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mama4est
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Twin Loss @ 22 wks
mama4est
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About a month ago, I delivered my fraternal twin boys at 22 wks, 4 days due to an incompetent cervix. One of my boys lived 12 hours, the other lived for 2 weeks. I have been a roller coaster of emotions. I did not forsee my pregnancy ending with burying my boys 2 weeks apart. My emotions change hourly. I will be okay and then be brought to tears. Today is the first day I have had hope for the future. I know that I will see them in heaven someday and I am at peace they are not suffering, but sometimes that broken record in my head slows down and I feel such pain in my heart. I am back and work and that has really helped. I actually work with 4 other women who have had to bury a child and they have offered lots of support. My husband and I have been very blessed with wonderful friends and family, which has also helped us. I know time will be healing, but sometimes it just hurts so much! I feel like I see pregnant people everywhere now, and I broke down on Tuesday night after seeing a set of twins at the grocery store. I will be watched very closely my next pregnancy, but I am so afraid I am going to be terrified my entire pregnancy. I feel like I cannot go through this amount of pain again.
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Re: Twin Loss @ 22 wks
I am so sorry for the loss of your sons. T&P to you and your DH at this difficult time.
This Board is a great resource and I hope you find it as helpful on your jounrey to healing as so many of us have.
BFP #1 5/2010 - Missed m/c at 8 weeks
BFP #2 2/2011
Baby G welcomed with love and relief 10/2011
Surprise BFP 1/8/2013...say what? Baby A arrived 9/2013
Motherhood is not for wimps
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
It is so unfortunate that any of us have to go through this. I am truly sorry about the loss of your twins. I am going on to almost a year since I lost my precious baby girl at 23 wks gestation and I can tell you that time is on your side. I do feel I am in a better place now; although this last week has been a mess for me....leading up to the anniversary. Be gentle on yourself, please.
BFP 10/25/10 Brynn Helen born 7/7/11
Oh I am so so sorry fr your losses ((hugs)) The emotional roller coaster really does suck, but having these ladies here on the board who TRULY understand what you are going through helps to numb the pain a little bit.
Any time you want to vent, or talk about your boys we are always here.
Remembering Evelyn and raising Bailey
Evelyn Born at 24wks 6days on May 22, 2010 due to pre-e Passed away May 25, 2010
BFP# 2 Delivered 6wks early due to preeclampsia
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Oh, hun, I am so sorry for your loss. 6 months ago, I also lost my twin boys to IC a bit earlier at 17 weeks. I know what you mean about seeing other twins, it hurts sooo badly to see them. You WILL have up days and you will definitely have down days. The down days get further and further apart as time goes by. I still have moments of devastated sadness and I know I will forever, but the cliche is true, time does heal our wounds.
My blog is in my sig (please be aware that there are u/s pics of my current pregnancy) but I have lots of info on how I'm treating my IC and my story of losing Jonah and Noah.
((((((HUGS)))))))))
Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your losses! I can't imagine losing twins. I also think its wonderful that you were able to spend time with both of your sons, and I think its so great that you have such supportive co-workers. Both of those things will make a huge difference as you go through the grief process (or at least thinking about those things helped me a lot). I also think its great that you are taking comfort in your faith that the boys are in heaven.
there are lots of other women here with IC who lost their babies at similar stages in their pregnancies, hopefully you can connect with them... talking to women who had gone through a similar situation is what REALLY helped me when I lost Olivia.
Can I ask if you named your sons?
click the button above to read my blog!
Someone asked what our boys names were...
Henry and Sam(uel)
Thank you all for being so sweet to me.
"'My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,' says the Lord. 'And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.'" Isaiah 55:8-9
BFP #1 7/4/2010--Natural M/C 8/4/2010
BFP #2 4/25/2011 Please stick, baby!! EDD 1/1/2012
Forever Buddy to carrieandtim
I am so sorry for the loss of your sons. I was also diagnosed with IC as was many other woman on here and on TTCAL. There is also an IC forum on another site. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask.
We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
I lost my triplet girls at 20 weeks, so I know how you feel. I never thought I would bury one child, let alone 3. It's especially hard because they have no idea why it happened, other than multiple pregnancies are more difficult to carry.
It will be a tough road, but it will get better. I think about my girls often. It's such a terrible thing to go through.
I'm sorry for your losses. I lost our baby boy at 32 weeks, about 4 months ago now. The only thing I can tell you is from my experience- Time does help, but I'm overwhelmed by the "should's" every now and then. Like I should be picking out a halloween costume for my little guy... and then I get over it and think to the future. Give yourself a lot of slack, not just emotionally but physically as well. Best wishes
I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks thinking about the pain that you and your family must be going through. Like the other ladies said, this board is a great source for advice, a place to vent, information, and anything else you're looking for.
I'm so sorry. (((((HUGS)))))
I am so sorry for your losses. The ladies here are great for support, answering questions, or for a listening ear!
I too lost twin boys at 21 weeks due to IC. It has been a little over two months, and it has been a very tough road emotionally. I have days where I am okay and other days where I am a complete mess and can't keep my emotions in check. I am so blessed that I was able to hold them both before I had to say goodbye. I still have moments where I can't believe this is my new reality and how I so wish that this was all a nightmare and I can go back to being pregnant with them. I have a hard time as well, seeing twins. I wonder how that women was able to carry her babies and how envious I am of her that she was able to do so.
My doctor said that I should take 6mo to heal (more emotionally than physically), but I am ready to try again. I think going through this makes you want to be a mom even more. My doctors will want to do the TVC and not the TAC, but I am so up in the air with that. I know there are a couple of girls on here that are getting the TAC done.
You have to take time for yourself and be good to yourself. When I am having a bad day or moment, I say that my boys are experiencing life with me and my DH through my heart.
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
my blog
I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my son at just under 17 weeks due to an umbilical cord that was only 3 cm long. It got kinked.
There is nothing tougher than losing a baby and I am so sorry that you lost your twins.
I am pregnant (about 8 weeks after we lost Parker) and I'm almost 10 weeks. I've been scared to death this whole time and hope that things get easier sooner.
My prayers are with you and your husband!
K