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Discipline issue for moms of DC's 20+ months

Kentuckychick_8201Kentuckychick_8201
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What do you do when your DC won't obey? DD doesn't listen to the word no and she is getting so sassy.  She is just over 21 months old and she is  very smart. She can talk in small sentences and knows her colors, recognizes objects and pictures, knows a little bit of counting etc.. so I know she is  more than old enough to understand what no means.  But she is really testing the limits lately.  Do any of you use the time out thing? I have read that if you use time out for just a few minutes (like putting them in the high chair or a special chair, tell them what they did wrong and that they are being punished) that it will eventually set in as long as you stick with it.  I am thinking of trying that, smacking her hand and or saying NO firmly is totally wasted with her.  I will say that she has been through a lot her dad and I seperated in Feb and divorced in May so she goes back and forth a lot.  However taking that into consideration and the fact that shes entering the terrible 2 phase I still think trying time out is worth a shot.  Anybody have any advice or opinons?
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Re: Discipline issue for moms of DC's 20+ months

  • swgirlswgirl
    We are struggling with this too.  DD is 20 months, and can have a full conversation with us, so I know she "gets it," but she is still defiant.  I have not had a lot of success with timeout yet.  But maybe I haven't been implementing it properly.  I don't know.  Discipline is for sure one of the more challenging pieces of parenting.  Trying to reason with an almost two year old sure doesn't work, I can tell you that! 
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  • StellasmomStellasmom member

    Ds is almost 21 months and is learning how to be defiant. We just don't let him win. If that means pushing him away from the dishwasher 35 times while I'm loading it, then that's what I do.

    I public situations where we need more immediate obedience, we will take him outside for a timeout.

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    I've heard time out can be effective starting as young as 18m (though some recommend starting older). It's worth a try at your DD's age. The rule is one minute per year of age.
    fraternal twin boys born january 2009
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  • LuciHendoLuciHendo
    We started using timeout a few months ago when DS started hitting me.  We would sit him in front of a door (I didn't want to use his highchair or crib because I didn't want him to associate those things with timeout), tell him he is in timeout and put him back each time he got up or crawled away.  After a few timeouts he got the idea that he had to stay put until I came to get him.  He stays in timeout now for the most part, granted he is usually screaming and flipping out when I sit him down, but he eventually calms down by the end of the minute and behaves afterward.  I will usually give him a warning that he will get a timeout if he repeats the behavior.  I think it's important to stay calm, give them a warning, and then follow through with it.  And after his timeout, I tell DS why he was in timeout and remind him not to do it again, and then I give him a hug and kiss and tell him I love him.  It's worked well for us so far.  Good luck! 
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  • Lavender444Lavender444

    We use Time outs too. I give a warning (say No) first. The second time it's a 2 minute time out. I set her in a chair in her room, tell her what behavior got her there and walk out and stand outside the door, with it cracked, until times up. Then I go back in, tell her again, "We don't hit. That's not nice and it hurts. Please tell Momma, sorry." She usually says, "sorry" and I give her a hug then we go about our merry way.

     

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