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just a vent.
Oh man. After being on the nest/bump this long, I knew the stories of how people treat you when you are pregnant were going to come true, but it's still weird.
How do I nicely deal with people without telling them I feel like they act as though I am some sort of weird carnival attraction?! lol.
Saw MIL for the first time since I became pregnant, and she would not stop looking at me. We'd just be watching TV, I'd glance over, and she's looking. ALL the time! I finally stopped making eye contact by the end of the weekend. She just...I don't even know. It's like she was waiting for something to happen, I have no idea what-I'm only 18 weeks. She made me feel so self conscious and it really bothered me. (Besides the fact fact she and a friend touched me without asking and 'talked' to him. I am not a fan. at. all. It was so weird.)
I told my BFF this, and her response was her mom hated the touching too, but she would still do it to me at least once because 'she's his godmother'. Um, what?
Thank goodness DH gets it, he looked at me when I was getting really tired of it all and said "I know you're still Lauren." THANK YOU. I'm glad someone gets that I am , in fact, still myself.
Sigh. Besides all that, given my increasing aches/pains, I am seriously thinking we are not going back to MIL's for Thanksgiving. (I'd be 32 weeks, it's in FL.) I don't want to do this again when I am that far along. It was uncomfortable enough now, it won't be easy then.
I know this post is so long. I just needed to get it out. I know it only gets worse from here, lol. I feel so mean saying it, but I am so glad no one close to us in right here in town...I think that would make me crazy.
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Re: just a vent.
Vent away! I understand exactly what you mean. It's like when you are pregnant people just treat you like you are a vessel. They seem to forget you are a person who has feelings and wishes and wants. They have total disregard for it. And then when the baby is born all you hear is you are "insert name's" mother...um yes we are a mother but we are also still a person. That's something that I have been struggling with...I want people to understand that yes I am a mother and it's my first priority but I am also still a person, still me...and that hasn't changed.
Hang in there and I am glad your DH is completely understanding!
lol, well to be fair-my parents have been the total opposite-totally laid back and not annoying at all. The odd thing is that my mom is usually high strung and MIL is usually laid back. Go figure. They have switched places!
And I just started showing a couple weeks ago-I think that's why the touching has started. So at 9 weeks, you may have a better experience!
Enjoy it, because after the baby gets here, you get zero attention anymore. It's ALL baby.
And I'm probably really weird, or maybe it's an IF thing, but I would seriously love love love a baby in my belly and people rubbing it or staring at it. But it's probably a grass is greener thing. If someone told me that if I gave up a kidney or a limb, I would definitely get pregnant, I would do it. A little belly rub/staring doesn't seem like it would be too bad!