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diana.filipi
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I've been so shy to post...
diana.filipi
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Ever since the sausage blow up and all the snark that followed I've found that often I open a 'new thread' only to close it without posting. I've posted a couple things but they've been mostly utilitarian posts.
I want to know if I'm being too self conscious. Were there other things that I did that folks didn't like me for or was it just the fact that I let my daughter have sausage when we started BLW? Was it that I posted about BLW too often (I was so excited about it I know it was on my mind a lot back then)?
Please be honest and tell me if there was something else that was grating your nerves. I didn't understand all of the angst and it has made me 'new post' shy. I enjoy TB and want to participate more if it's welcome.
ETA: Not about whether the sausage was ok! About whether I am (even though now that seems silly because there's a ton of support in here).
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Re: I've been so shy to post...
Can't speak for anyone else, but I certainly don't have any negative feelings towards you!
Completely Welcome ( by me)
This!
You should post. I'm one who dissagreed with your sausage debacle, but I still like you. I was looking at your pics on FB of BLW and it gave me a few great ideas.
I think that getting flammed is a right of passage and no one should take it to a personal level. With some exceptions of course.
If we never post after being flammed, just think how boring it would be here.
I say post your little heart out.
Not sure what the fuss was about. I have no problem with you at all.
Last time we went out to breakfast I let Emma have a bite of sausage, my eggs, potatoes and toast. She ate it all and wanted more. I want her to try new things in moderation so she won't be a fussy eater later on.
Here's my synopsis of what happened with you:
You gave your DD sausage.
Some people thought that was wrong, you got flamed.
You tried to defend yourself and an argument ensued.
Instead of letting it go and letting people forget about it, you repeatedly posted BLW stuff, trying to prove your point, yet it failed because BLW does not mean feeding your baby sausage.
Even if you then realized your error (the sausage thing), you were too late because of the above.
Because of the incessant posting about BLW and not admitting the sausage was a bad idea, you then retreated into shyness.
The shyness should end and you should post as much as you would like. People need to realize parents make mistakes and move on.
I like you and I think there are plenty of people on this board who feel the same.
The only reason you got flamed was because it was bandwagoning at its best. I'm sure you saw the post where someone who fed their kid steak did not get any flack on it and she herself admitted that she thought twice about posting it and was surpised she didn't get flack.
Post as much as you want about whatever you want. It's the bump and there is room for everybody. If they flame you, so what. We don't need to welcome you. It's a message board and it is public.
I'm clueless. I don't care about sausage and didn't know there was a sausage issue. Your name is vaguely familiar, but I don't think we've talked before. I lurk a lot.
I will happily chat with you and would like to talk with people about BLW. I'm intrigued because my baby hates pureed veggies, he'll only eat pureed fruits and cereal right now.
DH and I periodically give baby a hunk of banana or squishy carrot to gnaw on to keep him entertained while we eat out. I want to talk to people who do this more regularly....
Don't be shy. You are fine! We can't all be liked by everyone. I'm sure there are tons of people who don't like me. Just be your self & if someone doesn't like you, then it's their issue.
so you fed your child sausage, who CARES!!! I still don't get why people get all crazy over something they have no say in! Eating sausage is NOT going to doom your child for life. If you were being negelctful or feeding your child terribly fatty foods everyday, I could see why someone would say something.
People need to get over themselves! Just b/c it's the internet does not give people the right to act like a jacka$$!
Misty is on a roll today!! You go girl! I feel the exact same way as you!!
Thehehe, I was so hoping you would chime in!
Thanks. I do appreciate that you are up for saying this (the sorry bit), I respect it very much. I need to get over this crazy voice that says "DON'T post that, no one wants to know". IRL I'm just not this self concious. You Bump ladies really matter to me and I have wanted to stay in the shadows since all that and it's just not my style!
You surprise me Shorty and for that I will toss my (virtual) hat to you.
I like you a lot. You've made me feel more comfortable about the foods that I give Tegan, plus, I liked your breastfeeding photo, even though some peeps thought it was too much. I think you should post more often. I think you have interesting views and ideas and they aren't always the "norm" of what people think and do. Plus, I've always admired you for taking in your nephews and raising them to the best of your ability. I hope that now that they are back with their biological parents, that they take what they learned from you and use it well. I think we all tend to be too judgemental on theBump. I know I've given Tegan things that if I said them on here, people would probably flame me. However, she LOVES food and so far we haven't had any allergies and so I plan on continuing to introduce her to all different types of food. We do mostly purees during the day, but we also do a lot of finger type foods.
I hope that you start posting more often. I got flamed way back in 2nd tri and I remember being cautious for a long time. Now, I post and just hope for the best. Are there things I don't post about? Yes. But for the most part I post my honest opinions and I don't really care if they are accepted or not,
I was the steak girl. I think I didnt get flack because my baby was older, and sausage has a lot of grease. Steak does have grease, but it isnt as greasy as sausage. But, I was kind of surprised I didnt get any flack. I am not a member of any off group either.
