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TTC After a Loss 6 Months+
KelinandKevin
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I'm back.
KelinandKevin
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I can't bear to type it all again. Here's the link;
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/41448200.aspx
I am going to go lay down and try to calm myself. I know that I have all you ladies to keep me sane. It's so sad we all have to go through this together. I have now had 2 m/c and 2 c/p. Does it ever end?
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Re: I'm back.
Kelin, I am so, so sorry honey. I wish I could hug you in person.
Personally, I found the d&c much easier, physically. But you would need to take at least that day and the day after for recovery; you will be under general anast.
I am so sorry.
Oh sweet, lovely Kelin... I just have no words... I'm so sorry.
A couple of us (I think it was Suntoto and Grrr) gave a well thought out arguement on the pros/cons of D&C vs. natural.
I think bottom line - it's one of those 'what's best for YOU' decisions... not 'what's best' period. For me, I couldn't bear the process and would prefer the D&C and to begin emotionally trying to move forward. Others need to experience the loss fully. Like I said, whatevers best FOR YOU.
And yes, I could have (and did) go to work two days after the D&C. I think you'll be physically exhausted and could still be in significant pain the day afterwards. If at all possible just negotiate a slightly later start date due to "prior commitments" or something.
Again love... I am so, so sorry. We all adore you and hate that you're here again.
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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I'm so sorry Kelin. I was hoping this would end up differently for you. We're here for you.
As for natural vs D&C....I think its really a personal choice. I know a D&C is much faster to get it over with. If there's any testing to be done, it can be.
Personally, I prefered the natural for a couple reasons. 1. I like to avoid medical procedures if I can. 2. Natural miscarriage gave me some time to deal with what was happening. And 3. In my mind, doing it naturally was "everything that I could do". Mother nature had taken over it taken care of it. Just on the outside chance that all the doctors were wrong, I just felt more comfortable letting my body do it. My ectopic, I didn't have a choice and had to have a lap. It was very different emotionally for me to deal with.
I'm sorry that you're having to choose...but really its a matter of what is best to you.
again, i'm sorry. here's what i posted on your other post.
i'm so sorry Kelin. ((HUGS)) we are all here for you.
As for the D&C if you have an u/s next wed. they should be able to get you in for a D&C the next day and then you could have the weekend to rest.
you wont be able to work the day of the D&C but you should be able to work the following day if you had to go to work.
i had the option to let it go naturally or D&C and i chose D&C just b/c i didn't want things to drag on for forever. but that's just me and you have to do what's best for you.
((HUGS))
Kelin,
I'm so sorry about your loss. Take a deep breath and you will get through this. You are a strong woman and you've made it this far so I am certain your day will come. I will be sending T&P to you and your family.
Missed m/c 11.09 | Missed m/c 3.10 | We miss you & love you so.
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Formerly toddandjulie
I'm so sorry Kelin, this is bullsh!t.
Take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
So much love to you Kelin.
I'm so sorry.
Oh, Kelin.... I am so sorry to hear this. I wish I could give you a great big hug right now!!! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. We're here for you, dear.
I'm so sorry Kelin. My heart is breaking for you (((HUGS)))
BFP 12/18/2009. HB 1/4/2010. NO HB 1/18/2010. D&C 1/19/2010
April 2011 IUI #1 BFN. High FSH and other issues.
May 2011 Chose to build our family through adoption
September 2011 Actively waiting for a match
11/26/11 Surprise BFP * DD born 7/23/12
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
I'm so sorry you have to be here. Sending {{BIG HUGS}} We're here for you...
I'm so sorry Kelin. I was anxious to see your update. I'm so so sorry this is happening again. It's not fair.
((Big huge bear hugs))
Of F. I'm so sorry Kelin
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I have only had a D&C & personally found it very easy (physically).
Noooooooooooooooo! Oh sweetie, I am so so so sorry.
BIG BIG {{{hugs}}}
I had a d&c with my 1st m/c and I was crampy and sore the "day of" but felt physically better the next day.
Kelin my dear I cried reading your post. I'm sooooooo very sorry. My heart breaks for you. I've had D&C both times and although they suuuucked royaly it did feel like I could move on with the healing process quicker. I also did go to work the day after the second one. It was a little uncomfy but I think going to work kept my mind busy and distracted while I was there. I would love to give you a big hug if I was closer.
What! What!
I don't believe this. I am sad.
How unfair! I'm so sorry. Are they going to be doing any additional bloodwork to see why you are miscarrying?
Take care of yourself.
Baby Boy Smudgie born 10/4/11
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