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Before I moved up to Alaska, DH had just bought a house. MIL knew I was moving in so 1 week before I arrived she came and bought all the furniture, art, and other decorating things and decorated the house the way she wanted to. There are pictures of DH's family on every possible surface and even on the bathroom wall. If I change something she changes it back when she visits. Well, I decided since the nursery would be the first thing I would get to decorate all on my own we'd get an entire matching set for baby. MIL was curious what I was thinking of getting so I sent her a link to a new inbox set listed on craigslist. She informed me all I needed was the crib since there were already 2 dressers in the room. The bedroom set is brand new and very nice, but one is a 6 drawer stand up and the other is a huge, long dresser with a gigantic mirror. I told her we would be moving the set downstairs to the other guest room in October when a friend of ours who has been renting the room is moving out. She's throwing a fit. Called DH at work and tried to tell him I was being wasteful and spending all HIS money (Un no sweetie, we have seperate accounts just for this reason).

I'm getting the dang set and she can just sit there and pout!!!

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  • MichelleL1118MichelleL1118 member

    You're a lot nicer than me.  If my MIL came and decorated my house (whether I lived there yet or not) and I didn't like it, *all* the stuff would be sitting in storage so I could decorate the house the way I/we wanted it.  And she wouldn't have access to the storage facility to change it back!  

    I really, really hope your DH backs you up on this, and tells her to mind her own business! 

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    Aren't you married?  Sounds crazy to me.  
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  • wmramselwmramsel
    I'd be pissed if someone came in a decorated my house for me....
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  • sandylousandylou member
    WTF that's kind of nuts!! Your H better tell her to back off!
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  • dancamdancam
    If you are married then your husband's money is your money to spend on the baby.  I'm sure he can speak up on his own if he feels that you are spending too much money and doesn't need his mom to do it for him.  I would tell her off and blame it on the pregnancy hormones.  That would make me extremely mad!!  I too hope your  husband backs you up on all of this.  I wish you luck!
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  • MrsYamMrsYam member

    imagewmramsel:
    I'd be pissed if someone came in a decorated my house for me....

    Ditto. 

    No way!

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  • broccolitreebroccolitree
    Well, now you've learned your lesson to not accept favors from your MIL.  Silver lining!
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  • alisonjoy80alisonjoy80
    imagemidnight*sun:

    Before I moved up to Alaska, DH had just bought a house. MIL knew I was moving in so 1 week before I arrived she came and bought all the furniture, art, and other decorating things and decorated the house the way she wanted to. There are pictures of DH's family on every possible surface and even on the bathroom wall. If I change something she changes it back when she visits. Well, I decided since the nursery would be the first thing I would get to decorate all on my own we'd get an entire matching set for baby. MIL was curious what I was thinking of getting so I sent her a link to a new inbox set listed on craigslist. She informed me all I needed was the crib since there were already 2 dressers in the room. The bedroom set is brand new and very nice, but one is a 6 drawer stand up and the other is a huge, long dresser with a gigantic mirror. I told her we would be moving the set downstairs to the other guest room in October when a friend of ours who has been renting the room is moving out. She's throwing a fit. Called DH at work and tried to tell him I was being wasteful and spending all HIS money (Un no sweetie, we have seperate accounts just for this reason).

    I'm getting the dang set and she can just sit there and pout!!!

    Your DH bought the house. He is married to you, not her. She needs to back off and stick to decorating her own house.

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  • IslamoradaBride09IslamoradaBride09 member
    imagealisonjoy80:

    Your DH bought the house. He is married to you, not her. She needs to back off and stick to decorating her own house.

    Preach it, sister. It's one thing to collaborate on decorating together (my mom and I work well together in this way) but something completely different to have someone who is not in your marriage trying to control your living space. It would drive me up the wall! I would put anything you don't like/want in storage and decorate how you and DH like. 

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  • hjk5000hjk5000 member

    imagewmramsel:
    I'd be pissed if someone came in a decorated my house for me....

    this.  Your MIL is nuts.

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  • krista613krista613
    imagehjk5000:

    imagewmramsel:
    I'd be pissed if someone came in a decorated my house for me....

    this.  Your MIL is nuts.

    agree.

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  • hot_tamalehot_tamale member
    Yikes, and I thought my MIL was crazy. I wouldn't give her anymore more information at this point. After that outburst, she would be cut off. She can't react to what she doesn't know. 
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  • stbmittlemanstbmittleman member
    Man, your MIL is a real peach. She needs to get a life. If I were you, I would hire someone to deliver the dressers in front of her house and tell her where she could shove them.
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  • KeyRyn320KeyRyn320 member

    imagestbmittleman:
    Man, your MIL is a real peach. She needs to get a life. If I were you, I would hire someone to deliver the dressers in front of her house and tell her where she could shove them.

    Hahahaha I LOVE this answer!

    And if your DH doesn't back you up, you can send him over there with all the furniture and a note saying "He's all yours again!"

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  • DaniGirl0517DaniGirl0517 member
    Oh sweetie!  Sheesh, you have one of those too huh?  I truly hope DH supports you in this, she needs to back the F off and stick to decorating her own home.  It's not even like this was a home that she and your FIL lived in and DH took over, it had nothing to do with her and it's ridiculous that she thinks she has any claim to the decorations.  If she thought she was helping before you got there so it would be more welcoming then that's fine, but changing things when she visits and dictating how it should stay is NOT fine.  Many many hugs coming your way babe!  I suppose leave her out of any planning as much as possible and hide all the things you remove from where she put them so she can't put them back haha.
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