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Isn't it interesting?

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Isn't it interesting that you feel like you can share so much about yourself here, when you can't bring yourself to talk about some of this with your best friend, or the person you see at work every day? 

 I was reading a post and sobbing when DH asked me what I was doing.  I don't think he really approves of my nesting because he knows I still get so emotional.  It has been 11 months.  I have always been a weepy person, and while it has gotten better since last November, I am still a mess when it comes to babies.  

 I think part of why I still come to this board is because it reminds you to be grateful for what you do have - maybe that is another child, but maybe it is your DH and your sweet little dog (that's what applies to me). . I hope to sometime leave this board behind for good - no offense to anyone - but I am not there, yet. 

Thank you to everyone for sharing your stories and your fears.  It is so strange to have a network of people who you realize would understand you so much more than everyone in your own little physical world. 

 Also, if you read this far, please say a little prayer for my friend mrs. m who had her second mc in the last few weeks and is having a very difficult time. 

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  • sutherlandjnsutherlandjn member

    It is nice to have this group of ladies to turn to. I feel like the couple friends I told really don't understand or are completely tiptoeing around me and I don't like either. The only person in my life I really feel I can turn to is my mom because she had 4 miscarriages in the past. She's really the only one who I can talk to and not feel pity, just sympathy.

    I hope your friend can find some peace and I wish her healing during this horribly difficult time. 

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  • nancyandnatenancyandnate

    I completely understand what you are saying and am so grateful to have all the loss boards. ?You are all incredible women! ?I don't know how I would have made it through this last year without you.

    Thinking of mrs. m. ?The second one was the hardest for me.?

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  • mp1648mp1648

    Mrs. W,

    This is an amazing place.  I should be getting ready for my job right now - I am an attorney in a big firm and I have to put on a suit and a sunny, ultra professional face.  It is really hard - it feels like I have to pretend none of this happened and it is almost like I am a different person there.  It is exhausting and I guess that is why I am sitting here connecting with all of you before I have to go to work.  Some of my co-workers know and they look at me like I am some sort of damaged puppy - I just want them to treat me normally because when they look at me with such pity, I just want to cry. 

    Thanks to all the women on this board and I will send good thoughts to Mrs. M.

     Lisa

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  • honeybeeehoneybeee

    I agree with the previous posters, that some friends just have no clue.  I have a friend who is 5 weeks behind where I would have been if I was still pg.  I was talking to her about how my sister sent us a nice card and she said "oh....was I supposed to send a card?"  She just hasn't been comforting at all and it is hard to be around her.

    Then again, I have three girlfriends who have really stepped up to the plate.  Two have had m/c's in the past and 1 took a year and a half to get pg with her first, so it helps that they can all relate.

     But sometimes it is nice to just get away to this board and the TTCAL board and be around other women who really get where you are at this moment in your life.

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  • doyous&idosdoyous&idos
    I really don't think people get it until they are in our shoes. I would never ever wish this on someone, but at the same time, the level of support I have gotten from ladies on the nest is unreal and was so helpful. I would have been lost without BOTB and PL. I am excited to move forward to TTCAL and someday SAL!
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  • samm1983samm1983 member
    Yes. This is a great place.  My DH doesn't always like me nesting and want me to think about other things, but I like to be able to support other women through this pain and get the support I need from people who understand.
    7 mm/c
    APS, hetero factor v leiden & MTHFR
    bfp #1 - 12.11.07, edd 8.14.08, mm/c 1.21.08 (10w4d)
    bfp #2 - 4.4.08, edd 12.3.08, mm/c 5.14.08 (11w)
    bfp #3 - 8.3.08, edd 4.15.09, mm/c 9.17.08 (10w)
    bfp #4 - 1.15.09, edd 9.26.09, mm/c 2.16.09 (8w2d)
    bfp #5 - 6.16.09, edd 2.25.10, mm/c 7.23.09 (9w)
    bfp #6 - 8.12.10, edd 4.27.11, mm/c 9.16.10 (8w1d)
    one more try -> bfp #7 - 2.11, our miracle baby boy arrived 10.11
    ttc again -> bfp #8 - 5.3.13, edd 1.13.14, mm/c 5.30.13 (7w3d)
    bfp #9 - 9.23.13, our miracle baby girl arrived 5.29.14

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