"What happens at grandma's, stays at grandma's"

Under.the.Rose · August 2010

Is anyone else slightly freaked out by this? My MIL just came to visit and had bought a onesie with this on it... I mean, I've seen it before but the thought of my baby boy wearing this statement kinda makes me uncomfortable.

I wouldn't be comfortable leaving him with her anyway because she defies everything I say ("I'm going to pre-wash his clothes" --> "You don't need to pre-wash his clothes." --> "NO, I'm pre-washing them. Why wouldn't I?" --> "You don't need to." Argh!!!!).

I also specifically requested NO Winnie the Pooh crap and she shows up with three big Winnie the Pooh stuffed animals. She said she had already bought them, but why the heck didn't she return them or give them to someone else then??

She also announced that we're apparently going on a road trip (22+ hours) with them to the east coast when baby will only be 6 months old just so her mother can see him. Uhhhh.... sounds like fun. Indifferent

d.cubed · August 2010

Just cross out the "what happens at," as well as the first "'s" on that outfit. Maybe she'll get the hint.

Under.the.Rose · August 2010

d.squaredII:
Just cross out the "what happens at," as well as the first "'s" on that outfit. Maybe she'll get the hint.

haha nice!

_JRG_ · August 2010

This bothers me too. I have more "what happens at grandma's, stays at grandma's" and "I love grandma" bibs and onsies than other designs. It's more than slightly annoying.

nicole112709 · August 2010

I keep seeing this stupid onesie and it just makes my skin crawl...probably because my MIL has this attitude when it comes to her grandkids. She openly defies SIL on a regular basis and thinks its "cute" and just laughs it off when SIL gets upset. I keep dreading the day this dang shirt shows up at our house...and promptly gets "eaten by the dog"

jensu82 · August 2010

My mom bought a onesie with this saying and brought it up last weekend. I've not had any issues with her on any child care tips but she's my mom so I'd just tell her to hush up.

I also hate Winnie the Pooh! That stupid bear just helps to fuel my heartburn.

blondek8 · August 2010

Eww. My MIL has some stupid wood hanging dust collector that says the exact same thing. Little does she know her access to the twins is going to be limited. Especially their first year.

mita&chris · August 2010

I agree this statement makes me crazy. Along with the fact the my MIL says that she will be able to get my kids to what she wants them to do because she can bribe them better than me. Really?? Nice parenting advice lady...the only thing that makes me feel better is that I am not the only one with a crazy MIL.

chris5olson · August 2010

me, except my mil is actually pretty cool, she doesnt over step.

My mom however is another story, i'm feeling she's gonna defy alot of what o say. She's already arguing with me bc i said i wanted to keep hand sanitizer with me so that ppl could get the germs off their hands b4 they hold the baby, apparently that is a ridiculous request... imo you never know what germs are around.

we'll see i guess

monimonimoni · August 2010

d.squaredII:
Just cross out the "what happens at," as well as the first "'s" on that outfit. Maybe she'll get the hint.

Yes

ilovetolaugh · August 2010

Under.the.Rose:
Is anyone else slightly freaked out by this? My MIL just came to visit and had bought a onesie with this on it... I mean, I've seen it before but the thought of my baby boy wearing this statement kinda makes me uncomfortable.
I wouldn't be comfortable leaving him with her anyway because she defies everything I say ("I'm going to pre-wash his clothes" --> "You don't need to pre-wash his clothes." --> "NO, I'm pre-washing them. Why wouldn't I?" --> "You don't need to." Argh!!!!).
I also specifically requested NO Winnie the Pooh crap and she shows up with three big Winnie the Pooh stuffed animals. She said she had already bought them, but why the heck didn't she return them or give them to someone else then??
She also announced that we're apparently going on a road trip (22+ hours) with them to the east coast when baby will only be 6 months old just so her mother can see him. Uhhhh.... sounds like fun.

