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krmlaw
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need advice - "agreed" to only one child ...
krmlaw
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DH and I talked about about children before DS arrived, and agreed that we would only have one. He is much old than me (45 to my 32) and already has a 17 year old from a prior marriage. I understand his desires for only one, as he is getting older and wants to retire at 55.
BUT, Im getting the itch, in a big way. DS will be one tomorrow!
What would you do? Would you bring it up with DH, or let it alone. Would you "accidently" get pregnant? Advice needed. Im at a loss for this one.
DH is really an amazing Dad to DS, but I do understand that he is getting older.
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Re: need advice - "agreed" to only one child ...
First off I would not get pregnant by accident. That is a horrible idea.
I would bring it up to him again and see what he says. Also I would revisit the issue for yourself in another 2 months. Your baby is turning 1, so that is playing a huge part in how you are feeling. You may think differently when this feeling passes.
I would bring it up and discuss with your DH.
NO WAY would I ever "accidentally" get KU. That is deceptive! Not a good foundation for a family. I am 100% honest with my DH and expect the same from him.
The worst he can say is no. And he might surprise you. I think having kids changes a lot, and if it's really important to you maybe he'll reconsider.
I would bring it up and discuss with your DH.
NO WAY would I ever "accidentally" get KU. That is deceptive! Not a good foundation for a family. I am 100% honest with my DH and expect the same from him.
The worst he can say is no. And he might surprise you. I think having kids changes a lot, and if it's really important to you maybe he'll reconsider. It's not unheard of for people to change their mind.
yeah - i thought that an accident would be a bad idea - thanks for reaffirm that! haha.
i wonder if you are right about the birthday, maybe i should wait a few months and see if i still feel the same way.
Like everybody else already said, whatever you do, DO NOT accidently get pregnant.
Talk to your husband. See what he thinks.
And be prepared to only have one child.
First, ditto everyone else that accidentally getting pg is horrible and deceitful.
Tell him how you are feeling, but don't pressure him or make him feel guilty. You are the one with thoughts of changing the plans. IMO when a couple doesn't agree, status quo wins. sorry.
Our Angel Boy- m/c in 2007 @ 9wks due to Trisomy 17
I would just talk to your DH. At least see how he feels about it. DH step-mom was in the exact same position. They'd had one, he was almost 50, but she wanted another one and he was fine with it. You never know, he might want another baby too.
I would NOT get pregnant without telling him! That would be dishonest, and if he was miserable or resented the kid you'd be to blame.
Good god, I hope you're kidding about accidentally getting pregnant. How would you feel if he "accidentally" got a vasectomy?
Of course bring it up to your husband. Maybe he will reconsider. But if he really is done, you need to respect that.
uh, I think you should just talk to him. Yikes.
You came here 3 hrs after your initial response to say this to her? She already said above she knew it was a bad idea.
yes, i completley agree accident is a bad idea ...
ok, so i think we should have al ong talk. we are going away on vacation next week, and maybe that will be a good time to talk.
I have a friend. She is 30 and he is 47, who agreed to one and then changed her mind and wanted two. She sold him on the second by explaining how important it was for kids to have siblings.
Good luck to you. I convinced my H to have two the easy way.