help me please

abpdjs · August 2010

Carson is a well behaved kid and a typical boy.

he never spits

well he hates having his teeth brushed (i have tried every trick in the book) sometimes he is good about it but most times it's a struggle. well tonight for the first time ever he spit straight in my face while trying to brush his teeth.

i immediatly stopped took the toy he was holding away and put him in timeout for 3 minutes. he cried and sat there the whole time. then i explained to him why he was in timeout (he tells me why when I ask him why mommy put him there) he knows he did a bad thing. i explained how that was a bad choice and mommy is going to finish brushing teeth. i then told him he was going to straight to bed with no book b/c of his choice.

he has never gone to bed like this. he has always gone to bed with two books and us rocking /singing and then off to bed..it's always been a happy thing. this is the first time this has happened and i felt like i had to drive home how wrong his choice was. he is crying and losing it for daddy right now.

my heart is breaking right now for having to end the night like this but on the other hand i know i am doing the right thing. he needs to understand that i will not tolerate this .........ever.

so, i told dh i will help him through it, wwyd? just let him cry until he passes out or go back in after 10 mins and lay him back down and try to calm him but not take him out of the crib.........

signed a distraught mother.

Halo79RN · August 2010

I probably would have stopped with the timeout... or just sent him to bed sans storytime. unless he was a sass when talking to him about why he was in timeout... then I'd do both.

I'd give him some time, then if still freaking out , I'd go in, just say goodnight, kiss... and leave. You said no books... so no books. but I wouldn't leave him to cry for a 1/2 hr or anything.

hang in there. sometimes discipline hurts mommy... but remember you're giving him the tools to be a good person by not allowing him to walk all over you (or spit at you).

abpdjs · August 2010

he did not sass me, he said he was sorry and gave me a hug.

my issue was - to me spitting as a major no. he has gotten timeout and only timeout for hitting and he doesn't really hit. maybe b/c i was so shocked. i just felt like he needed to know to NEVER do that again.

i did go back in and tell him it's time for bed and patted him for a few secs and he did stop crying.

thanks

momofolivia · August 2010

i think it is like everything else - he does something to see the reaction. I would have stopped at the TO too, but obviously it is a hot button. I think it is good that you went back to him. He just doesn't know how bad it is - maybe he saw someone do it at school.

sorry you had to deal with this. but like you said - he is a good boy and he is just testing new things out. that includes the bad things too.

roseroseroseroserose · August 2010

((((hugs)))) sorry it's been a sad night.

PaigeC1981 · August 2010

I too would have stopped at time out. As far as letting him cry it out, I have never been able to do that. Hopefully your little man learned his lesson.

kiwi0427 · August 2010

I think what you did was good esp. that you went back in and soothed it over so he could sleep.

abpdjs · August 2010

thanks ladies for all your opinions, i appreciate it!

i did like going back in to soothe him......made us both feel better Big Smile

kiwi0427 · August 2010

oh, I forgot to tell you. Earlier Taylor said she liked Carson when she saw his picture. She wants to play & go shopping with him. LOL (Also, this is kada626/I'm under my old knot name)

abpdjs · August 2010

kiwi0427:
oh, I forgot to tell you. Earlier Taylor said she liked Carson when she saw his picture. She wants to play & go shopping with him. LOL (Also, this is kada626/I'm under my old knot name)

awe, i love it that is precious!

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