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The Inlaws make me wanna scream!!!! (sorry long vent)

maceymay1816maceymay1816 member
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So DH's father passed away two years ago and his momma lives with his sister Jessica in a rented home with her husband and their two small kids.  His other sister Jennifer lives about 10 miles away with her DH and two teenagers.  Two weeks ago Jennifer mentioned she wanted to take a trip to the mountains and after talking we all agreed it could be fun to take the whole family and stay in a cabin. 

For our honeymoon, DH and I were thinking about renting a cabin for a week so I already knew a bunch of great websites to check out and I told Jennifer (the only one in the family besides us who has a computer) that I'd email her some of the sites I had.  Since there are 9 adults and 2 small kids going I was looking at places that had four bedrooms and had a hot tub.  The mountains are beautiful and the thought of sitting in a hottub drinking a glass of wine and enjoying the scenery made me happy.  Well every place I found wasn't right and basically, since Jennifer didn't pick it out, wasn't going to work. She kept coming back with places that would have had one of the couples sleeping on a pullout couch or full bed.  I was furious because for the same money I found places that gave everyone their own bedroom. 

It caused a huge fight with me and DH and his family.  My biggest issue is that DH has a heriated disc in his back, I have been in 13 car accidents and the last one broke 5 vertebrae in my back, we can't sleep on a pull out.  Not to mention the fact that depending on what the doc says tomorrow, it may be a time when we are actively fwp and we need our own bedroom.  So voiced my concerns, mentioned I'd love to have a hot tub and left it at that.  She rented a place that has only 3 bedrooms and has no hot tub, and it cost the same amount as the place i found with 4 bedrooms (3 of which were master suites) and hot tub.  I was finally letting it go and had moved on when DH comes home tonight telling me that this older couple, I'm talking in their 60's, is going to be joing us on this trip.  Now I've been around them only about a half dozen times, I don't feel comfortable hanging out in my pj's with them, I don't feel comfortable drinking anything in front of them and I certainly don't feel comfortable having the fwp weekend falling over the weekend when I have to be with all these families and strangers.  I am furious because his sister didn't even ask if it was alright for them to come, didn't even discuss the fact that we have no room for another couple.  We were just left out of the loop. 

I am not quite sure how to handle this situation, but I am so freaking angry and his entire family is coming over Sunday for DH's birthday.  So between now and then I must calm myself down and not want to throw something at them or shake them profuselhy.  Any suggestions???

Married 8/23/09 Dx: Endometriosis mc 2003, mc 2005, mc Oct. 2009 and ectopic pg Feb. 2010 Baby Girl Gracie Mae born 5 weeks early on 7/6/11. Baby boy JT born full term on 7/5/12. We are blessed!
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Re: The Inlaws make me wanna scream!!!! (sorry long vent)

  • DoingItRightDoingItRight member
    I probably wouldn't go or would find a small cabin close by that you and your DH could stay at.
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  • michroccmichrocc member

    imageDoingItRight:
    I probably wouldn't go or would find a small cabin close by that you and your DH could stay at.

    This is really solid advice.  I'd definitely look into getting my own small cabin nearby.  If they get mad at you because they were expecting you to help split cost then, hey!, they just brought in another couple and, if you dropped, they'd be splitting it the same way as before. 

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  • ERICA21779ERICA21779
    Yikes, that is a tough one.......sounds like your SIL was going to do what she wanted to do no matter what suggestions you had.......in the end if you and your DH decide to find your own cabin (with a jacuzzi of course), she is just shooting herself in the foot because she's not winning in the end.....you vacation where you want to and she ends up with the 60 year olds and no jacuzzi........I hope she ends up on the pulll out!!
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