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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Leaving
I've decided to leave this board. I don't fee like it's helping me at all and actually is making things worse. Reading everyone's stories just makes me more and more scared of ever trying again. I know it's reality and I can't hide from it and bad things do happen but at this point, it's not helping me.
I also haven't felt that much support, maybe it's just me and my present state but that's how I feel. I'm very sorry for everyone's losses on this board and I wish you all luck as you move forward through your grief and making the decision to TTC again or not.
Good luck and good bye!
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Re: Leaving
This board is not always the best place for you when you're grieving. It was 6 months before I was in a place where I could even come here. I hope that you find the support that you need quickly and easily along other avenues. Please know that if you ever come to a point where you think this place can be a help that we will be here.
All the best.
I agree - it took me about three weeks post-loss to feel comfortable sharing. I'm sorry you haven't felt supported, and I understand. It is so hard to see more people joining each day; sort of brings all of the feelings back.
I hope at some point you feel stronger, and feel like you might gain support on here and GIVE support. I wish you the best.
Umm from the last 2 posts you had on this board it looks like you got some pretty great support from these ladies.
We are all going through pretty much the same thing and its sounds like you wanted everyone to drop what they were doing and cry with you. Just because you didn't get 50 replies of everyone saying the same thing doesn't mean you need to announce that you didn't get any support here.
Best of luck to you!
I'm sorry for your loss, and I am sorry you feel like you don't get support here. We are all going thru the same thing. We all lost our child/children.
To come on this board and make a "I'm leaving because I dont' feel support" post was not to nice.
Every greives in their own way I understand that, but to deem that were not a supportive group you are wrong.
I don't come to the board as much as I have in the past, but the girls on this board listened to me cry, they gave hugs when I felt like I was alone, alot of them got me thru the darkest days of my life.
Good luck with your journey, I hope you can find some peace in your life.
If being here makes you feel worse, by all means, leave. I wouldn't want you to do anything that makes you feel worse.
I'm pretty surprised you feel you haven't felt supported here though. I'm sorry you didn't get what you wanted, but I think the women here are incredibly supportive. This board is thankfully very slow compared to other bump boards. Posts here don't get 25 replies, but the replies you do get will be well thought out and caring. I take it as a good thing that there aren't many women here. The less active this board is, the fewer people going through this misery.
I hope you find the support you need somewhere, this is a very difficult time and I am sure you will need to lean on others to get through it.
Saying you don't feel supported is kind of a sh!tty thing to say to the girls who did take the time to respond to your posts. I'm sorry you feel as though that's not adequate, but like the pp said this board isn't as busy as other boards, and frankly, I'd rather have this board be deserted than bursting at the seams.
I'm sorry this board and the women on it were not able to help you. I hope that you can find comfort in other ways.
I can understand that this board can make you sad....I feel the same way and I do not post as often on here since I am trying to focus on TTCAL right now.
But this board is nothing but supportive.
It is not fair for you to tell these wonderful and grieving women that you did not get enough support from them. Shame on you. If you do decide to come back, hopefully they won't remember you, because I really don't think you would get any support after a post like this.
I hope some time away will help you grieve and heal after your loss.
Erm....I'm trying to understand why you bothered to post this. Why not just leave silently?
The only thing that could have come out of a post like this is giving a verbal slap in the face to those who have extended the hand of support to you, even though it (apparently) wasn't to your liking.
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