I agree with the "what happens at gma's..." outfits thing, but this same.damn.thing happened to us. I can not stand pooh and i have a sh*t ton of it because she can't listen! even a god awful diaper bag that she really expects me to use! ....i just cant....

bunny731 · August 2010

There is unconditional love between me and Goodwill. What I don't like-Goodwill takes without question. Hard to find friends like that.

VABride2008 · August 2010

My mom bought a onesie that says "Mom, you're fired! Grandma's here" I thought it was cute, but it came from my mom and not my MIL.

franceshouseman · August 2010

Sounds like my MIL. She always "jokes" with my daughter that she can come over and they can have chips, cake, candy, pop, whatever she wants. I really don't like her to have ANY of that stuff. It annoys the hell out of me.

Of course it doesn't help that when she babysat my nephew for the first time when he was 3 months old she fed him vanilla pudding in front of me and my husband and begged us not to tell my sister-in-law. I told on her...and I freaked out on my husband about how if she EVER did that with our kid(s) I'd kill her.

kayetbug · August 2010

I know exactly how you feel right down to the Winnie the Pooh stuff! My MIL brought over 3 stuffed animals because they matched the nursery and would look great in the crib. Really not happening! Im pretty sure if she announced the road trip idea id laugh in her face! Moms need to learn when to back off! Good luck!

CarolinaLady529 · August 2010

Its so funny that this was brought up, because I was just thinking yesterday how my child will never stay unsupervised at MIL's house because of this type of thing. She always wanted to be a best friend more than a mother and allowed a lot of things to happen in her house that I don't want to mention on here, but still allows in her house when her other grandkids are around. She also totally oversteps her boundary on parenting advice - she tried to get my SIL to feed her baby rice cereal the DAY after she was born - because that's what she did with her kids (this coming from someone who also smoked while pg with all her kids.)

FirstBabyMomma · August 2010

Ugh, I am so worried about this with both mom and MIL. We are the last to have kids and I see SIL and my sister's rules being completely disregarded the second the kids walk in. I'm not talking while babysitting, either-that's a bit different to me. If she's doing me a favour, I feel bad telling her she's doing it wrong. I'm talking, the kid's mother is RIGHT THERE and just said "No, he/she cannot have a cookie now" and Grandma totally ignores mom. I am dreading that, because my sis and SILs are waaaaaay nicer than me and don't say much, so I'll be the *** in the family.

clabrecque · August 2010

My parent's and ILs seem to be okay so far. It's MY grandparents I'm worried about. My step mom told me when she had my sister, her mother would do what she felt was right, regardless of what my step mom asked of her.

Same with my grandmother on my mom's side. Not as bad, but I'm still worried about it, she seems to think my plans for the baby are outrageous compared to what she did when she reared her children. Feeding rice cereal at a week old because it helps put them to sleep. Ahh! Noo!

sweetcakesmama · August 2010

Oh man...reading all these posts reminds me so much of the anxiety I felt with our first one. I mean this is the woman that mentioned the Oedipus complex with her son, right after we got engaged. So, ya, it's legit. On the other hand, I have learned with my first one, that I cannot control everything and that while Grandma does stuff I don't agree with, I bought HER the picture frame that had the phrase, "What happens at Gma's,stays at Gmas." I knew she loved it, I figured it was my signal to her that, for the most part, I trust her and know she will not do anything to endanger my child. She still drives me crazy sometimes....but being willing to give a little as the mom, has also brought her to admit that she needs my advice with him. Of course, the first year, is a very different thing. I don't have a mom around, and by no means, does she "fill in" for me, but it is wonderful when I want a reprieve and to just have hubby and me spoiling time.

cinderella11 · August 2010

I understand where everyone is coming from, but I also want to point out something I am trying to remember. I have really great memories of spending time with both sets of my grandparents as a child and I want my children to have that to.

willowprincess · August 2010

i'll be honest, i don't really get where you're coming from. i think those things are cute and i'm sure one of the grandmas will get the baby one. but then again, my mom and mil are both awesome ladies and i can't wait to have our baby spend time with them. they'll be a huge part of his/her life.