DD has to be held 24/7.. Need Advice

jazzyexpo · August 2010

So, since we've been home, DD has to be held no matter what. All night long she sleeps on my chest on the couch. If I put her down, no matter how deep of a sleep she is in, she wakes right up crying. Anyone else had this and any tips to get her used to sleeping in her bassinet? I'd really like to sleep in my bed. Thanks!

laubeth87 · August 2010

Did you try swaddling? LO doesn't always like being swaddled so i rock her until she falls alseep and then swaddle her. She tends to sleep longer that way.

MrsSR · August 2010

Have you tried any type of sound machine?

LO loves this sound machine that is connected to her bassinet. She likes the rain/water sound.

D_Nett86 · August 2010

I was also going to suggest swaddling. Does she maybe not like laying on her back? My DS never liked to lay on his back or be swaddled. Pedi said it was ok for him to sleep on his side when he was little so that is what we did. Now that he has really good head control I let him sleep on his stomach in his crib.

ateliermethod · August 2010

D_Nett86:
I was also going to suggest swaddling. Does she maybe not like laying on her back? My DS never liked to lay on his back or be swaddled. Pedi said it was ok for him to sleep on his side when he was little so that is what we did. Now that he has really good head control I let him sleep on his stomach in his crib.

Will you please read some information? You havent even entered the time period of the highest risk of sids and you are already breaking the rules.

https://www.nichd.nih.gov/sids/

jazzyexpo · August 2010

Are there certain blankets made for swaddling? When I wrap her in receiving blankets, she just kicks with her legs and it comes undone.

I have tried a sound machine. There's one on her bassinet and she still cries.

VanderLaan · August 2010

jazzyexpo:
So, since we've been home, DD has to be held no matter what. All night long she sleeps on my chest on the couch. If I put her down, no matter how deep of a sleep she is in, she wakes right up crying. Anyone else had this and any tips to get her used to sleeping in her bassinet? I'd really like to sleep in my bed. Thanks!

Jazzy- I am lurking and thought I could tell you I totally relate. I had to hold my DS for 12 weeks. Its what is called the fourth trimester. I slept with him on me at night and held him all day long and as soon as you would put him down he would cry. My husband and I would trade off on holding him! I didnt shower for 3 days once! Just wanted you to know that it gets better and every day DD will get more independent. I would just enjoy it b/c before you know it- it will be over.

D_Nett86 · August 2010

ateliermethod:

D_Nett86:
I was also going to suggest swaddling. Does she maybe not like laying on her back? My DS never liked to lay on his back or be swaddled. Pedi said it was ok for him to sleep on his side when he was little so that is what we did. Now that he has really good head control I let him sleep on his stomach in his crib.
Will you please read some information? You havent even entered the time period of the highest risk of sids and you are already breaking the rules.

https://www.nichd.nih.gov/sids/

Thanks! Well rules are made to be broken in some cases. My DS WILL NOT sleep on his back and screams the whole time, no matter if he is laying flat on his back or if the mattress is inclined. Swaddling doesn't work for him because he gets frustrated that his arms are tied down and screams because of that until he can figure out how to break them loose. Now that he can roll when he is laying on his side I can't put him on his side or he'll just roll to his tummy anyways. I feel much better just laying him on his stomach to sleep then letting him roll that way and possible getting his body in a position that he can't turn his head or something. I keep a close eye on him and get up to check on him very frequently through out the night and I also have an Angel Care moniter that I use.

Jarms01 · August 2010

We had the same issue. She only wants to sleep on someone. We swaddle her every night with her arms out because she would break out of it. I spent a couple of weeks sleeping in the recliner with her at night. During the day I would wear her in the Moby while she slept so I could move around and do stuff. Now we are getting into a routine at night that has worked to get her asleep in her crib. Every night she gets a bath, then she feeds, then we rock her or pat her back until she goes out. I just looked through the Dr. Sears Baby Sleep Book and it gives some great ideas for creating a routine that helps the baby settle into a good sleep. Just hang in there and know that it will get better.

winelvr · August 2010

Baby is screaming because you hold her 24/7... swaddle that baby super tight and I mean TIGHT! or you can get the swaddlers that have velcro and are super easy. Baby needs to get used to being put down! How else is she going to comfort her self when you're not around? Also, it's ok to let baby cry. 10-15 mins will not hurt her at all. You will have your sanity back and your arms and bed )

Try Babywise if you want to start on a sleep schedule. Has helped a ton!

food_chick · August 2010

D_Nett86:
ateliermethod:

D_Nett86:
I was also going to suggest swaddling. Does she maybe not like laying on her back? My DS never liked to lay on his back or be swaddled. Pedi said it was ok for him to sleep on his side when he was little so that is what we did. Now that he has really good head control I let him sleep on his stomach in his crib.
Will you please read some information? You havent even entered the time period of the highest risk of sids and you are already breaking the rules.

https://www.nichd.nih.gov/sids/

Thanks! Well rules are made to be broken in some cases. My DS WILL NOT sleep on his back and screams the whole time, no matter if he is laying flat on his back or if the mattress is inclined. Swaddling doesn't work for him because he gets frustrated that his arms are tied down and screams because of that until he can figure out how to break them loose. Now that he can roll when he is laying on his side I can't put him on his side or he'll just roll to his tummy anyways. I feel much better just laying him on his stomach to sleep then letting him roll that way and possible getting his body in a position that he can't turn his head or something. I keep a close eye on him and get up to check on him very frequently through out the night and I also have an Angel Care moniter that I use.

