem? Instead of putting it on you. I somewhat agree with vflipo on this one.
Wilma
They got into a huge fight over her care (the throwing out of his cigarettes, not taking him to the store to buy them etc). I do want to help out and I feel horrible because he is a great uncle to me, I know he would give me money for gas and more but it's just the time factor and driving back and forth.
She and I are going to talk today but I really can't do this and I know it will turn into a fight, just about every time I say no to something that's what happens. I feel like even if she can't do it there's no reason why my younger sister (who lives with her so is also 10 minutes or so away) can't do it other than he was nasty with her as well so she doesn't want to.
I'm with danielle here (although I completely agree that this is out of your way, inconvenient, and annoying that someone else, like your sister, can't do it instead). There are many things that could be more out of your way, more inconvenient, and more annoying. I would say to do this favor and try to make it enjoyable in some way for you too (is there an errand you can run while he's at the store? a favorite restaurant you can treat yourself to for dinner?). Good luck.