Almost perfect synopsis except my BLW posts weren't about proving my point....they were about being excited about doing this new thing with my daughter. I still let me girl have sausage just as often as ever (maybe 1 a week - week and a half).
Am I the only one who got this..HEHE!
I thought what you did was pretty dramatic for the bump. I have never thought badly about you though. I liked seeing all of the BLW stuff and you even sent me some helpful links. Although we aren't goint obe using it.
I don't have any negative feelings toward you. Post whatever you want.
The annoyance with the whole sausage debacle (ha) was that you kept acting like people were attacking you for doing BLW, and kept doing C&Ps of info about BLW. That was never the issue. It was the fact that most people think babies should get healthier options for their first foods. Good proteins do not include fatty sausage. You just never seemed to get that that was the point, so it egged on the flames.
This. I have no idea what the sausage thing is about, but we are friends on FB and I love all the pics of your adorable DD!
why does she have to admit it was a mistake...who are we to tell her what to feed her child!!!!!!!!!! That whole arguement is crazy!!!
Not yelling at you...just yelling in general!
I don't want to hijack Diana's post but you didn't get flamed because of politics, pure and simple.
You are not supposed to give your kid steak at 6 months so if you don't have to follow the chart then neither does Diana.
Why politics?
Either way, I have fed my baby some flammable things, and I made a new post above about it. Check it out, and flame if you want, I have my big girl flame resistant panties on.
I actually never read the sausage post, either. I heard about it, though, obviously....it was notorious there for a while. The only problem I had with you was our little argument over the "God" post. I felt like I was pointing out something to you that someone could have taken offense to and you were very defensive. That was right after the sausage debacle. I would have been gun shy too if that was me.
You were one of the last people who I expected to jump on the "let Samsmom come back in peace" bandwagon after my GBCB. It wasn't a popular position to take on that particular day--the majority of people flamed my a$$ off. Obviously any issues you had with me at that point were put aside in the spirit of good Bumping. I have much respect for you after that.
I might not agree with all of your parenting choices, but I think you bring much to the board. You are a unique Bumpie--please take that as a compliment. Post on! Please!
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I have no issue with you personally. You sent me a PM accusing me of flaming you about the sausage scenario...I replied and asked what I had said to offend you because I didn't recall saying anything more than I wouldn't have done it myself. You never replied to that...so I left it.
In a few posts later, you went on about how mean people were to you about it and I think that is what brought attention to it...not to mention you didn't start posting about it until a week or so later. I won't lie though, I found you a bit annoying through all of that.
Still, I have no issues with you. You do BLW and so do I. I find many of your posts informative, but I myself have hesitated initating anything further with you because I didn't want you to take anything the wrong way or bite my head off or think I was being snarky.
All that being said, it's in the past. Did I agree with your choice on a particular item you fed your DD? No. Does that make you a bad mom? No. As long as you are doing what YOU know is best for your child, then more power to you and you shouldn't have to answer to anyone for that. But I also agree with others, don't let it keep you from posting.
hahah... thanks :P
What's wrong with sausage? It's yummy!
Shame on those who shamed you.
another day, another drama. don't get hung up on getting flamed. it's not that big a deal. put it behind you and move on.
everyone gets it at least once. no worries!
I didn't read through the other posts so I'm not sure what was said. But, I can't say I don't like you as a person. I don't necessarily open your posts (usually) however because I do fee you are kind of pushy with your beliefs. Whenever I read one of your BLW posts, I feel as though it's written like "You should BLW, purees are the devil"
And even though I BLW and love it I'm really a to each their own kind of person. And since I felt your posts didn't come across like that, I felt you make the BLWers look self-righteous.
I can understand now if you say you were just excited about it, but I'm just not a fan of people who push their ideas onto others.
I don't mean this to be rude or cruel, but you asked so i'm telling. But I will give you a second chance (if you even want one from me... you probably care less if I like you or not lol)
I give you credit for posting what could have opened a serious bashing session on yourself.
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I must admit that I had not heard of BLW up until you posted about all of the things that your little one had eaten.
I think I jumped on that original post because in my mind if you were going to feed LO food it should have some nutritional content. Looking back (now that Ellie is 6 months) I realize that you were just letting her taste things and not "feeding" her tablespoons of BBQ sauce. (as well as feeding her "food". Ammirite?)
While I am comfortable with feeding my LO certain things, what you do is your business.
I said back then and I will say it again- We all are just doing what we think is best for our respective children.
With that being said... You are fine. I, for one, am not out to get you. Heck, maybe I can learn something from you! And if I disagree with you about something that you have posted, I will try to word it in a less aggressive way. Deal?
Deal!
Thanks for all the support and for the honesty.