We put our little guy on his side as well (either in a positioner or with blankets if the positioner is being washed). Sometimes he rolls onto his stomach and he sleeps forever that way. I also check on him frequently when he does this. And (gasp!) sometimes I put him on his tummy for naps. I don't do this at night, but do for naps. Our pedi knows about it and didn't give us a huge lecture. I check on him very frequently this way, but I have also watched him sleep like this. He has great head/neck control, I have watched him turn his head side to side on tummy to try and get comfy.

But you have to do what is comfortable for you. I'm not sure if someone else answered this, but there are special blankets for swaddling. Both of our little guys could usually get their arms out anyway, but sometimes they slept great with arms out and bodies swaddled. Just experiment to find what works for you. Oh, and sound machines on white noise can work wonders too!

ateliermethod · August 2010

Thanks! Well rules are made to be broken in some cases. My DS WILL NOT sleep on his back and screams the whole time, no matter if he is laying flat on his back or if the mattress is inclined. Swaddling doesn't work for him because he gets frustrated that his arms are tied down and screams because of that until he can figure out how to break them loose. Now that he can roll when he is laying on his side I can't put him on his side or he'll just roll to his tummy anyways. I feel much better just laying him on his stomach to sleep then letting him roll that way and possible getting his body in a position that he can't turn his head or something. I keep a close eye on him and get up to check on him very frequently through out the night and I also have an Angel Care moniter that I use.

I imagine there are other mothers that thought like you that woke up in the morning to find their infant dead. Mothers that said "well, it helps him sleep" or "my mother put my brothers and sisters on our stomachs and we are fine". "Keeping a close eye on him" doesnt do you any good, as a baby that dies of sids does not struggle, or make a sound. They just stop breathing. Mothers have looked in on their infants and not realized they were already dead. Why don't you read some stories from these mothers and then decide if your little convenince is worth it. Sids is down 50% since the back to sleep campagin started. 50%. Doesnt that say anything to you at all? Sids is not an illness. Sids doesnt say "ooo that was a close call, we better follow recommendations from now on". Sids is death. A dead cold baby in a crib. Sorry to be graphic, but I think some of you should stop thinking of things in terms of "what works for you". That is not at all what parenting is about. Parenting is about always doing what is safest for your child ESPECIALLY when its a matter of life and death.

https://www.sidsfamilies.com/index.php?sec=nursery1

Jarms01 · August 2010

winelvr:

Baby is screaming because you hold her 24/7... swaddle that baby super tight and I mean TIGHT! or you can get the swaddlers that have velcro and are super easy. Baby needs to get used to being put down! How else is she going to comfort her self when you're not around? Also, it's ok to let baby cry. 10-15 mins will not hurt her at all. You will have your sanity back and your arms and bed )

Try Babywise if you want to start on a sleep schedule. Has helped a ton!

Please realize that your baby at 2 weeks old is not capable of soothing or comforting herself as stated above. And to let a 2 week old baby CIO is ridiculous. Before you look into Babywise, read a book on what is normal for this age. And ask your Dr. because they will also tell you it is not good to let baby CIO at that age.

winelvr · August 2010

Jarms01:
winelvr:

Baby is screaming because you hold her 24/7... swaddle that baby super tight and I mean TIGHT! or you can get the swaddlers that have velcro and are super easy. Baby needs to get used to being put down! How else is she going to comfort her self when you're not around? Also, it's ok to let baby cry. 10-15 mins will not hurt her at all. You will have your sanity back and your arms and bed )

Try Babywise if you want to start on a sleep schedule. Has helped a ton!

Please realize that your baby at 2 weeks old is not capable of soothing or comforting herself as stated above. And to let a 2 week old baby CIO is ridiculous. Before you look into Babywise, read a book on what is normal for this age. And ask your Dr. because they will also tell you it is not good to let baby CIO at that age.

true, a 2 1/2 week old probably should not CIO for 10-15 mins. But holding the baby 24/7 is not healthy either. There has got to be a medium. Swaddling, a swing, sleep sound machine etc. can work. All I'm saying is that you're setting yourself up for no sleep for a loooong time if you never put the baby down and allow them to cry a little.

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IrishBrideND · August 2010

winelvr:
Jarms01:
winelvr:

Baby is screaming because you hold her 24/7... swaddle that baby super tight and I mean TIGHT! or you can get the swaddlers that have velcro and are super easy. Baby needs to get used to being put down! How else is she going to comfort her self when you're not around? Also, it's ok to let baby cry. 10-15 mins will not hurt her at all. You will have your sanity back and your arms and bed )

Try Babywise if you want to start on a sleep schedule. Has helped a ton!

Please realize that your baby at 2 weeks old is not capable of soothing or comforting herself as stated above. And to let a 2 week old baby CIO is ridiculous. Before you look into Babywise, read a book on what is normal for this age. And ask your Dr. because they will also tell you it is not good to let baby CIO at that age.

true, a 2 1/2 week old probably should not CIO for 10-15 mins. But holding the baby 24/7 is not healthy either. There has got to be a medium. Swaddling, a swing, sleep sound machine etc. can work. All I'm saying is that you're setting yourself up for no sleep for a loooong time if you never put the baby down and allow them to cry a little.

please do your reseach before you spew such false things. A baby cannot be spoiled or form bad habits this young.

ugh to babywise in general.

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